I'm moving overseas soon but i've caught feelings for someone what should I do?

[Anonymous]

I have been single for nearly 2 years as I knew I was moving and didn't want to let a relationship get in the way. Just my luck I ended up meeting someone on a night out, both of our intentions were just a one night stand. We got along really well, the banter is amazing and honestly so was the sex. So he ended up asking me to come over again a week later and because it was good last time stupid me ended up agreeing. I was originally thinking just sex but this guy literally organised a full on date night, it was so sweet and by far the best date I have ever had. Started with a platter and movie night set up, then I suggested it's time for the bedroom and he goes no no dates not over yet and took me to this really nice spot on the beach with a full fairy light set up and alcohol. We got to know each other more and found we have the same views on life, we have the same dark humour, he can read me so easy its crazy. He could tell when I was getting nervous and could keep up with my banter. I started getting butterflies (which hasn't happened to me since my first school crush) its so frustrating because im moving and I obviously am not going to give up an opportunity overseas but im not sure what to do. I have been so closed off to letting people in and this guy has managed to. We have been talking everyday now for months and have seen each other a few times. I leave soon and just need guidance on whether or not I call it off now before we get more hurt? or if I continue seeing him until I leave but then keep it open? or If I ask to just be friends and then when I come back we can see if we can give it a shot? He doesn't want to stop me from the full moving abroad experience and I dont want him to miss out on anyone either, but I also know i'll be jealous, and am scared I won't be able to find someone who makes me feel the way he does. Any advice would be great. Also advice on long distance would help too!

[MaazHussain]

It's understandable that you're in a difficult situation, and it's good that you're thinking about how to handle it. Here are some suggestions:

• Be honest with him: It's important to communicate with him about your situation and your feelings. Let him know that you're moving overseas soon and that you're not sure what you want to do about your relationship. Tell him how you feel about him, but also be clear that you don't want to hold him back or put pressure on him to wait for you.
• Consider your options: You have a few different options to consider, such as continuing to see him until you leave, asking to just be friends, or ending things now. Think about what feels right for you and what you're comfortable with. Remember that there's no one-size-fits-all answer, and ultimately you have to do what's best for you.
• Be realistic about long distance: If you do decide to continue your relationship long distance, be aware that it can be challenging. Make sure you both have realistic expectations and are willing to put in the effort to make it work. Set clear boundaries and communicate openly and frequently.
• Focus on the present: While it's important to plan for the future, try not to get too caught up in what might happen. Enjoy the time you have together now and make the most of it.
• Keep an open mind: Remember that life is unpredictable, and things may not turn out the way you expect. Keep an open mind and be willing to adapt to changing circumstances.

Ultimately, the decision is yours to make. Just remember to communicate openly and honestly with him, consider your options carefully, and focus on what's best for you.

[PrettyPriya]

Wow, do you have any original thoughts or is every single thing you post generated from ChatGPT?

"It sounds like you have developed a strong connection with this person, and it's understandable that you're feeling conflicted about what to do since you're moving overseas soon. Ultimately, the decision of what to do next is up to you, but here are some things to consider:

Be honest with him: It's important to communicate with him about your feelings and the fact that you're moving overseas. It's better to be upfront and honest than to lead him on or leave him wondering.

Discuss your options: Talk to him about your options, such as keeping things open, trying long-distance, or taking a break until you return. It's important to have a frank and open conversation to ensure that you're both on the same page.

Consider the logistics of long-distance: If you do decide to try long-distance, make sure to discuss how often you'll communicate, how you'll stay connected, and what your expectations are for the relationship.

Keep an open mind: Even if you don't end up pursuing a romantic relationship, it's possible to maintain a meaningful friendship with this person. Don't close yourself off to the possibility of a platonic connection.

Ultimately, it's important to prioritize your own needs and goals, while also considering the impact your decisions may have on this person's feelings. With open communication and mutual respect, it's possible to navigate this situation in a way that feels authentic and respectful to both of you."

- Credit: ChatGPT

[ZackBan]

As someone who moved overseas himself I can tell you that it's not an easy thing and in your mind you might try to rationalize seeing him long distance and such but trust me it's not something that works.

The move will change you: you'll live in a new neighborhood, sleep in a new bed, eventually buy clothes with a different sense of style, and of course be surrounded by new people.

This guy however amazing will part of your past and the best thing is the cut the cord now by being honest and telling him that you met him at the wrong time however amazing that time has been. It will be tough but since you're not dating the impact will fade on it's ownans you'll keep a good memory but be free to build your life

[jillybeanns]

Go overseas. You will meet an even more amazing person once you get there. Just trust me 💜

[MikeTheBartender]

You're too young and the world is too big... Go overseas... To be completely honest as a guy who is a recovering player... If I KNEW you were going overseas I may play heavier like he did... Not saying that he's a dick like I was, but it's possible. Answer mine if you're bored.

Were there red flags in your esignificant others FRIENDS that later you realized should have clued you into his or hers?

[SnowedIn]

Yeah -- don't give up on the overseas thing. My first instinct is to be brutally, fully honest with him but don't give him up until you leave. Let him know you enjoy what's going on, but you're still leaving. When you leave, you leave. Both free to do whatever. LDRs suck terribly. I don't recommend it. Then, with ZERO promises or expectations, if you meet up when you get back, who knows. But enjoy it until the end -- nothing wrong with that.

[Truthatanycost]

You don't see it, but this is not sustainable at all. You've also underestimated the bond that occurs when you have sex on many levels, not just chemical. My suggestion would be to stop buying into current culture of casual sex and friends with benefits... it's nonsense!

[nudetru]

hey keep... In touch make. no promises
get the most out of the time together now.
get freaky ya know.. then partway s no strings see if moving on is an option.

[FunkyMonkee]

You caught feelings? OH, NO!! You'd better get to a Dr., QUICK!! Feelings is a terrible disease!! It's even a terrible SONG!!

https://www.youtube.com/embed/CyBcHUe4WeQ

[Zandoval]

You had sex with someone and hoped not to like them? Bruh...

[jillybeanns]

😂😂😂

[Asker]

Yeah I’ve had friends with benefits before and have never caught feelings. Only have with this guy who was just supposed to be a one night stand. So I don’t get why you’re acting like it’s so stupid?

[Zandoval]

Because it is stupid. Sex is a bonding act. You release oxytocin during it. So it is only natural you feel love for the person, if you don't, that's when it is a problem.

[Asker]

Then I supposedly have a problem because I’ve slept with a few people that were just sex. Girls have needs to. Sex is fun doesn’t mean if I fuck someone I want to marry them so stupid haha. I need an emotional connection to get feelings sex to me is just physical

[Zandoval]

Yeah. That kind of thinking only will harm you down the line. It's simple biology. We'll see ;)

[Wise4myage]

Stay in touch and see how it goes?