How early do you tell a woman you're dating that you want marriage and kids?

[Anonymous]

[ZackBan]

I saw your replies to others so I'll say this with that in mind:

DON'T

Wanting marriage and kids is a fine and noble goal to have. But selecting a stranger who's number you don't even have as the potential wife and mother is majorly creepy and will turn away even family oriented women.

Don't bring up married. Don't skip steps.

First meet the girl. Get to know her as a person. Find out if you have enough in common to wanna hang around eachother all the time.

Have a discussion about what you see yourselves doing in 5 or 10 years. And if both of you can picture a married life then you have your answer.

After making sure you're stable enough financially and emotionally and are ready to take the leap you propose.

If you do this in any other order your relationship will be headed for disaster.
I've seen far too many people blindly follow this ideal that once you get married all will be good, and most of them failed.

[Asker]

Well I'm certainly not doing it blindly. But certain women give me marriage vibes. I'd like to try one out. That doesn't mean I will just blindly marry her I know better than that I was married before.

But maybe you're right. I should take it slow either way.

[ZackBan]

I get what you mean. But it's a very creepy thing to say to somone.
"Marriage vibes"
I don't know if I'm making sense.
And my advice is aimed towards a Marriage in the end just taking the scenic route and covering all the bases

[Berethor]

I'm telling almost everyone that I consider girls who don't want kids as being immature.

[Asker]

I feel like most girls do. I feel like the immaturity of them lies in the fact that they will have kids with the guy who is Mr. Popular.

Because I know tons of women who have kids with Mr. Populsr and I've seen how things play out repeatedly.

Basically, they have the kid, and after a year or two the girls leave the guy because he won't change diapers and all he does is sit on his Xbox all day and leave her to do everything.

So they're single mothers with basically a man child who is the father of their baby.

So they leave him. Every time. Mr. Cool Mr. Popular all the ladies want him always gets left by his woman cuz he's just a child.

I would think women would make better choices about who they decide to have kids with.

[sheikalana]

Me and my now Husband had that talk on our first date. I think it's important to have that conversation early on so you can decide if you want to keep dating them or not. I wouldn't date anyone who doesn't want the same as me because it's pointless.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Tell her after the first or second date. Much better to know if you're compatible early on.

But don't be pushy about it. You know, just a little "I want kids someday, how about you?" ☺

[PapaJedi]

I want kids someday, how about you?

[MGTK7]

@PapaJedi lol

[Asker]

Thank you 😊

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

@PapaJedi lmao 😭

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

@Asker, you're welcome and best of luck to both of you!

[SotiCoto]

Just wait for her to spring the idea. They almost always will sooner or later.

[Asker]

Lol maybe that's true. If so do I have to tease her with it too? Lol

[CriticalCatDad]

I don't date or have relationships on general but if I did they'd have to be 100% cool with never having children or ever getting married. 🤷🏻‍♂️ no sex either.

[At3mis24]

Not too early: let the relationship live! Don't crash it at the start!

[Anonymous]

You should tell her right away. No sense in wasting each other’s time if that’s not what she wants.

[At3mis24]

And wasting a beautiful relationship because of f**ing children? NO!

[Opinion Owner]

You sound bitter and childless

[Opinion Owner]

If OP wants marriage and kids, he should find a woman who wants the same thing.

[At3mis24]

If only I can't block you, I will! You're mean and I hate you!!

[At3mis24]

I HATE ALL ANONYMOUS!! They're so useless!!

[Opinion Owner]

You’re profile says 41, bet you meant to type 14

[Opinion Owner]

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I'm 12 in my head, I love gaming (computer or tablet), Star Wars, Harry Potter, Disney, My Little Pony (G4)
I'm a bookworm and a tomboy, I like cats, horses and butterflies
I like to collect everything: figurines, stamps, Lego, stickers, Disneyland badges, board games...
I hate love.”

[jahaims]

You talk about your values, morals and goals as soon as you start dating. Why invest in someone that wants different things.

[LiamJHayden]

I don't. Marriage under current laws is a no-fly zone, and I am congenitally sterile (CBAVD)..

[Anonymous]

As early as possible in case she doesn't want the same thing. Would save you a whole lot of money.

[Asker]

What about before you even date her? I am not actually dating the girl yet so I suppose I lied.

But we both obviously like eachother and I'm going to ask for her number when I see her next.

And I'm wondering if I should just start off by saying what my ultimate goal is and that I see her as a potential wife.

It just feels weird to say because ultimately when you're dating someone you really don't know if things will ever go that far.

I have barely dated in my life and I was married before. We were stupid and didn't know wtf we were doing.

This time I want to do it right but don't know how to do it right besides being a good partner. It's the communicating the intent.

And what if she doesn't want to marry at all? What if I'm still willing to date her anyways? I just like her that much that I'm willing to get my heart broken to at least have her for some time.

Do people date knowing it won't last? It feels strange to me. But maybe that is normal.

[Opinion Owner]

Find out once you go on the first date with her. You don't want to scare her off with marriage talk before you even get a chance to take her out on a proper date. Unless you feel so strongly that she wouldn't get scared off but I know I would if a guy did that to me. And if she's not into marriage and kids and you still want to date her then by all means go out and date her.

[Asker]

I guess I will take her out and maybe not on the first date, but sometime later I will talk to her about it and see where it goes from there. Thanks.

[At3mis24]

No! It's not a good thing!!

[At3mis24]

Personally, I will lie about my life goals until it goes to serious, I want a relationship!

[Unit1]

as early as before the first date seems appropriate.

[VV3ZZY123]

Wait for her to bring up being exclusive, having kids, getting married etc...

[OtterMan68]

Third or fourth date, so you don't lead her on if that's not what she wants.

[DishLady]

Depends on the people involved.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I don't want - that's my honesty 😭😆

[Alessandra111295]

In begin when your interviewing for position.

[msc545]

not less than 10 years or more.

[In_Trance]

Before you actually meet

[Anonymous]

It never came up.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

NEVER!

[Deserter2]

The 7th minute