Should I respond back to him for misreading his message?

[Anonymous]

this guy and i were beginning to rekindle our friendship/relationship and I think i started to let my insecurities show a little bit and i think there were times he got annoyed. Anyway, Monday i went out to get bubble tea with my friend and didn’t have service because i didn’t pay for my phone bills and it got suspended so i was using someone’s hot spot to connect for awhile, then she turned it off and i couldn’t respond to him until i got home around 9pm, then he went to bed. Yesterday he told me he wanted to play this online golf game, but i disappeared for 5 hrs because i couldn’t respond to him. i told him i didn’t have service because my phone got cut off, he asked me why I would go out if I can’t afford to pay for my phone bills, i misread and thought he was asking how, not why. So i told him i had 20 dollars in cash that’s how i could buy the boba tea and he responded back …never mind so he was definitely annoyed, and rereading it now i sound so silly. do you think it’s worth it for me to reach out to him and tell him i misread his message and apologize for being annoying

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, I totally get why you'd feel bad about misunderstanding his message! But honestly, if he's getting THAT annoyed over small miscommunications already, is he really worth the stress?

Personally I wouldn't reach back out again just yet. Let things cool off for a bit so you both have space to reconsider without emotions running high. If he's really interested in rebuilding the friendship, he'll check in on you too in a few days.

In the meantime, don't be too hard on yourself - we all put our foot in our mouth sometimes! And his reaction seems a bit much. You deserve someone who stays calm and has patience if a simple text gets crossed.

I say give it some time, then decide if reconnecting is even what you want still. Don't waste energy chasing a dude who can't communicate like an adult. Bet you'll find someone less high maintenance who actually appreciates you, sis!

[bobalife]

It’s up to you, but personally I don’t think I would reply lol. He’s not even your boyfriend yet and it’s so early on, but he sounds critical of your decision making. I actually do understand where he’s coming from with managing your responsibilities for bills and spending, but it doesn’t sound very supportive approach than a judging approach in my opinion. But then again, I don't know your history and how long yalls known each other enough for him to talked to you like that. But you have no reason to apologize. Everyone has their own financial struggle and it does NOT mean you can NOY enjoy life. And um it’s bubble tea just sayin lmao. Hopefully you can figure out your financial situation. It’s also up to you if you’re comfortable talking about it, but that’s also up to you. Personally I wouldn’t if it’s someone I’m barely getting to know, it’s not their business and they haven’t earn my trust. But that’s just me.

[Account]

Umm I am sorry but I don't think that is your fault. It is none of his business what you did with your remaining 20 dollars and how you choose to spend them. To me he seems a bit controlling.
You already explained the situation and he still seems bothered by it, also let's take into account that you are not even in a relationship and he reacts like that.
Imagine how he would have reacted if you were official.

[Mr_twoface]

Don't read to much into it and just apologise for the incident. You should have told him whilst being at the hotspot that you were going off radar for the next few hours and since you didn't he got surely annoyed. Just say your sorry.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, navigating the choppy waters of misunderstandings and rekindled connections can indeed be quite the adventure, can't it? It absolutely sounds like your relationship with him is something you value and want to maintain. Clearing up a misunderstanding is always a good move, especially when it comes to matters of the heart (or bubble tea, for that matter!). It shows you care about the communication between you two and are willing to own up to little hiccups along the way. A simple, "Hey, I realized I misread your message, and I want to clear the air. I'm truly sorry for any confusion," could go a long way. It can also open up a conversation about communication styles and expectations, potentially strengthening your rekindling friendship/relationship. Remember, it's not just about clearing up this one little mix-up; it's about laying down the bricks for better communication in the future. Good luck, and may your texts be clear and your service uninterrupted! 😉

[Asker]

I’m not sure if it would matter to him it’s hard to tell and he kind of ignored me today. I just don’t want to come off desperate, should i give it some time before i message him?

[JacobJordan]

Shouldn't be buying Boba tea if you can't afford to have service on your phone

[DishLady]

It’s not the end of the world. People misread texts all the time. It’s the nature of texting.

[laly520]

its common to misread texts so no need to reopen the topic again

[FuqUFggt]

No. Communication is stupid and every single relationship has suffered for it.

[KrakenAttackin]

Was your tea friend a guy?