I don't think we chose our boyfriend's over our friends. I think our friends just feel that way because they no longer have all your attention. I think most people will agree our ultimate goal in life is to find a life partner to mate with. It doesn't mean we don't still love our friends. And once they get a boyfriend they will understand. You have to learn to spend time with both of them and they got to learn to share.
Well I would hope that she comes to her senses and understand that just because you get in a relationship doesn't mean you leave behind everything you had before. It's healthy to have friends and your own things you like to do such as a girl nights while in a relationship. And if she doesn't come around then she was never a real friend. Some girls especially at a young age get infatuated with their boyfriend's and think they have to change what they like to what their boyfriend likes. But they soon see how that will backfire because what their boyfriend's liked about them in the first place was their individualism.
Sometimes it's because she only sees herself as a whole or a better person when in a relationship and so she lets that dictate her (not always the case) also could be from learned behavior from either culture or just family (do the rest of the females In her household/family act that way?) Reason differs from each person... you just have to decide if she is worth waiting for as a friend either way you should prob try to talk with her about feeling neglected/ignored if that's how u feel
Both guys and girls tend to monopolize the time of their partner. One potential reason (obviously every person and every situation is different) is that aside from wanting to spend time with them because you like them, subconsciously you know that they can't be cheating or doing whatever other thing that sparks jealousy if they're with you.
Some people don't know how to balance friendship, relationships and family time. They spend more time with their boyfriend but don't even realize they don't with their family and friends as much anymore. It's nice to keep in touch with friends once in a while even though they have a boyfriend..
Reasons may vary.. but in long term relationship.. that's the person that you're building your life with. It doesn't mean friends don't have a place in it. It's two totally different relationships.. both valuable. There's only so much time a person can give. So you try your best.. I'm not sure if that makes sense but I'm sticking with it.
Not all girls do that. But those who do, they are idiots. Because they don't know what real friendship is... propably don't even have real friends, cause let's face it: true friends would never ever even consider breaking their friendship for anything! No matter what. Would you put your boyfriend over your mother or father? Your siblings? Your family? Of course not. Friends are family too. People who betray their family are the absolute worst in my opinion. People who don't know how to treat family right won't ever create a good family with their oh so 'beloved'.
I can honestly say I've never done that... My friends have it it honestly hurts my feelings but I also view things different. I think a friendship is more important than a relationship because a guy always leaves unless he actually the one and a friend doesn't if they are a true friend. I think it's so rude when a friend does that.
This is going to sound bad: but not all friends stay friends forever. Your partner, for most people, is someone you're intending to have a future with, especially when you get older. Your lover is supposed to be one of the people who come first in your life. In my experience a lot of friends end up being temporary or just as willing to put you side for something they want more, so more often than not I will prioritize my man over my friends.
I've always tried to balance but I've also found the friends distance themselves from you because they think you're bound to chance now you're committed. People get jealous when they're no longer the one getting all the attention that goes for the boyfriend/girlfriend and the friends Not everyone can find the balance
Most people feel like significant others are the main priority in their life and let's be honest, it's because they're getting laid. The thing is relationships don't always last, so those people who choose their boyfriends or girlfriends over friends are making a mistake which most will later regret
Whenever I was falling in love with a woman and she called it didn't matter what I was doing. The reason is I married her, she gave birth to my only child, my daughter who in return is making me a grandpa next month. November 11th is the due date and think... what if I didn't choose my ex-future wife over my friends? I wouldn't be like a child who cannot sleep in anticipation the night before Christmas! I can't wait to be a grandpa!
Simple they have to get to know each other just like you two did. You do the same thing also you might not notice yourself doing it. But if he hitting on your ass 6 or 8 months down the line and you tell her and she choose him over you then she a dumb bitch. But you hitting on him and you tell her and she break up with him the you the problem not thrm
Good question - I think some in both genders can be guilty and on the flip side they are those who seem to put friends above partners - The point that I am trying to make is that you will not know unless you talk fully with your friends or partner then try to develop a balance, maybe do a social activity that both friends and partners can do where they can get to know each other, try not to make it a competition for someone's attention.
