2.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. When you say "men", you DO realize that it is a VERY SMALL percentage of men who even CAN do this, right? The vast majority of men - I'm talking 85-90% of men - will live and die without ever having dated multiple women at the same time. There's probably less than 3% who do this on a regular basis.
And why does this small percentage of men do this? Because this group tends to be largely made up of the most attractive men - either because of their looks, their money, or their attitude - and this gives them the opportunity to do so, and because these men tend to be selfish and self-centered, and women let them get away with that because they are attractive. In other words, they do it because they can, and because they don't really respect women because it's so easy for them to get women - often women are throwing themselves at them, in fact. This teaches them that women are just there to be used, and then discarded as soon as they become boring or inconvenient.
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I don't know if that's true with men. It's a numbers game for them, they cast their net to many out in the pond and will keep many women I'm rotation. Some have a greT catch amd release system, never committing nor changing for the better to attract better. I'm talking about 30 + and up men, average men.
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@Katebfun The men you are talking about are Top 10% men or better. The problem is that you aren't attracted to anyone else, so that's all you deal with - the rest of men are essentially invisible to you. Average men cannot have multiple women at once - most go months or years between being able to attract a single woman, and over a third of all men below 30 are virgins or haven't had sex in at least a year. You have no idea what life is like for these men because you choose to only interact with the top guys who CAN attract multiple women at once.
Asker+1 yNot it’s not the ugly guys be getting pussy too it is by the girls with the low self esteem.
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+1 yQ: What is better than pussy?
A: More pussy.

I hate to sound crass, but I'm being bluntly honest. I mean why do some women date multiple men? the same exact reasons except a man's goals isn't usually finding piggy banks with great careers and plenty of money to take and great genital action at the same time... if they even consider both as important.
Of course, I'm speaking in generalities here and there are always exceptions to the rule. But I don't feel I need to give the NAWALT talking point since you said "why do men" and I said "some women." So hopefully you don't respond from that angle at all.
Bottom line... women do the exact same thing pretty much on the same ratio level... although we often do it for different reasons.
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+1 yI would say either they like the woman because of how she is different and a new flavour or he likes the impression more than the reality and impressions die once you get to know the person and see them behave the same way all other people do.
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+1 yplenty don't. stop being a dumbass assuming all men are the same
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u +1 ySome guys do this because it feeds their weak ego. Most men don’t do this. I did this twice in my lifetime, briefly, and it was uncomfortable for me.
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+1 yIn my younger years I was shocked to discover something: There is a large and easily accessible population of young women who are not looking to settle down. They are content to find that a man who will take them out to dinner, treat them nice, then take them home at the end of the night, and then NOT want to have a relationship or be attached to that man. It’s not that he’s not good enough for a relationship…it’s that they simply don’t want one! They like the fun of dating and the weight of a man but aren’t looking to commit to one. These can be very committed professionals, girls who wish to travel and live their life free of attachments or whatever but they are out there. Often these girls couldn’t care less what that man is doing on his time away from her because she’s not emotionally invested above a casual friends-with-benefits level.
Once some young dude realizes this, he may find two or more of these types of girls and ride the wave.20 Reply
+1 yYo I don’t know where this idea comes from? And I wish I lived in an area where the variety of women flowed like that as if they couldn’t know each other. And what guy has the spare time away from his work, responsibilities to have multiple girls and their problems and commitments. Lol one should be more than plenty enough if she’s worth it.
So not only this guy has to be super ballin’, made his money or, is still in college.
It’s all short lived too. Just watch and see how whomever’s multiple relationships pan out. Who knows maybe I’m wrong?🤷10 Reply- 327 opinions shared on Dating topic.
+1 yIt's only a problem if the man is married. I think people of weak character who are in the public eye, like Donald Trump, get a lot of attention by cheating on their wives and it normalizes being a cheater. Then other weak-minded people defend their cult leader and attempt to emulate the filthy behavior.
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+1 yBecause we're just getting to know you or aren't looking for anything serious. The women I go on dates with are under no misconception that I am not with someone else if they are not there. Sometimes they even set me up with their friends, because they aren't looking for anything serious either. Since we're all on the same page and nobody has lied to anyone, where's the harm?
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@Katebfun been there done that
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@Katebfun Haven't you heard of confirmed bachelors? I'm 70 and never married.
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@handsomelad70 I just got out of a 10 year relationship. No rush to get back to one prematurely.
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I perfectly understand, BoopBoopBeep.(Perhaps I should have called myself "BeepBeepBoop!!!")
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@handsomelad70 no I have not.. seems lonley.
