I met this guy last summer while on a work trip and even though he told me early on that he was in a relationship we've continued to hang out every time I come to town. We only hang out after he gets off work, or I'll visit him at work (he works at a bar) and his friends are usually always with us. I know I should walk away from this guy immediately, but from the moment we first met it felt like we had this insanely great connection and there are moments where I still feel that connection, but often I'm left feeling really confused and that maybe he's just using me to boost his ego. He can be super flirtatious at times and other times very distant, and so I'll be hot and cold with him back. We see each other fairly often, but we don't really text and we rarely spend time alone. There was one occasion where we spent the night together, but we didn't have sex (though we did just about everything else). This only further confused me and I often wonder why he's kept me around for so long if he doesn't want to hook up.
Lately, he's been stepping it up and has been complimenting me more, being more flirtatious, and kissing me every chance he gets. Again this only confuses me because then I start to wonder if maybe he does have feelings, but when nothing changes I realize he's probably just playing me even harder.
Last night, while we were out one of his buddies kept coming up to me and asking things like, is so and so your man? Do you want him to be? And it made me so uncomfortable because he would not leave it alone and it just felt odd that he was only pressuring me about it and not dude. This isn't the first time this guy has tried to get me to admit my feelings for him and I always just laugh it off or refuse to answer him directly.
I know I deserve better and if this guy isn't stepping it up I should walk away. So please tell me I'm crazy for staying so maybe I'll finally have the guts to kick this guy to the curb.
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I think you answered your own question, everything you have above suggests this guy likes to play games. Those games won't stop once you are together, guys like that have to be in the game to make it interesting to them.
So ask yourself, do you want this guy to keep playing games with your heart or have you had enough?
I love how not only do you ignore the fact that he has a girlfriend, you have the gall to act like YOU are his SO... you are seriously crazy.
I'm going to guess that you are far from perfect in any of your relationships or you wouldn't be on a forum like this in the first place. You have no right to judge a woman for staying in something she already knows is bad. Both men AND women can be extremely manipulative which is why so many people land in toxic or even abusive relationships. You only know a fraction of the whole story and I'm not sitting here asking for advice on how to win him over. I'm trying to get out of it, which is something a lot of women never have the courage to do. So fuck you for shaming me...
Yeah, you can guess, and it's not even close naturally. First you try to make it about me and my character along with the usual: (no right to judge, I must be flawed in relationships, blah blah) Whatever lady, this is about you being gross and fucking someone's boyfriend. I'm sure if I knew the whole story my opinion would change... yeah no. All you cheaters are the same with your selfish entitled attitudes and weak ass minimizing and justifications. You knew from the jump that he had a girlfriend and did not give one fuck. You say he is 'playing you', and you need to 'kick him to the curb', acting like you are his damn girlfriend...😂... no honey, you are a side chick.