I don't know if it's a girl thing but i think girls like thaat don't see it as friend or boyfriend but rather as a chance with long life relationship and love and people who she thinks will always be there for her so of xourse she will try the chance at love
Obviously because you date with the end goal to make a life with your boyfriend who would become your husband and who you would spend the rest of your life with. Or at least that's the overall goal. You don't do that with "friends" but there is always room for both in your life. One takes priority.
They choose they boyfriend over their friends because they believe they'll be the one that is going to be forever in there life, but u will never no cuz friendship last a lifetime while boyfriends come and go. I say hangout with ur girls cuz a little being apart from ur boyfriend makes the heart wonders.
I never choose guys over frineds one time i liked this guy for 3 years one of my best frineds started liking him she told me i was like ok then he told me ge liked her and i was like oh um ok then he asked her out she said she wouldn't say yes unless i gave permission j eneded up saying she didny need my permission u too like eachother go for it it was awkward for a littke while but a year later they broke up and he started likning me and it all happily but i think girls do it bc the urge of being in a real relationship and u can't help ur feelings espcially if its a really hot guy
It could very well be. It's not that I don't want to hang with my friends. It's just this is factory shine still. Once it needs some windex I'll clean it and although it's again shiny it's not the original luster. I swear it makes sense in my head. I will want to hang out with them too sometimes together. Your her friend support her choice let her enjoy cloud nine.
I'm actually in the situation where I've been choosing my boyfriend over friends, which I know is bad but the reason I do it is bc I love spending time with him and he's become some sort of like my best friend and well, I personally don't like having my boyfriend and my girl friends especially that are single hanging out all in one bc I have had things happen in the past and I just don't trust. But it could also be that my boyfriend and my friends are very different and I don't know how they will enjoy each other's company since they like having fun differently.
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
214Opinion
I don't think we chose our boyfriend's over our friends. I think our friends just feel that way because they no longer have all your attention. I think most people will agree our ultimate goal in life is to find a life partner to mate with. It doesn't mean we don't still love our friends. And once they get a boyfriend they will understand. You have to learn to spend time with both of them and they got to learn to share.
Well I would hope that she comes to her senses and understand that just because you get in a relationship doesn't mean you leave behind everything you had before. It's healthy to have friends and your own things you like to do such as a girl nights while in a relationship. And if she doesn't come around then she was never a real friend. Some girls especially at a young age get infatuated with their boyfriend's and think they have to change what they like to what their boyfriend likes. But they soon see how that will backfire because what their boyfriend's liked about them in the first place was their individualism.
Sometimes it's because she only sees herself as a whole or a better person when in a relationship and so she lets that dictate her (not always the case) also could be from learned behavior from either culture or just family (do the rest of the females In her household/family act that way?) Reason differs from each person... you just have to decide if she is worth waiting for as a friend either way you should prob try to talk with her about feeling neglected/ignored if that's how u feel
Couldn't have said it better
Both guys and girls tend to monopolize the time of their partner. One potential reason (obviously every person and every situation is different) is that aside from wanting to spend time with them because you like them, subconsciously you know that they can't be cheating or doing whatever other thing that sparks jealousy if they're with you.
Some people don't know how to balance friendship, relationships and family time. They spend more time with their boyfriend but don't even realize they don't with their family and friends as much anymore. It's nice to keep in touch with friends once in a while even though they have a boyfriend..
Reasons may vary.. but in long term relationship.. that's the person that you're building your life with. It doesn't mean friends don't have a place in it. It's two totally different relationships.. both valuable. There's only so much time a person can give. So you try your best.. I'm not sure if that makes sense but I'm sticking with it.
Cause real friends will understand and stay...
But Guys come and go easily...
Then its better to have a friend as a boyfriend, No?
I'd rather have a real friend.
Can your real freind become your bf?
Not for me, friend is always be friend..
