We've already spoken about long-term goals in a serious (not romantic ''and they live happily everafter'' bs tone) manner. If this makes me a biotch so beat it. I had enough of opening up myself so much and getting taken advantage but not just two past bfs but other people in my life. Yes I've become more strict, logical (I don't fall in love with words nor flowers anymore) and go for what my eyes see, for the actions matching the words.
Things I've changed about myself towards a man that hasn't yet committed:
- Don't invite him in the house
- Don't show too much vulnerability nor open up emotionally excessively
- Don't refer him to as ''hi my love, hi honey''. We call each other by our real names.
- No free meals at all. No of the ''make him fall in love through his stomach'' bs anymore. I'm cooking for myself or my few close family. No one else. Who on earth is a boyfriend anyways? What's so special that I have to cook for someone I'm just dating? LOL
- Never ever dedicate a song to just a boyfriend nor throw the L bomb just because of feelings. Just having deep feelings of attraction isn't enough. That's not love. That's just the early stage of infatuation.
I'm already showing my dedicating by sharing my daily routine, having a good communication and he already knows what to expect. This style seems to be working much better than what I used to do in the past. If my new method is working, then I should continue using it right?