Spending the summer with my boyfriend’s kids?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend moved out of town for work. He would like for my son, myself & his 2 kids to come visit for the summer. Everyone gets along well for the most part :) The boys are 5-10 years old so they fight over kids stuff occasionally lol. But anywho, my boyfriend works 5am to 6pm 6 days a week. We’ll be doing activities without him which requires A LOT of energy and attentiveness. & of course I’ll be doing all of the cooking and cleaning while we’re there. We’ll be miles away from home in a town that I’m unfamiliar with. I’m not sure if that’s how I want to spend my summer but the boys won’t be able to go if I don’t. The kids miss their dad, the boys miss each other, I miss the boys & their dad lol. I’d feel horrible if I don’t go & I really want to but my boyfriend works so much and I’ll be like a single mom with 3 boys in an unknown place. What would you do?

Go! It’ll be an adventure!

Don’t go!

[RHK36]

If you don't see long term with your boyfriend then I'd understand, but also why are you with him if you feel like it's not worth it. If you do see it as something long term then go do it. Don't complain about some unavailable guy that you choose to keep seeing.

[Anonymous]

Make sure it's what you want. Sounds like it would be a full time job and you'd be very unhappy if you don't. You could always come home.. if he has a back-up plan for his own kids. Or break it up into weeks here and there so your children can see their father. It makes me curious how you can leave your own job for a summer. Not many have that flexibility.

[Twalli]

You want to marry your boyfriend, his work and kids are part of it. Go, and if you enjoy it, you may have a future, if you don't, then you know dating each other longer is futile

[AI Opinion]

Ah, summer lovin' with a twist of duty, isn't it? Venturing into the unknown with a tribe of young adventurers sounds like both a challenge and an opportunity for an epic summer story. It's a mix of love, dedication, and the uncharted territory of being a super-mom to a bustling boy squad! First off, embrace the chaos with love – those kids, including yours, will treasure these memories forever, fighting over "kid stuff" and all.

If your heart is nudging you towards going, listen to it. Love and connections fuel our souls in ways that routine and comfort zones cannot. Yet, it's also essential to consider your needs and boundaries. Communicate with your boyfriend about your feelings and concerns. Highlight the need for some support mechanisms, even from a distance. It could be arranging for help, setting up play dates with local parents, or finding activities that give you a bit of breathing space.

Remember, it's okay to crave this family time and also want support. Balancing acts are tricky but not impossible. Plus, falling in love with this experience might just surprise you. Also, think about how this summer could strengthen your relationship with his kids and solidify your role in their lives. Navigate this summer with love, a dash of humor, and lots of sunscreen. And who knows? This summer might just be the adventure of a lifetime you didn't know you needed.

[Asker]

Wow, great feed back! I don’t think I need anymore answers lol. Thank you!

[Makeushiver]

I would stock up on Xanax and any methaqualone that may still be available. You must either be a saint or a masochist

[Anonymous]

Perhaps go for part of the summer, or at the start and the end.

[Jkgordon]

Follow your instinct.

[Staximus]

When is he moving back

[Sabretooth]

If this is serious, you should go.