Why do girls choose their boyfriends over friends? (Page 3)

[EmilyRubio]

The patriarchy tells us from birth that we must always put men first. And that getting a husband has to be our #1 priority

[DylanKY]

Fuck the patriachy! Whhuuueee '' flops tits out ''

[CameronStark]

This is ridiculous. Female behavior is so innate - it really has nothing to do with how society says it should be. Girls are born doing things the way they do them.

[Motocrossmam]

Boyfriends should be best friends. Give your best friends a chance. I understand wanting to preserve a friendship but take the chance if you understand eachother

[Manuel2]

When your young and it's about sex , marriage and babies. Friends on either side get in the way.
You are sixteen and even when your hormones want sex, you find it hard to say no.
Have you not got a boyfriend?

[Nina12345]

Because I love spending time with my boo, problem bitches?

[red_knight]

My ex chose her friends over the relationship, after the break up her friends ditched her lol, guess who I got a text from lol

[ASLC14]

Lmao I'm sorry but your ex... I was laughing while reading that

[red_knight]

@ASLC14 What goes around comes around :karma

[ASLC14]

Yep, true. She sort of deserved it it seems like

[red_knight]

@ASLC14 did you choose someone over the other?

[ASLC14]

Um not really lol not in the way she did. Though, I was never really put in the position where I felt it necessary. I would probably choose my boyfriend over most (not all) of my friends, though.

[red_knight]

@ASLC14 there should be balance don't you think?

[ASLC14]

Yes. I think someone should not just outright choose the person they are dating over everyone else and they should not choose their friends over the person they are dating all of the time, either. It has to have balance

[vaperchickpolka]

Love always comes first and people just want a happy love :)

[rihannanavy]

They feel like you'll always be around so they chose him/her

[Dyedhalo1]

Yes!

[PasticheGrizzly]

This is what makes us girl, we don't stick together cause we're putting love first.

[JakeTheCultist]

Because she loves her boyfriend? I think it's good for partners to choose each other over their friends.

[jumpingbeans]

in the past, my friends complained that I do that, now they all married except me.

[butterbkilled925]

My friend does that. She isn’t allowed to hang with me too much or he will get mad.

[DeUsFp]

That's a shitty thing to do, and you can't even tell her that it's shitty.

[butterbkilled925]

I did. And she got angry because she says she loves him.

[DeUsFp]

That's stupid.

[butterbkilled925]

I know. But I still want her in my life so I will respect her wishes

[DeUsFp]

You clearly have a crush on her, if I were her boyfriend I'd probably keep you 2 apart aswell. (After reading your other posts. )

[butterbkilled925]

A yeah. She knows because I told her. That’s why I flirt with her

[bwinbig_87]

A significant other comes first. Not that anyone really cares about that anymore. But thats how its suppose to be.

[dragonfly6516]

When you're middle-aged married, sure. But not when you're still young and haven't really found yourself yet. At a younger age, there should be a balance. OP is a 16 year old girl, likely in high school.

[bwinbig_87]

Well true.

[yko95]

Friends aren’t always forever but with a SO you want it to work out in the long run

[LanceWynter]

Its a number of reasons but usually physical attraction plays a big part and maybe there's something that they connect with that y'all don't? Maybe its the thrill of adventure!

[OwlCityKat]

My sisters friend have a boyfriend and they're really serious (actually talking about marriage) and she even neglects her own family sometimes. Friends.. I don't know I'd yes about that.

[FatherJack]

Quite the reverse , there is a strong inter female gender solidarity that men do not have , female friends are more valued over male partners in most cases.

[aapunpred]

Coupling is the ultimate goal of every person weather they admit it or not.

[q-bar]

You wish mate. Creating a healthy balance between coupling and maintaining friendship is the ultimate goal.

[Paul09]

It's normal to put her boyfriend frist, but if she starts to give you less of her time to no time, that's being a bitch. She must be in a "love" trance. As long as you still get to see her weekly you are fine.

[Dale1982]

Everybody does that. Its just part of life losing pals to their partners.

[Anonymous]

My bestie and I were friends for 20 years. Our friendship broke 1 year ago because she was consacring her time 100% to him.

[courtneyann19]

I just lost my best friend since 1st grade to a 30 year old alcoholic (she's 18) because she can't spend more then a few hours away from him. She goes to work and goes straight back to his place.

[characterJoe]

Here is a question response. Who are you will you potentially spend your life with and start a family with, your girlfriend or your boyfriend?

[MsLoli]

Soul mates are forever, and friends are often impermanent.

[TacosRAwesome]

I think most people want to be in a relationship and hope that eventually the boyfriend becomes family.

[thedancingcookie20]

They're co-dependent, which is really unhealthy. But some guys do it too, not just girls

[TheDarkPegasus]

It all depends whether she actually has friends or not.

[kentlevi]

Because they're in love. That's totally fine and healthy.

