He is really not the type to express his feelings. May I also add that this is his first ever relationship and he is 29 years old. I really want him to tell me more often how important I am to him. I love hearing I love you but sometimes it is not enough. I also don't hear I love you very often. Once a week if I am lucky. I know he feels it because he shows it through his actions, but his family is very inexpressive and unaffectionate so I can understand why he lacks this. I just wish he understood how important words are for me and my anxious thoughts. I talked to him about this and he has improved somehow but still I don't think it's enough. I have been through things in my childhood and so I built trust issues and I tend to overthink. I am not visible on his socials and when we are around people he acts differently with me because he is very antisocial and can't do public display of affection. I just wish he wanted to show me off more often. I know it is not within him, but I just wish he could do more to show that I am his. And by show, I don't just mean myself. Even with his family, they are really not close and every time I go there, I am the one to make conversation with them and keep it going. He just sits there in silent and I do notice (because at this point I got used to his body language) that he feels uncomfortable. Tbh this has helped me understand (by myself through his actions) how much I mean to him, because with me he is super confident and comfortable. And I am just glad I provide that space for him. I just think he won't let me know how much I mean to him and I have to find that out myself from the things that happen. I sometimes end up feeling insecure in the relationship and at this point I try to deal with my thoughts myself because I know that at the end of the day I should do the working to heal those trust and attachment issues.
I wish he was more expressive towards me, do you think this can be compromised in some way?
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A lot of that goes back on how he was raised.
My dad was gone working 6 days a week, and my mom didn't talk to us a lot, so that is a skill I never developed.
I had a former girlfriend that was completely opposite.
She was very gregarious and could walk into a room full of strangers and start talking to them like she knew them forever.
I was jealous of that and wished I could do that, but it was pretty much over after what I did on my summer vacation.
I'm better than I used to be, but I have to force myself to talk to people.
You are going to have to be willing to accept what he can give, otherwise you break up with someone that potentially cares about you but isn't good at expressing it verbally for either loneliness or someone who doesn't care at all.