What do you think this could mean, what should I do? do you think my ex means this and will stick by talking to me?

[Anonymous]

I called my ex (on no caller ID because we both still have each other blocked on everything) because we had been looking at each other quite frequently when we’d see each other at the gym and stuff and he said he still really cares about me and it’s hard not to look when we were such a big part of each others lives and I’ll always have a special place in his heart and he couldn’t have asked for a better girlfriend (he said he doesn’t want me to think the breakup was my fault he just didn’t want a relationship anymore). We spoke for almost half an hour and we were asking about each others families and stuff and he was being really nice and understanding. I did get a bit upset and say how I still really miss him and stuff and he said the next few months (we have exams) he has a lot of sh*t to figure out and sort out so he won’t be getting into any relationships and to not hold out for us but maybe in the future we could work things out. I also mentioned about us still having each other blocked and he said we can talk after exams.

[SueShe]

Nobody wants to do the first move to try to reconnect yet I feel that both would like to.

You don't tell us how you separated and if the separation was on friendly terms or not. If it was on friendly terms, then there may be a light for you to reconcile. If it was rather a nasty separation, then there is no need to try to reconnect because if you do, you will simply fall into the same pattern later and all your efforts will have been vain and you will even regret that you reconnected.

If you want things to work out, then you need to find common grounds and for that, both will have to give in a little. I suggest that you prepare a list of issues that need to be solved and next to each topic, you bring a solution that you think could be acceptable by your ex. Ask him to prepare a similar list and then, sit together and find a consensus that is acceptable to both. If you cannot resolve conflicting points, then you are better off not attempting to get together again.

[Asker]

Okay thank you. We ended on good terms I was just really upset to begin with. He also said that I didn’t do anything wrong and to not blame myself it’s just all of a sudden he didn’t want a relationship anymore and his “feelings changed” which seemed to be out of nowhere. I’m hoping it was just the stress of exams and our argument about university which broke us apart

[SueShe]

Give it some time and try to reconnect after the exams. Good luck.

[Asker]

Thank you, his birthday is after our exams finish so I’m not sure whether I could maybe send him a card and hope that it could maybe open up the door for a conversation and reconnection.

[SueShe]

Just be careful with the wording. Don't make it sound as if you are desperate but also, don't shut the door shut. Leave him a way to take the hint but also to say no. If he does not respond positively to your subtle message, then you must consider the chapter as closed and move on.

[Asker]

Okay thank you

[_Maya_]

So you want us to predict the future is what you are asking? No one can tell if he will continue to talk to you. I bet not even he knows that. He might be well intentioned at the moment but something might pop in his head from the breakup and he might have a change of heart. Exes usually don't talk to each other. I mean some do and it isn't the strangest thing but most had a breakup for a reason and take the time to process that without bringing their ex back into their lives. I can tell that you still like him and it sounds like you don't want this to be over. Just don't expect him to feel the same way or you are headed for more disappointment.

[Mr_twoface]

You should live your life just as you are – being single. See where it takes you and have an open mind about meeting others etc. if you are keen. I’m sure he will enjoy his single life with whatever it entitles and if he is still into you after all the exams and so forth, you might ignite (if you want). Otherwise, move on with your life. There is always some reason as to why someone breaks-up and to give an excuse about having “shit to figure out” is for me pure BULLSHIT. He should be Fucking man and tell you what his reasons are than make you wonder and wait for him!

[boggboss]

None of is know your ex better then u take things slow and don't put too much meaning into stuff

[KrakenAttackin]

You two are acting like spoiled children.

[In_Trance]

Stop interacting with your ex

[spartan55]

He wants sex.