He is same as your boyfriend in everyway. then why can't he be a boyfriend. whats that one quality which is keeping him to be your boyfriend
Not all girls do that. But those who do, they are idiots. Because they don't know what real friendship is... propably don't even have real friends, cause let's face it: true friends would never ever even consider breaking their friendship for anything! No matter what. Would you put your boyfriend over your mother or father? Your siblings? Your family? Of course not. Friends are family too. People who betray their family are the absolute worst in my opinion. People who don't know how to treat family right won't ever create a good family with their oh so 'beloved'.
Totally agree 👍👍
I can honestly say I've never done that... My friends have it it honestly hurts my feelings but I also view things different. I think a friendship is more important than a relationship because a guy always leaves unless he actually the one and a friend doesn't if they are a true friend. I think it's so rude when a friend does that.
This is going to sound bad: but not all friends stay friends forever. Your partner, for most people, is someone you're intending to have a future with, especially when you get older. Your lover is supposed to be one of the people who come first in your life. In my experience a lot of friends end up being temporary or just as willing to put you side for something they want more, so more often than not I will prioritize my man over my friends.
I've always tried to balance but I've also found the friends distance themselves from you because they think you're bound to chance now you're committed. People get jealous when they're no longer the one getting all the attention that goes for the boyfriend/girlfriend and the friends
Not everyone can find the balance
Most people feel like significant others are the main priority in their life and let's be honest, it's because they're getting laid. The thing is relationships don't always last, so those people who choose their boyfriends or girlfriends over friends are making a mistake which most will later regret
Whenever I was falling in love with a woman and she called it didn't matter what I was doing. The reason is I married her, she gave birth to my only child, my daughter who in return is making me a grandpa next month. November 11th is the due date and think... what if I didn't choose my ex-future wife over my friends? I wouldn't be like a child who cannot sleep in anticipation the night before Christmas! I can't wait to be a grandpa!
Simple they have to get to know each other just like you two did. You do the same thing also you might not notice yourself doing it. But if he hitting on your ass 6 or 8 months down the line and you tell her and she choose him over you then she a dumb bitch. But you hitting on him and you tell her and she break up with him the you the problem not thrm
Good question - I think some in both genders can be guilty and on the flip side they are those who seem to put friends above partners - The point that I am trying to make is that you will not know unless you talk fully with your friends or partner then try to develop a balance, maybe do a social activity that both friends and partners can do where they can get to know each other, try not to make it a competition for someone's attention.
I don't know if it's a girl thing but i think girls like thaat don't see it as friend or boyfriend but rather as a chance with long life relationship and love and people who she thinks will always be there for her so of xourse she will try the chance at love
Obviously because you date with the end goal to make a life with your boyfriend who would become your husband and who you would spend the rest of your life with. Or at least that's the overall goal. You don't do that with "friends" but there is always room for both in your life. One takes priority.
They choose they boyfriend over their friends because they believe they'll be the one that is going to be forever in there life, but u will never no cuz friendship last a lifetime while boyfriends come and go. I say hangout with ur girls cuz a little being apart from ur boyfriend makes the heart wonders.
I never choose guys over frineds one time i liked this guy for 3 years one of my best frineds started liking him she told me i was like ok then he told me ge liked her and i was like oh um ok then he asked her out she said she wouldn't say yes unless i gave permission j eneded up saying she didny need my permission u too like eachother go for it it was awkward for a littke while but a year later they broke up and he started likning me and it all happily but i think girls do it bc the urge of being in a real relationship and u can't help ur feelings espcially if its a really hot guy
It could very well be. It's not that I don't want to hang with my friends. It's just this is factory shine still. Once it needs some windex I'll clean it and although it's again shiny it's not the original luster. I swear it makes sense in my head. I will want to hang out with them too sometimes together. Your her friend support her choice let her enjoy cloud nine.
I'm actually in the situation where I've been choosing my boyfriend over friends, which I know is bad but the reason I do it is bc I love spending time with him and he's become some sort of like my best friend and well, I personally don't like having my boyfriend and my girl friends especially that are single hanging out all in one bc I have had things happen in the past and I just don't trust. But it could also be that my boyfriend and my friends are very different and I don't know how they will enjoy each other's company since they like having fun differently.