When you get a boyfriend or girlfriend, it's because the two of you like eachother. Like, a LOT, usually. So if there's someone you like, almost or to the point of loving them, you're gonna wanna spend your time focused around them. Especially if it's in a new relationship.
Think about it when it comes to family. You love them, but yet there are others you'd rather spend your time with. You wouldn't say you're ditching them.
It sounds like you're kind of younger, too. It seems like those in relationships at a younger age have more difficulty juggling relationships and friends.
The fact that you're male may even have to do with it. Like, she might just be taking precautions to avoid a jealous significant other.
So I'd say try to be patient with your friend. Wait till the new relationship effects wear off, or even confront her and tell her your feelings. She doesn't mean to hurt or annoy you. I'm just assuming she's new to the dating game. She doesn't yet know how to handle it well.
I don't know, and personally I think that it is very unhealthy. take someone who was my friend up until about a year ago for example: she got a boyfriend and now will not talk to anyone aside from him. they sit together under a tree at lunch alone, they sit by themselves next to the digital info tech room during breaks, and they sit in the back corner of the classroom together. Neither of them have any friends any more. if something were to happen to their relationship, then they would have nobody. I certainly wouldn't help out this girl, because she completely cut me out of her life despite the fact that I was the first person to talk to her when she moved here, and one of her only two friends after she'd been here for a while. so why they do it, I have no idea. but I can tell you that it is very unwise and overall stupid.
Because your priorities change. Realistically, once you get into your twenties relationships tend to get more serious. You start subconsciously seeing a future with them, which means more of your time goes to them. I have never 100% ditched my friends but yeah, if it comes down to it my fiancé comes first.
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Because girls crave to be around guys (not like obsessive or needy) it’s natural and normal
But it’s like when you get a new video game that you like and you want to play it as much as you can
When girls get a boyfriend they want to be around him and make sure they are doing everything they can to make it last and to also feel happy
Having a boyfriend makes a girl feel great
She feels wanted. Pretty. Sexy. Like she can get a guy
When a girl gets a real relationship that isn’t all about sex or being used girls are on cloud nine and enjoy it
Friends are not That special I mean you’re used to them they’re old
by the way you really find out how great a relationship is when the new wears off
A friend of mine is committed with a guy for about three years I guess and in these three years, the time that she devoted for me is very very less when compared to him. She'd be online but she wouldn't be texting me. She would be talking with her boyfriend and that pisses me off. But she speaks with me whenever he's offline or sleeping.
I honestly don't know why girls do that but I will never do that if I ever get in a relationship.
I don’t do the last part but I cannot focus my mind on more than one person. So if I’m dating someone my people-attention fuel goes to that person. Maybe it’s my ADD or something but honestly I haven’t been able to talk to my friends in a while one on one like we used to. Life just gets in the way for them and i get into my significant other so it’s hard to plan
Because most girls these days revolve their world around their boyfriends. When they don't have one they're pretty normal, but as soon as they get one no one else matters to them until something goes wrong
this happened and i did this a lot with my first boyfriend. he made me happy and i fell in love with him and i didn't understand that he was temporary while my friends were not. luckily i came to my senses and stopped doing this before i really truly lost any of my friendships.
I've never dumped my friends but I have spent less time with them when I got a boyfriend cuz obviously you have to spend time with him to develope the relationship. And I find that some friends have a hard time understanding that until they get a boyfriend or girlfriend. You gotta make time for both and everyone has to be understanding about sharing your time.
Lots of young girls scared that their boyfriend will find another girl if they are not with their boyfriend. They also are scared boyfriend will get mad if they want to spend time with friends. Young girls are insecure or like to control their boyfriend time lots. Seen it lots with my friends. Most of my friends end up getting dumped cuz they smother the guy and are clingy.
They feel like they now have a responsibility to care for and get to know their boyfriend. They don't want their friends being the third wheel, and now that they have a boyfriend, they feel like they have a new best friend.
They are in the honeymoon phase.
Eventually they come to their sense but usually it’s best if the friends point it out to her nicely and they talk it through.
Some girls are guy crazy and revolve their lives around it. A friendship between me snd my ex best friend got ruined that way. She changed everything for that one guy
Because we don't want friends, or yeah we want them but only to not be lonely. What we guinuily want is a boyfriend who will also be are best friend. 2 in one.
This happens to people in high school, college... It changes after that. People are able to balance their lives better as they mature. Generally.
Men do it too. Sex changes people. Of course they don't want to be alone so when it falls to shit they come back.
Maybe they dont intentionally 'ditch' their friends. If you have someone special in your live, it's a common sense that your live revolve around them. So it might be less time for her friends. But i think they have to understand that.
I don’t do that. My friends came before the relationship.
I’ve never understood it either, tbh... I think they just want to devote all their time to the relationship... but I can’t say for sure (never actually been in one myself...)
Because that's the right thing to do and well tbh the guys will start complaining if the girl talks to her friends all day or all weekend and well to avoid all that some girls just cut their friends off all together...
When you get a boyfriend, you’ll have to pay attention to your boyfriend.. how could you not?
Because they're fucking bitches
Cuz they spend there time with there boyfriend duh
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