How do you get over someone who has obviously already moved on?

[Anonymous]

My case may seem a little different, because I became quite sick after we parted and now spend most of my days at home. My life has changed drastically and I think if I was living my previous life it would be easier for me to get over him.

We weren't together long, but because we knew each other a long time before that it felt really intense. On some level I always thought he was a bit out of my league. Due to other circumstances, I doubt our paths will cross again, but deep down I wish they would.

I know he is seeing someone else now and I only wish the best for him. So I would like to know what would the best way for me to move on? What would you suggest?

[bobalife]

I feel it… it doesn’t always matter on the amount of time when the quality, connection, memories, and love built is more important. The hardest thing to accept is… it didn’t work out and you guys aren’t together anymore. Embracing it’s okay to miss him, but remembering why yalls broked up and it’s why you need to move forward. Learning to be on your own again without their presence in your life and how can your build your next chapter in your life solely focus on you. People always say keep busy and I typically do that too. But truly, dealing with those real emotions will help cleared up the hard stuff early than later. When you need to be alone, sit with it. When you’re ready to go out with friends to talk or have a good time, do it and live it up. Finding peace within yourself and the break up. Finding ways to cope with the pain and let yourself grieve. Cry when you need to. Write a letter to him to let it out but not send it lol. Coming into terms someday that what’s meant for you will stay, not leave and maybe that is someone else who would do things that this one wouldn’t. Identifying what you want/need in a relationship. Finding your ish in life and remember you’re amazing. Continue to add water in your pot and let yourself blossom… love yourself deeper… and take away what you learned from this experience. Hope this helps!

[Asker]

The hardest thing is that we parted because I had to move home (different country). We just drifted apart not because we didn't work, but because of the distance. I don't believe in long distance and in this case it's probably best. Even though we could have worked.

[AmeriRiver096]

In my journey towards finding peace after a past relationship, I discovered that by prioritizing personal growth and self-healing, I could release the need for closure from the other person. I found that introspection and intentional letting go allowed me to achieve a sense of peace and well-being independently.

[Asker]

I think that is the hardest part. In the past, i have always needed that closure which in turn made everything worse. Here, I understand that there won't be closure because we parted not because we didn't work, but of other circumstances. Circumstances that cannot be changed. So I can treat it like a closed door.

[JTPeterson]

Self reflect; think hard why it didn’t work out then when you have that find something fun that you like to do to make yourself feel happy again and when you have that mindset think clearly on was it truly right for you to separate or not if so get back out there and go find someone who truly deserves you and also have more confidence and in my opinion no man is ever out of any woman’s league all women are out of us men’s league so keep your head up stay strong mentally build up your confidence and find that man who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

1. stop referring to you and your ex as "we"
2. meet and flirt with other people you're attracted to in social settings not one-on-one dates
3. realise that you're in love with the fantasy of what you could have had with him – fantasies are one-sided
4. accept that he wasn't right for you and it is okay to be put off your game because of that, give it time

[coachTanthony]

Finding a purpose in life that gets you out of bed in the morning. Focus on that. Helping others usually works as well.

[rainbowstarsxoxo]

Getting a job really helped me. Listening to music helped me too if that makes sense. Music can really make everyone happy.

[AviatorTom]

The best way is to move 9n yourself. Find someone for you.

[HawkPerception]

You need to accept that not everyone in your life will like you the same way as you like them. Life is like a train. You're on that train until the end and people get on and come off at different times. Rarely will you find someone that's going to be on the train for the rest of the ride, but when you do, cherish them. But you need to graciously accept when people decide to get off as well.

[KrakenAttackin]

Men are used to this. In our teens and 20's it's common to have a girl dump us then immediately start dating someone else.

How do you deal with it? You just do.

[AmeriRiver096]

Everyone’s capacity to handle and process emotions varies. Some may find it easier to “deal with it” upfront, while others may require a more gradual process of introspection and intentional release to find peace.

[Crankor]

Talk to other people and find a Hobby you can get lost in or at least be passionate about

[rainbowstarsxoxo]

Getting a job, moving, finding hobbies, and therapy. These things really do help.

[strateguy632]

by finding a new partner

[Asker]

Not an option at the moment because of my health.

[YourSong]

You can also start dating again

[Paul09]

Time and practice.

[In_Trance]

Get under someone else

[spoole]

Takes time.

[Danny_dan92]

By doing the same

[Jamie05rhs]

Find another man.