Do you get distant and cold after being away from your partner for a few days?

[Anonymous]

So I never had a man whose job required him to travel, there for I was never away from my partners in the past after we once moved in together.
My current boyfriend lives in another city so it was a rocky road for me from day one but pretty soon we moved in together and it was okay. He changed a job and this new one now requires traveling up to 10 days away.

It's causing me being distant and cold once he is back. It takes me days to get back to normal but by that time it's time for his new going away. Seems like my body and mind do not like that set up and I am trying hard not to let it disrupt my feeling but I simply can't help it. Anyone had a similar experience?

[Finchie40]

Sadly distance can effect the bond you have for each other , 10 days is a long time to be away from someone you love and care about , because there is so much space in between you both to a point you start to not really know who your partner is anymore or what they are up to , without you by your side , The best thing to do is to call each other as much as possible on a daily basis to let each other know you are both ok and that you both miss each other , if your boyfriend isn’t really calling you during that time that he is away , than your mind is going to wonder what he is really up to? and it can make you start to feel more distant from him if he isn’t calling you on a daily basis and sadly that could be a red flag as well , that he is being up to no good if he isn’t keeping in touch with you on a daily basis? or you as well, could be up to no good, when he is away. Without trust and communication with each other? That can open some doors for disaster for your relationship with each other , as to why you are feeling cold and distant toward him. Space can cause couples to do stupid things when they are away from each other. I use to have sex with a girl that told me she was single , not realizing she was married the whole time , she had me convinced that she was single , because she would invite me to her home a lot of times , not realizing her husband was just away for work. After 3 months of dating her and having sexy with her , her husband ended up knocking at my door to confront me. I was in complete shock and told him the truth about everything. So it just goes to show why space in relationships can be a bad thing. Another reason I don’t stay on relationships with girls’ that constantly need space from me , if a partner demand space from you or they aren’t keeping on touch with you when they are away , you are best to just move on from that person and realize you deserve someone that doesn’t want to leave your side. Because 90 percent of the time , they are being up to no good

[itsclearlynicholas]

More like some people on GAG becomes cold after good chats - some people are just got and cold i guess 🥵 🥶 it's so confusing 🤧😔

[DishLady]

It’s hard to have semi-LDR, but try not to waste those precious days with your man over “processing.”


My last major relationship the guy traveled for about one week (sometimes slightly longer) every month. We kept things fresh with phone conversations and texting (back when texting was barely a thing). It wasn’t what either of us preferred, but it helped maintain a flirtatious vibe between us till he could get back home…. I always made sure dinner was set and ready the day he was supposed to be home, though he rarely sat for dinner once we said our hellos at the door. ;)


What I’m saying is… don’t let the funk of his leaving get to you. I know you end up feeling lonely because he’s gone, but you also know he’s probably chomping at the bit to be back in your arms too…

[Simslover92]

I become a bit distant and cold for a few hours but no more than that. But I get it, you have to readjust which can take some time getting adjusted to your partner again. I don't see my partner for one month because we live in different cities. I become numb to not seeing him and when he comes to visit or I come to visit him, for those first few hours, I'm a bit cold. I don't mean to be but it's just hard to adjust right away. I eventually open up more because I know it's only one day or possibly two days I will see him and then another month before I see him again.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the classic love conundrum of distance making the heart grow colder instead of fonder! It sounds like your love engine is sputtering to warm up after those chilly periods of separation. Totally normal but definitely a twisty road to navigate. It's like your heart is on a yo-yo, bouncing back and forth with his comings and goings!

What you’re experiencing is a mix of self-protection and a disruption in your attachment rhythm. Your mind's playing defense, trying to avoid the ping-pong of emotions that accompanies his departures and returns.

My suggestion? Try keeping the emotional connection lit while he's away. Envision those little texts, calls, or even silly selfies as logs on your relationship's fire. It keeps the warmth there, so you're not starting from ice every time he returns.

And when he does get back, maybe create a little "reconnection ritual." Something that helps you both shift back into being close, something that tells your brain, "Okay, we're back to our cozy duo mode now." It could be as simple as a special dinner, an evening walk, or binge-watching your favorite series together.

Remember, love, adapting to this kind of relationship dynamic takes time and patience. Keep the lines of communication open, and let him know how you're feeling. It's all about teamwork. 😊💑

[PeachyPie93]

Can't say I have ever felt that from a partner being gone. I always miss them and want to be around them when they get back. The only time I been distant or cold with a partner is if I was mad at them for not giving me attention or ignoring me. So the only way I can control my own feelings is to distance myself because I feel unloved.

[sheikalana]

I have a job that requires me to travel a lot too but once I come home me and my Husband act like two teenagers in love.

[DreamLife7]

First of all you're not a wife he doesn't owe you shit. You're doing wifey duties for a man that will never marry u. Jokes on u

[KrakenAttackin]

You seem like a pain in the ass. You punish him for doing his job. Set this man free.

[Iron_Man]

no why would I I don’t understand that

[RedInnocent69]

No. I get irritable and horny.