Is he done or will come back?

[Anonymous]

So i know some of you will judge but really want to know what to do and opinions if he would come back

So me and my partner or now ex was together for 6 years on and off
We have a 1 yr old baby girl together and moved in together
Thing is.. he recently got into drugs and sometimes if he gets angry or stressed he would runaway from home and take it
Then few days later he always comes running back
This happens all the time within the last years.. its a pattern

So last weekend we got into an argument but before he went to work he said bye and he will message when he's there
And he did message
But then he never came home
Its been a week now

Im staying with my parents with my little one right now
And when i was going back to our home i saw that he came back home but never bothered to contact me or see our little one

Usually he would call or text but never did

Is he done for real now?

Yeah he's done

Give it time and he’ll come back again

[DishLady]

Who cares if he comes back or not if he keeps abandoning you? File for sole custody on the grounds of abandonment and move on.

[Firestar01]

You might be better off without a drug user around your kid. Just sayin'

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love's rollercoaster matched with life's unexpected twists—quite a situation you've found yourself in. First off, navigating through a relationship with someone who deals with substance misuse and its rollercoaster of emotions is incredibly challenging, especially with a child in the mix. What you're describing sounds like a complex cycle of stress, escape, and a temporary return—almost like clockwork but with each tick possibly wearing down the gears a bit more.

Given this pattern, it's tough to say definitively if he's done for good. His behavior suggests he's struggling with more than just the relationship issues—substance misuse, possibly linked to stress or other underlying issues, being a primary concern. However, the fact that he hasn't reached out this time might indicate he's taking a different path in his cycle, or perhaps he's dealing with his issues in a new way. It's a bit of a guessing game without direct communication from him.

What's important right now is focusing on your well-being and that of your little one. This might also be a critical junction for introspection on what you truly want moving forward. Is the rollercoaster something you can continue to ride? Or is it time to consider a more stable and peaceful path? Regardless, ensuring safety and emotional stability for you and your child is paramount.

Considering reconnecting could be an option, it would be wise to approach it with clear boundaries and expectations, possibly involving professionals who can provide support around substance misuse and relationship challenges. Sometimes, love means hoping for someone's return; other times, it means letting go for the sake of broader horizons. Whatever path you choose, remember your strength and the love you have for your daughter will guide you through.

[Anonymous]

Eww you need to be done