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@Katebfun There are still tons of people in my life. I'm not sequestered in a monestary somewhere. I travel a lot for work. Sometimes for long periods of time. There are people I meet up with when I am in that time zone. Sometimes she may get extra friendly. If anything I'd like fewer people in my life because it can get hectic over time, but no, lonely certainly isn't a complaint.
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Crap just saw that was to handsomelad70. No delete button. Thanks G@G
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Excuse me, but are there f**kgirls?
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@handsomelad70 I have no idea what that means.
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A man who has no intention of marrying, though it's an expression from my parents' era.
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@handsomelad70 Yes there are countless women with no intention of marrying. I work in D. C... plenty of women there just want to blow off steam. Same with where I live in the midwest. Active women like... active activities. Probably a third of the time that I'm hit on it isn't "let's go on a date" sort of thing but "I'd like to show you how well my yoga has improved my flexibility" sort of thing.
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+1 yThat's what dating is! When did we create the rule that you can ONLY just one person at a time, like, as soon as you ask for the first date, you're committed for life? Dating MEANS: you're playing the field, dating a number of people at the same time and trying to eventually narrow down the field to just one that you might end up marrying! Once you both choose to go steady, THEN you only date that one person!! If you're not going steady, you're free as a bird!!
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Asker+1 yHow come when a guy finds out that a woman is doing it he gets turned off and don’t want to date no more if she dates more than one guy?
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Because then you are tainted meat. Wouldn't want to eat off a plate some stranger may or may not have had his dick on.
Asker+1 y@Awesomesauce2005 ok but do you men do the same thing I never said sleep with them. If you are dating multiple women then women should do the same thing until they find the right one.
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I passed up the best opportunity of my life. He wanted what I wanted.
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They shouldn't, unless they made it official they they are going steady.
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@Awesomesauce2005 Good luck finding one that's NEVER been fucked! She'd almost have to be 13 or younger!
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Exactly!! Sex is NOT supposed to be involved until you find Mr. Right, NOT Mr. Right Now!
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@ApplePie409 And, you can't get him back?
+1 yMost men don't date multiple women only very good looking, attractive, successful guys. They do it because they can and have options and they're not seen as whores and sluts if they have multiple partners. A man who's had plenty of partners will always find someone who eventually wants to stay with them. A woman who slept with the whole village will only be treated as a slut and her value decreases every time she sleeps with another guy.
00 Reply585 opinions shared on Dating topic. I always did when I was doing online dating, like the girls weren't doing the same thing? Keep in mind I wasn't official with any of them. None of them ever decided to keep seeing me. I'd go on a couple dates, and they would find someone else.
00 Reply369 opinions shared on Dating topic. It is simple, impregnating a woman is easy for us and doesn't really cost us anything. Women on the other hand want a man who will protect and provide for her while she is pregnant and vulnerable. However, if he is a good man he will resist such temptations.
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+1 yVery, very, few men are like this. The men that do date multiple women are in the top 5% of men, and as such, they can do what they want. If you want a top tier man you had better get used to sharing him with other women.
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Asker+1 yWell you be surprised how many men I came across when I was in my early 20s that did.
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Asker... you are chasing Chad's.
Asker+1 yNo the ugly guys be getting all the pussy too.
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Really?
Asker+1 y@Awesomesauce2005 yes
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Why am I still a virgin then?
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I'm not fat, I have a nice car, I'm a nice person with manners?
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Same advice for men, but reverse. If you want most women you had better get used to them leaving you for a more "top tier" man when it is convenient. At least you'd still have a short period between.
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Would rather be a 6'+ handsome man in a big city making poverty money or unemployed.
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@Awesomesauce2005 Your age says you are only 19.
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100% correct as usual. 😉
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@KlinkyCoder what does being 19 have to do with anything? I know 3 guys my age who are married or engaged.
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Lol! Men in cults don't even have one woman.
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@supercutebutt wdym?
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@Awesomesauce2005 She's obsessing about Trump again.
794 opinions shared on Dating topic. Fuckboys do. Most guys don't but fuckboys are a loud minority in this regard.
Anyway they prioritise short term mating and having fun over long term relationships.
And as far as women go fuckboys are a case of stated Vs revealed preference.
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Isn't that because f**kboys are loud d-bags?
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That's not my experience but then again I'm in a different weight class than the F-boys I know.
However its not a representative take.
+1 yI'm unable to morally because in my mind I'm essentially cheating on one of them even though we aren't anything yet. I'd be afraid they would both be great and I'd have to make a choice that I may regret in the future. Also it can be really hard not to get information mixed up in my head between the two.
