Age gap relationships?

[Anonymous]

How do u guys feel about age gap relationships? I’m 22 and have recently been going out with a 31 year old. He is the oldest I’ve dated but he is also like the most respectful guy I’ve dated. He remembers things I’ve said. He has taken me out on dates. He hasn’t tried anything with me or even mentioned sex so I feel really comfortable with him. I don’t feel weird about the age gap but I also feel like it’s going to be weird for everyone else I guess. The guys I have dated my age have never taken me out or even cared to notice things or ask me about myself so it’s very different. It’s just the age gap. I don't know what do u think? Should I run for the hills?

[RebelinSteel]

Some work, some don’t. My personal view is that the further we move apart in age the less chance we have of being compatible. We have a bunch of compatibility points across various things and as we get apart on them we run into problems. If you have stronger compatibility in other areas, then that compensates say for age difference. As a 30 yr old I know I am better now than at 20 and understand life, relationships far better.

[Drew-1990]

I think there is a limit to age gap, I think you are perfectly fine with yours. My own personal rules is 1-9 years difference. I would maybe do 10-15 but I would be very picky at that point and even then I would want the girl to ask me out because I prefer not to do that range. I think 16+ is always wrong so that would always be no. But this is my personal opinion everyone has different rules and opinions on it.

[AmyHew1tt]

They make me uncomfortable, honestly, when one of them is in their early/mid-20s. At least until everyone's in or past their 30s, when you're all in the same life phase anyway even if you have a 5+ age gap.

[EagerAmber]

I've never had a personal issue with age gap relationships

[Nirmroth]

As long as you're both comfortable isn't it fine?

The only issue I see could be that you both end up beeing in different states of mind. For example he would want to settle down maybe start a family while you would still want the freedom to explore the world and do what you want, when you want it.
Just be both open and communicate what you expect or what you want from time to time.

[Jonathan373]

Younger women and older men has always been a thing since the beginning of time. Young women are fertile and older men are established. Be warned, other women are going to hate. Especially the older women because they are past their prime.

[boggboss]

Ofc people are going to make comments about this the new said thing is guys that date younger are predatory so meh

[Al_Musafir]

All good as long as you two feel alright. Go with it.

[bobby_bush_eater]

No. You're both adults. Your fine, 9 years isn't crazy but maybe just take it slow? Sounds normal to me though

[noohair]

I don't follow the social convention age thing. Why limit your chances of finding someone?

[shortster]

10-15 years is the ideal.

[Kykiono1]

It's fine.