Have you ever cut off or ended friendships? Why? And how’d you end it?

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melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

A few haha
Uhm I won't count small friendships but my three bigger friendship breakups:

Nr. 1: friend of 13 years. My reasoning her multiple mental health issues and me not being able to deal with that anymore.
How? I honestly kinda ghosted her. I'm not proud of that and still after 8 years have so much guilt but I didn't know better back then.

Nr. 2: friend of 8 years. I ended it cause I got annoyed cause of her insecurity, that also started to come into our friendship.
We had a big argument, at some point I had enough explaining the same thing over and over again and just told her to leave and grow up. She never answered me again.

Nr. 3: After 15 years I finally realized and saw what everyone else was saying for years, her being toxic. 2 years break and 1 yr of trying again and I finally left for good. I told her that I can't be the friend that she wants me to be and that it's better if we part ways and she told me how bad of a person I am, what an awful role model for my little sister and that I'm just doing that to punish her (for whatever reason?). I just said Okay, wish you all the best. Thankfully haven't heard from her again.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

I haven't but I have been cut off by friends. Mostly over a guy 🙄

Leapfrog00 · Accepted Answer

I screwed up a friendship on purpose once. I had a friend that only called me and hung out with me if it benefitted her. Rides to places, sometimes she needed money, and sometimes sex. Some guys would jump on sex, but I just felt used.
Finally, one day, it was the last straw. She would talk about me to other people, which I didn't really care, but this one particular day, she was showing people my text messages.
She and I both had this friend named Courtney, who was gossiped all the time.

Basically, I told the two friends I was tired of them talking about each other and dragging me into their gossip web of deceit. I said the magic words, "Talking about each other."
They both went crazy. "She's talking about me? Oh my God! Blah, blah, blah,:

Friends talk about each other, yes. Fake friends talk about each other, throw a fit, and insult each other, but true friends talk about each other, fight, and forgive one another.

Honestly, I just wanted out of the two friendships and didn't know any other way, because people can't take a hint! lol

DopeTurtle · Accepted Answer

Yeah I did here and there. The main reasons why would be because they’re bringing too much negativity that outweighs the positivity in my life. I’d try to state my opinion and see if I can help them move away from the negativity but I can’t help people who don’t want to help themselves.

I usually tell them “ you’re doing the most and I can’t be around that BS” and I would immediately start to pull away. It’s never easy and some of them were harder than others but in the end I don’t regret them.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

In Highschool we had a large group of friends. One night lets say, John, called and asked if I wanted to see a movie. I said sure & asked who was going. John said myself and Vanessa who was dating our other friend Jamie and that was it.

I figured Jamie was working so the three of us went. I remember thinking it was strange that John drove me home first when Vanessa lived right near the theatre.

Few days later I find out Jamie and Vanessa split. John committed a robbery. That also split our friend group. I hung out with both however I began to realize John was a sneaky piece of shit. He would talk shit about whoever wasn’t there & would say he was coming then ditch you

So I began dating a girl & one day she informs me that my friend John called & wanted to go out. She said he was a creeper and told him off. I confronted him at school & that was the last time we spoke. I went off with the group who felt the same while John & co. went elsewhere.

Many years later my son was going to his friends house. I take him and its one of my former friends who followed John. We began reconnecting & he mentioned still hanging out with the douchebag.

Year later I drive my son over and there's a for sale sign on their house. I ask whats up he informs me his wife cheated on him with John. I explain all the times he kept asking why I bailed on him THATS WHY. I was like you didn’t know this about him? He actually said “I wish you had said something.” 😑

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I have, several times. I have always just said it straight to their face (s). "I have no interest in associating with you anymore, here are the reasons why."

If you have gotten me to the point that I feel like I need to end our friendship, it's because you have repetitively done a series of usually wildly disrespectful, insanely boundary-violating, publicly embarrassing things to and around me that you make other people think less of me. I also point this stuff out to people when they do it, so it's not like I'm just letting people walk all over my boundaries without raising a flag. These people know what they're doing; they just don't care.

I don't like to just leave people hanging, even if they do me dirty. I will explain the things you did and why they weren't okay. Occasionally I'll get someone trying to continue to force contact on me after I've ended the friendship, but it's rare.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Many, I just stopped talking to them or hanging out with them. Not fair to blame someone for things they can't control, had "friends" who would talk about my mental health issues behind my back saying that I was just being dramatic. Not a nice thing to find out from someone you thought you could trust.

Sour-rose · Answer

Oh yeah, i have. I have had many i tried to keep because we were friends. Buut in order to grow into someone better, I had to let them go. This was over facebook by the way. I told them I enjoyed our time but i found the reason why I it seemed like i didn't enjoy it. A final goodbye to them all and here we are; new life and looking for new friends

Thatpearl26 · Answer

I think the first friendship I ever cut off was in middle school. Wasn’t very mature back then. I used to have a good friend but she decided to switch schools to hang out with old elementary friends. I got pissed and ignored/ghosted her for the rest of middle school and high school. Now that I look back, I should have salvaged that friendship because she was a really good friend.

