My ex girlfriend dumped me 4 months ago. Within 2 weeks she was back with her ex boyfriend who she was in a 2 year relationship with before me. We were together for 7 months. When I heard this I poured my heart out to her in texts because she wouldn't talk to me on the phone. She just responded that our love was puppy love. And she really never loved me. She said she regretted even telling me these things because it was awkward. When we were together we always had fun. We loved each other and told each other it often. We talked about our future together and how we will travel and what will our first sons name would be. I was dead set on her being my wife in the future. She was perfect. I am very picky she is only my second serious girlfriend. I even moved to be closer to her a few states and changed careers...that's how strong I felt for her. I was so secure in that she loved me. Then she started to become distant. Not saying I love you back. And not wanting to hang out as much. And I asked her if she wanted out of the relationship and she said yes. She told me she didn't want a serious relationship. Its not you its me. And I was like I don't understand. And she was like I need to do this for me.
Well she broke up with her ex boyfriend she got back with. And guess what 2 weeks later she was with this other guy. Who was texting her while we were dating. She broke up with him and I took the opportunity to ask her to go to lunch. But she couldn't because of school and she didn't offer to reschedule. Well she got back with the guy. And she would text me out of the blue asking me what I was doing. This made me think she missed me. Well she got wind of this other girl in my life on Facebook. And asked me who she was. I told her that I still had feelings for her and missed her. She told me it was bad timing and that someone else was making her happy. She told me to date this other girl and take care of her. She told me that she will remember all the beautiful memories we had and would measure other guys up to how I spoiled her. I told her that I feel like its a shame that we are letting what was between us go. And I told her all my feelings for her, and asked if she missed me or had feelings for me. And she responded with I don't know what to say other than I'm happy. So then I told her not to text me and to please stay out of my life so I can move on. I told her that she obviously doesn't have feelings for me or she wouldn't chose this guy she knew for a month over someone who cared for her for 7. Well its been a week and I haven't heard from her. Also I deleted her from facebook and MySpace because I used to always check them. And when I saw she was having fun without me it hurt like hell.
Anyways now I am in a new state with no job, not as many friends, and missing the girl I wanted to marry. Everything has been affected by her leaving. I don't even really have the self confidence I used to with girls. I just don't know how to get over this. Why did she
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your situation sounds a lot like mine except I would never be able to tolerate the amount of hurt and pain this girl put you through. I was out of there within the first month of when I realized she was falling distant. but I missed her and I missed her badly. couldn't stay away for long. I came back and I let myself be used by her; entertained her is what I call it, when she was in another relationship. she got drunk once and made out with me just one day after she went on a break with her boyfriend. he was standing right there watching and I could see it hurt him. I thought she genuinely missed me but I guess I was wrong. and then I thought was this girl really worth keeping if she could just go around breaking peoples' hearts like they were nothing? I guess some girls are just really screwed up in the brains. they love the attention that's all. its been 11 months of NC for me and I still think about her alot. maybe in time the pain will fully go away. I can feel it subsiding as I try to move on with my life. but I'm not in the position to start dating and get my heart eaten again. I recommend you try to build your esteem up by doing things YOU love. pick up a skill, boxing, kungfu, cooking etc. it can be anything that makes you feel like you're worth something. don't force yourself to date because there's a time and a place for that in your future and it will happen. good luck and sorry for the long-ass answer!0