Age gap relationships: How many years is too much?

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Both members are over 18

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Whatever you choose to accept , I don’t really hold age as a deciding factor, if I have great chemistry and connection and attraction to a girl , that treats me the same way Intreat her , as long as she is legal that’s all that matters to me , I have dated older and younger girls’ their age had nothing to do with it , it was the connection her and I shared together. Most people just like to be hypocrites about other peoples’ relationships , my thing is stay the fuck out of it , if they are happy together. Most people that make comments and remarks about other peoples’ relationships? Are hypocrites , they will talk shit until they meet someone with an age gap and then shit their mouths. We live in a judgernental world and most people are fucking Assholes when it comes to talking shit about other people that they have no clue about whatso ever , Most people just assume they know what they are talking about when really they don’t know Jack shit. I have dated younger girls ‘ that treated me way better than girls’ my age or older , so. That’s why age really means shit to me

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

There is no magic number in human relationships.

Though it's probably best, and most common, for partners to be close in age, there are many couples with large age differences. My father was 30 years older than my mother, and they had a long happy 40 year marriage, until my father died.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Personally while I love chatting with way older guys bc they have fantastic stories and wisdom ti share, I don’t like more than a 5-year range for my own SO and myself (veering older)

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Past 10-12 years starts being too much. If you grew up in different generations then it's almost impossible to relate to each other.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Diving into the world of love, age is but a number, right? 😉 While there's no magic number that fits all, the essence of compatibility often orbits around shared values, life goals, and mutual respect, not just the candles on your birthday cake. Lovebombing aside, significant age gaps can introduce unique dynamics. Consider emotional maturity, life phases, and future aspirations. If you’re vibing on the same frequency and you can handle the side-eyes at family gatherings with a shared eye roll, who's to say there's a limit? As a relationship coach, I’ve seen the spectrum - what becomes a red flag is not the age gap but the gap in mutual understanding and respect. So, if you’re both legal, feeling the love, and ready for the rollercoaster together, who am I to throw shade? Love laughs at locksmiths and, sometimes, at age gaps too!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The answer depends on whether you are 18 or 65. At 18, anything more that 3-4 years becomes problematic. At age 65, up to a 15 year age difference is okay as long as both partners are healthy.

dreamelle · Answer

I’ve always gotten along really well with people older than me. I have a lot of friends my age but can’t find anyone my age to love romantically. Still, the romance I have now, I know it maybe can’t last because I’m only 18 and I’m legal and we connect so well, but building a future together might be hard due to the age gap, and we’d face a lot of social judgement. Either way yeah I agree too much of a gap can be hard and potentially problematic. We’re from different generations but that hasn’t been issue between us at least. Still I do take this relationship very seriously and spend time with him, it heals me

4ngelic · Answer

depends how old they both are. like if you're 18 and they're 22 it's pushing it. if your 40, it's whatever if the person is 50. the younger you are the more you should stay close to your age for many reasons, the older you are the more age is insignificant

LiamJHayden · Answer

It depends upon the couple. Since my parents were older when I was born - my mom was almost 45 and my dad a decade older - a lady being 15 or 20 years older does not bother me like it might for someone whose parents were 20ish when he was born.

elaphe · Answer

When I was younger, I would have said 5 years is too much. Now that Iam older and I realize how much less difference there is between ages as one gets older, I think a 10, 20, or even 30-year difference is acceptable as long as the relationship is healthy and the younger of the two has been out of high school for at least five years.

EagerAmber · Answer

That is honestly a person's personal preference haha As for me, I've been okay with any age gap really

At3mis24 · Answer

14 years it's not a problem, stop judging age gaps! It's just sounds ridiculous!! If we both are adults, what's the matter? 🤦‍♀️😤

mandyfire98 · Answer

I'm probably the worst person on this subject because I dated a guy my dad's age once.

DarkLegacy · Answer

Should have been a option for no amount of years, if both parties are legal there is nothing anyone can do about it. It is called personal choice and nobody else's business

AnonAndrew · Answer

I don't think it matters at all, as long as both have reached the age of consent.

XXblack88 · Answer

Personally, anything past 10 years age difference is too much I find it get harder to relate to people older then the 10-year age gap.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Anything over 10 years. Really even 10 is too much but can work I guess.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Honestly, once you start getting into the 10-15 year territory, that starts to be a little much for most people to handle.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

If you notice the age gap then its too much. If it feels natural then its fine.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I would think that you'd only have to worry about that if you're a pre-legal teen intent on dating someone legal.

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

Socially accepted max = ([your age] * 2) - 7 Socially accepted min = ([your age] / 2) + 7 i. e. a 29 year old would be socially accepted dating someone between: 22 - 51.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

It depends on the ages of other parties involved. 18 and 24 is pretty bad, 55 and 67 is not

ThaMaskedMarvel · Answer

As long as it's legal,  it's never too much. Ever.

DrPepper12 · Answer

No such thing. Legal, safe and consensual are my only concerns. Otherwise it's not my business.

handsomelad70 · Answer

When the older lad can't lay his boyprod between his girl's legs anymore !!!

BarryLiverstone · Answer

19 and 99 is too much

Anonymous · Answer

30+ is probably pushing the limits.

exitseven · Answer

I used to say10 years.

OtterMan68 · Answer

depends on the ages.

Cheerguy · Answer

No limit if they are 18

noohair · Answer

Each over 18 and before one dies.

Pohjolan · Answer

The age of Leonardo DiCaprio minus 17.

shortster · Answer

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