BungusHighFivePizza · Answer

I just tend to ghost them. Not on purpose but maybe they ask me to hang out and I kind of read it and think I'll get back to it and never do. That said, I have notoriety for this so my friends tend to purpose me if I reply like 1.5 years later saying, "Sure, let's hang out!" Then they're usually up for it.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Yeah. She screamed at me in some feminist tirade, said I don't get to control her or something.

I was simply trying to warn her that the charity she was promoting on Instagram was a scam.

She also went ballistic on me once for saying she was naturally beautiful. Of course, I used an X-Men meme to do it, and she apparently doesn't grasp memes.

I eventually blocked her ironically very bossy ass. Decided I didn't have patience for her level of stupid.

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

Yep, due to not communicating with me and not even making any effort on her end. Just unfriended her on Facebook, that's it. I can't hold on to something that I think will get better.

Despite the loss from someone I thought would be my best friend since we were eight, I at least found two people who have done a much better job than she ever did.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

I found out something really messed up about someone I used to call a friend.
Not only did I stop being his friend but I also started hating him.
This wasn’t just a rumor either, It came out of his mouth.
I can’t say what I learned about him for several reasons but what I will say is that I am disturbed that I have ever associated with him.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i didn't like the way my friend treated girls. his entire family did it and i ended up getting caught in a 3way call. while the girl set me up, it was for the best. she ended up apologizing and i never looked back. i will never be sorry for sticking to my beliefs

ChiTown33 · Answer

I'm not sure how to answer this. Because there's been a few people I've discouraged out of my life. But there aren't anybody I've had to flat out tell "go away". I'm a pretty tolerant person. But it's usually when the person has been he'll bent on self destruction. As a friend I'll do all I can to help somebody. But at the end of the day. Only they can save themselves. And if they choose the path of self destruction then I refuse to be a part of it.

Still-alive · Answer

I have over flakiness. We reconnected recently but I stopped talking to him for a few years because of that. I just stopped calling him. And he never bothered calling me during that time himself.

we only occasionally hangout now.

MrPickles13 · Answer

No I haven't, I'm currently at a point where I think I need to but I can't yet.

And normally friends I've had just move on to better things and in just forgotten about. Or because the new people they get to know don't get on with me I kinda get phased out.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

I haven't but someone did this to me in 6th grade and it wasn't until she stopped talking to me that I realized she was actually kinda toxic because once in elementary school I told her about a toy idea I had and she told me it would never work

sage2021 · Answer

I got sick and tired of her always wanting me to be jealous of her. She was a bragger, always has been.

Spade_01 · Answer

Sure have, plenty. Reasons being them being selfish, not sticking to their words etc but the most common one being them not respecting my religion.

Summeroflove · Answer

Long story. But yeah. People are never happy when you cut them off and usually it causes them to become obsessed

AviatorTom · Answer

We stop talking with each other. Most of the time, distance causes friendships to die, as one or both of us move away.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

My close friends and I cut ✂️ off a so called friend from our friendship because they were causing too much tension and trying to divide the group so basically being a nasty shit stirrer!

dragoblack · Answer

Yep. Usually the reason is i find out they are POS people. Or for other friendships i put up with them untill they try to fuck me over or push me over the edge of BS i have to put up with... i tend to cut toxic people out super quickly

RavVid · Answer

Yes because I have found out that they are a bad person. Generally let it fade away.

TooHot2Care · Answer

The same way my former friends ended it with me : Brutally, without compromise and tearing into them.

Kylie_M · Answer

I don't like ending things like ever and I'll never be the one to end something unless it's like them abusing me or it's just really not working.

Someonerandomgirllol · Answer

I ended a relationship because all it did was make me feel like shit and miserable honestly

Guardian45 · Answer

Yes, with a Best Friend, because there was only person in the friendship: Him. It was easy; I stopped calling him.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

I've cut people off, but no one I considered a friend. I've lost touch with some, sadly.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No long time friends, but a few who were getting close to being friends who betrayed me.

LavLavLuv · Answer

she was a whole snake, i don't want her in my circle

Fuentes · Answer

Just a few fake homies after I left the city.

Reorx · Answer

Many times. The only friendships I nurture are reciprocal in nature. I tell them.

exitseven · Answer

I just don't contact them anymore

Nirghata_Vrishaghata · Answer

Quite a few. found them to be a liability.

Jennz6 · Answer

No, I don’t burn 🔥 my bridges behind me

AimeeKyle · Answer

Not really, it just dies out.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I just cut off all contact with the person.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Several times

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Multiple people have done so with me

Nominal · Answer

Nope.

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