[englisc]

They do it because it's natural. The person you live is the person you're

[englisc]

My phone is so annoying sometimes. Anyway, the person you love is the person you're gonna spend the most time with if all works out, especially if you eventually marry and have a family. It's important to have good friends to support you too, but if your relationship is solid your partner will be there for you in ways that they can't. I think the idea that you have to put your friends first over boyfriends/girfriends comes from an assumption that it will eventually fail, which is probably why so many do fuck up.

[AdamED]

A good girlfriend will always put her boyfriend first. A good boyfriend will do a lot more than a friend to his girlfriend so it makes sense to put friends second.

[TheUglyMonk]

My friends are family to me and I can't pick a girl I've been dating for a year over them but if my girlfriend is like my best friend then that would be another story.

[TennisFlo]

Girls feel closer because they might do more in private

[mishka0044]

Because relationships take work and you should focus on that. You need only one or two good friends.

[Caracolito]

She is in love 😍 of course. That also happens to us guys

[Anonymous]

They don't, or at least I don't let mine!
I always enjoy a day or so to myself every now and again with my friends. And she does the same!
It's not healthy to drop all of your friends. Haha

[AlienChickk]

When I'm in a relationship I try to balance the time between my boyfriend and friends.

[jersos1]

Because girls are weird to understand lol. And its a personal thing... so... you can't genealise

[hornymike6969]

cause their boyfriend can give them orgasms friends can’t

[sadgirl011]

that it is true just saying

[Mattjb83]

I wish that was true with my past relationships! She chose me last over almost anyone

[PeytonD]

From biology to sociology, orgasms (or any other reward system for that matter) play a huge role in loyalty. Who do you want to spend more time with, Mr. Feel OK or Mr. FEEL AMAZING? It's not the only thing that matters, but it sure does.

[Now22]

I've always said my best friend comes before my boyfriend

[ImATragedyNow]

I think they should your S. O. should be your priority more then your friends

[Anonymous]

Honestly, a lot of women are shitty to each other, so I get it.

[es20490446e]

Because their behaviours and looks attracts them sexually, and more specifically they don't things that turn them off.

[Kuraj]

Someone who doesn't shouldn't be in a relationship.

[desireee512]

Guess I shouldn't be in one then. That's messed up to just put ur friends to the side. There should be a balance.

[Kuraj]

You are 16, you can still have friends because you have school and not much else to do.
When you grow up and life hits you, you will realize there are more important things to life than friends.
Friends come and go, they will all go on about with their own lives and you will have to start caring about your own.

Your set of friends will change with every change in your life- grade school, high school, college, every change of workplace etc.

For now I guess your relationships aren't really serious anyway, so enjoy your friends while you can.

[desireee512]

Well I'm not an adult sooo obviously it would be different if I had an husband

[desireee512]

But u explained that wel

[mightyunicorn]

Not only girls do that.. Two of my guyfriends always choose their girlfriends over their friends. I think it is because the girl or boyfriend is someone new and exciting.

[Tc1992]

Yup and it sucks because now they think they're waaayyyy to good to hang out with you anymore

[yaons]

For me its like this no matter if they are your lover or just friends they all need attention if they dont give you that just bsck of for a while or be like me and just dissapear

[ThiccAsFucc]

Guys do it too. Most relationships are codependents who are stuck up eachother's asses.

[ceethelovely]

I can’t lie if I’m out with my friends and my dude ask me to come hang with him. Idc where I’m at I’m leaving. But my best friend understands that I may leave when he call because we hardly get to enough time together.

[maloriwaag1]

This is hard. It's like a mentality. You feel the need to treat certain people different ways then others. I personally have pushed friends away during a relationship but they almost always stick around

[dougle1]

Because they want security and woman can be quite bitchy to eachother

[DamnMan]

Because in all reality, a husband and father of children is more important.

[tallyrae]

I did the opposite in my last 5 year relationship. So idkwym.

[Sha84]

their is a stronger emotional bond between lovers than friends no matter how long the friendship

[Tuomas83]

When the girl have found the mister right it does cost girl too much to lose him. Too much broken hearts in near future too much hangovers too much time. Too much fake good guys. Good guys are rare and the girl knows that fact very well.

[NaultD]

Its apart of growing up. There is not enough time for anything anymore.

[Anonymus2017]

Honestly, I've always found it to be the opposite.

Where friends are more important the boyfriends.

[happyness28]

I used to let my girlfriend do what ever she wants because im her friend too there's no owner ship over a person

[nomoreusernames]

Boyfriends and girlfriends are like mega friends. U like/care about them more than ur other friends usually

[rocketpower64]

Odd but correct in a way 😂

[nomoreusernames]

Wouldn't u put a normal friend over like a friendly acquaintance

[nomoreusernames]

Same idea. Tiers

[rocketpower64]

I like your thought process there 😂 it's like being a Pokemon and evolving

[nomoreusernames]

... no

[DaddyDeanMachine]

Honeymoon stage. People tend to like that which is new. Once the feeling of newness wares off you will see them more

[Anonymous]

Because their new and intresting at first. It passes

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend is my best friend so I don't have to choose