Will he realize what he has and come back?

[Anonymous]

Long story, I’ve known my guy best friend for 4 years and im IN LOVE with him. I met him summer 2017 and we started hangingout summer of 2019 when he was in rehab/sober living. He got arrested march 2020 and just got out two months ago. I was there for him for 16 months while he was locked up. Since he got out, things have been different between us. We used to be really close. He is back to the party scene and has relapsed a few times too. He met some 35 year old woman 3 weeks ago at a bar and since he met her he has been hangingout with her like everyday and he told me he hooks up with her. When i got mad he asked why i was mad and he said he is single. We don’t hangout anymore and its like i got tossed to the side. He said he isn’t choosing her over me but he obviously is. We got into a fight about it and then last Monday he asked me to meet up and talk. He apologized for being a dick to me and i asked him about her and he said “its not like that” and he told me she pays for everything. Then Thursday we got into a fight again and I went off blowing his phone up and he blocked me. We have not talked but my friend was messaging him for me on Instagram trying to get through to him and he still says “im not choosing anyone over anyone”. I sent him a good bye text earlier today and he has not replied. He has always been a fuckboy even in the past. I don’t understand why he wants a 35 year old who parties when he has someone who literally has his back and holds him down. He also has always told me he doesn’t want a relationship so im awarr of that but he is literally choosing some woman he just met over me who stuck by his side.

[kyleelyn199723]

Why do women aspire to be with men like this? Girl you can have so much better but you want to be with a 35 year old guy that acts like he’s freshly turned 18 and getting a hint of the real world. This is honestly pathetic. I’m not holding back with how I feel with this one

[Asker]

He isn’t 35 he is 25 and the chick is 35. Im 23.

[kyleelyn199723]

Idc how old he is. This is awful that you are in a loop of not finding better because you convinced yourself this kind of man will give you a relaxing future. Just awful. Go find someone better.

[Asker]

Honestly I’d rather be single. I don’t want anyone else. I’d rather go back to having 0 feelings like before. He taught me how to love honestly

[kyleelyn199723]

I know a guy just like this. You want to know what happened? His girlfriend overdosed. Why? Because they were together doing drugs. Stay the hell away from guys like this. You are going to end up dead

[kyleelyn199723]

I’m just giving you the cold truth about men like him that don’t care if they go back to jail or not and whore around with multiple women

[Asker]

He has never offered me drugs and never would.

[kyleelyn199723]

You are associating yourself with him and he’s a drug addict.

[kyleelyn199723]

I’m just trying to insult you, just wake the hell up. You deserve somebody with a bright future where you don’t need to “hold him down for 16 months” while he’s in jail

[kyleelyn199723]

I’m not trying to insult you*** sorry about that

[Asker]

Im in love with the guy i never loved something so much…

[kyleelyn199723]

Why do you love him? He never gave you a relationship.

[kyleelyn199723]

What has he ever done for you that makes you go “wow I see myself living in a comfortable house, with kids, wonderful jobs, a retirement plan, and a lovely life”

[Asker]

I formed a connection with him, we got close and opened up to eachother about stuff. He has never judged me and always loved me for me and I never had a close guy like this before he is my everything

[kyleelyn199723]

He never loved you. If he loved you , he would make a life with you and fix up his life because he can’t live without you. Girl you need to snap out of this. Last girl that I know that was like you is dead because she was convinced a drug addicted guy in and out of prison loved her.

[Asker]

Im not gonna wind up dead lol.

[kyleelyn199723]

With a man like this, there’s a huge chance. Just looking out for you. It’s clear he’s not interested in you, and more interested in his screwed up life. You should want better for yourself. He isn’t in love with you. He is in love with the fact that you dumb yourself down to be with him.

[spartan55]

You sure seem to think you are his girlfriend. Choosing her over you? You are a friend... I don't understand why you think he can only be with you. Doing stupid shit like blowing up his phone, having a friend message him (ugh), and the 'goodbye' message are all drama and add up to you being psycho. Leave him alone. He might come back, but I kind of doubt it.

[Asker]

No i know im not his girlfriend, but its not cool how he is choosing her over me after all i did for him

[spartan55]

But how is he choosing her over you? What did you for him?

[Asker]

Bro. Ever since he met her 3 weeks ago he is with her all the time. That is choosing her over me. I have always had his back and stuck by his side while he was in prison

[spartan55]

Wow, you just don't get it. Bro...😂 😂 😂 😂