Is this love? Should I marry him?

[sadstrawberry]

So my dad saw me at his home 6 months back and hit my boyfriend coz he thought we both had sex and my dad said him to have sex with me after marrying me. Now after this, my boyfriend stopped having sex with me since 6 months, but we met outside. He cheated on me on weekends but never broke up with me - I saw his phone where he downloaded bumble and also when I asked him to show me his phone, he hid from me. He never used to hide anything like his phone or laptop from me before. But he always told me that he loves me, never cheated on me and waited for me at the station for 30 minutes just to meet me post work and he kept telling me that I should trust him blindly and not ask him to check his phone coz it hurts his integrity. I got one number while checking his phone and I asked her on WhatsApp. That girl showed me call logs of long conversation with him ( this time when I was sure of him ignoring me) she said that he was looking for casual sex for which she denied and blocked him. I confronted my boyfriend and asked him and he said me that he can't have sex with me so he asked her ( coz my dad hit him). I never denied him to have sex with me but he always denied me when I asked him for sex, saying he respects my dad and won't have sex with me before marriage. Since I was sexually deprived and frustrated, I cheated on him after the day he hid his phone from me. And I slept with 3 different guys. And I also told him that I love him and am monogamous. Right now he is in his hometown to fight for me for marriage and he always said me that I'm his long term girl. Since I also slept with guys hookups, I don't feel sad or guilty anymore. He said me we will court marry if his parents disagree our intercaste marraige. I may times told him to block me and he kept telling me that he finds me in other girls, he tried to but is unable to. I am also unable to go away from him but to satisfy my vagina, am sleeping with other guys coz my boyfriend will fuck me after we marry.

Yes

No

Pls see my comments

[RespectfulGuy]

Why marry when

1) both you still mama papa boy and girl?

2) he's not strong enough to stand up for you?

3) he cheats over lack of self-control

4) you cheat over lack of self-control or revenge.

5) both if you may probably cheat after marriage.

6) mama papa will be a part of your marriage life.

7) sex and lust dominate your life instead of love, loyalty and integrity.

No. Grow up first. Move out. Stand for your guy over your dad. Learn self-control, patience and integrity. Then perhaps, consider moving in together before marriage.

Hard words, but I write with a sincere heart. Wish you happiness.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Before I answer the question of should you marry him. Do you understand what marriage is? Because to my understanding, it is when 2 people are so in love they cannot be apart from each other, and the fact you are sleeping with other men because he slept with other women does not strike me with any confidence you and he are even compatible, let alone ready to marry!

[IslaTheWitch]

how do you want to have a relationship or even marriage if you have already cheated on each other?

[Nikki1989]

Don't ask for relationship advice on here, are you insane?

[Billlewis]

@Nikki1989 It's not insane if she receives the advice from the likes of you, ma'am. This is my opinion only.

[lightbulb27]

That's actually called the Garden of Hell, where two immature children are running around.

I know you aren't Pakistani as dad would have chopped your head off by now.

You should both find Jesus fast...

[sawno]

"He cheated on me on weekends" should be an immediate disqualifier for marriage. If he can't be loyal why do a loyalty contract?

[Dbtr99]

Sounds like you, your dad and the boyfriend all need therapy and the dad should have been charged with assault.

[worldscolide]

lol no not love.. and your dad hitting him, Thats assault, your dad deserves to be in prison.

[Sameone]

I think you questions doesn't need opinion 🤔

Ofc fuck no no no
Are you dumb 🤬

[msc545]

That is a terrible history. Don't marry anyone!

[Cheerfull009]

I think, other guys could not satisfy you sexuay, and your boyfriend satisfies you, so get that guy at any cost

[Anonymous]

So you and him are scumbags thanks but I didn't need to know how much of a lowlife both of yous are

[Artie124]

Girl, he only wants you for the sex. do not marry him, you can find better.

[didichi]

No it’s not love period.

[laly520]

not love
dont marry him

[TheSpaceGnome]

Neither of you are marriage material.