What is the controversy with age gap relationship between a man and a woman?

[Anonymous]

I will never understand why so many people are against age gap relationships. It’s always the same talk that older men only approach younger women to manipulate and control. I’ve met guys my age who had the worst attitudes and were attempting to be manipulative because they knew I was interested. I’ve came across older men who got to the point with what they wanted and how things would move forward.

I get approached and my preference has always been older men. THOUGHTS?

[psychoticanimallover]

Any age gap relationship, however innocent the intention, ALWAYS has a power discrepancy. It’s just inevitable. So while the majority of men might not want to take advantage of that, there is the opportunity for him to do so if he wants to. To put it simply, it’s generally better for there not to be a power gap if things go wrong or if the man is not to be trusted. I think that’s the main controversy around those older man/younger woman relationships. But people will continue to have those relationships and most of them will be perfectly happy. There are plenty of reasons why an older man may choose to date a young woman, and many of them are perfectly reasonable. For example, younger women are more likely to be enthusiastic and positive as they’ve had less negative life experiences. The older a woman gets the more likely she is to be depressed or angry about life or vulnerable and those traits aren’t exactly attractive. Younger women also have higher sex drives, feel more confident about their bodies, and since they’re usually newer to sex they’ll be more enthusiastic and more willing to do things that they might put their foot down to when they’re older. No matter what type of relationship you have there’s always someone who will judge you for it, so just toughen up and don’t be a snowflake. Stop worrying about what knobs think of you.

[missy52]

I too like older men. I feel like they are at a level of maturity that's comparable to my own in many matters (with a handful of outliers who just never seem to quite get there or don't do so until they are in their late 50's). They also have more experience and can help me when I'm having trouble with something they've already gone through. Ideally, I want to marry someone who's older than me who made their wealth in tech or investments because those men are typically on the younger end of old. That or a teacher (preferably college or elementary). As I plan on being a very important exec, I want my husband to be on the edge of retirement or have a lot of free time so they can step up and do most of the child raising things. I'm still gonna be there and be a fantastic parent, just not the one they see the most probably.

[benzocrash]

Depends on what you mean by older, late 20s? Early 30s? If you’re speaking about men over 30 id say you’re pretty weird. It’s just not natural. You’re on 2 different levels of understanding and desire. Someone who’s old enough to be your dad should either be your dad or be no one to you. It’s just weird. Sorry to break that to you.

[andy530]

I don’t get it either it makes no sense

[Anonymous]

Smart mature women go for older men