00 Reply3.9K opinions shared on Dating topic. Same reasons women do…. Partly to “keep their options open,” partly to figure out what they like. Additionally, it’s like a type of status symbol for some. 🤷🏻♀️ My take on it is to just stay safe regardless of how many people you choose to date.
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+1 yDepends on the guy. Not all are like this
But women usually enable this by ignoring large swathes of men (who are their equivalents) and trying to compete and “date up” for a top 1% guy.
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+1 yI don’t date at all 🤣 who said majority of men were dating multiple women at the same time? Those men who are are crazy af! Most men can’t even put up with 1
21 Reply18.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. How many men is that? Like 1% of the male population?
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+1 yi would say most men won't do that. because most men aren't the "player" type dude. but i realize that women are more often exposed to the player type dude than not simply due to their nature.
00 Reply 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. Yes , speaking generally , unless fully committed most men will enjoy dating multiple women at the same time , without doubt.
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+1 ySame as women like to have "multiple" partners at the same time...🤷♂️, even they "see them" with us holding hands...
00 Reply We don't. Only a select few fuckboys do, but unfortunately those fuckboys are the guys women tend to be attracted to.
00 Reply10.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. Most people that date these days date multiple partners at a time
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Asker+1 yWhy do other people act funny about it though like how do they except you to stay loyal to one person if they aren’t going to only date you?
19.3K opinions shared on Dating topic. That’s a waste of time they must think that this is the bachelor. Can they really afford it to date five different women every week taking them out to nice dinners and paying for their wine.
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Asker+1 yWell you be surprised because I came across guys who did it.
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As in with at least five children with five different mothers.
+1 yBecause women allow it. It has nothing to do with him, it's the women. I trust my boyfriend, however, don't trust women.
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+1 yit's fun at first but you very quickly get sick of it.
00 Reply892 opinions shared on Dating topic. Are we talking about actually dating? Going places and doing things together or just sex?
00 ReplyThe question should be;Why don't men date more than one woman at a time.
Which sucks. There's only so many to go around. Ah, shit, this world sucks.00 Reply- 750 opinions shared on Dating topic.
+1 yIt's so that they can remain w/ options. It takes longer from a man to replace a woman than vice versa so it's just a way to even the playing field.
00 Reply 2.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. Cause those men are unloyal sh! theads who view women as sex objects
Don't waste your time with them00 Reply3.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. you are only seeing the top 10% of men doing this. Most men are invisible to women.
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Asker+1 yWho told you that?
Asker+1 yHave you ever been a woman and dated men before how do you know that for a fact because I have eyes too I had difficulty dating when I was in my early 20s. And those guys weren’t chads either some of them were ugly.
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+1 yI date to find a partner. Until I have done so, I might date multiple women, but I do not sleep with casual date partners.
10 Reply Mainly because women are fickle. It makes life more stress free. People say it takes more energy to date multiple women but they must have never done it. It takes less.
00 Reply1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. The question should be, "why do women love bad boys so much"? Because that's what they do use and abuse women. These aren't real men. They are a-holes.
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+1 yIt lowers the stress when one woman starts causing drama.
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If there isn't a committed relationship, it's not the craziest thing to date multiple people.
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+1 yExploring options. Just like girls are dating multiple guys. Aldo helps us from being too emotionally invested.
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+1 yIf you mean dating sexually is because they desire to have sex with different women.
Just whoring around type of thing.10 Reply - 328 opinions shared on Dating topic.
+1 yThey're horny and they can. Not many men can actually do this. They're also probably degenerated in many other forms of their lives
00 Reply 657 opinions shared on Dating topic. Not anymore, have stable girlfriend and relationship.
00 Reply308 opinions shared on Dating topic. Nothing wrong in dating multiple women at a time. What if I fell in love with multiple women at a time? Then I have to marry all the women.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yman they must be rich or just really desperate for sex.
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+1 ySome men like to have choices among potential partners.
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+1 ySame reason why women like to date multiple men at the same time.
00 Reply 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. The same reason any Girl would want to date multiple Guys.
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+1 yWhy do some questions have no truth yet look for further information?
10 Reply4.5K opinions shared on Dating topic. Men and women both do this, to keep their options open in case one fails
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yThere is a certain thrill to being desired by, and satisfying multiple women.
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+1 yBecause they are dating not exclusive?
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+1 ySome men. Let's keep questions accurate
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+1 yall men or a few men?
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Asker+1 yFew men
Anonymous(36-45)+1 yMy guess is to keep their options open.
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+1 yNo idea, why do women do it?
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+1 yTo “explore their options.”
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+1 yThat's in their nature.
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+1 ymore access to pussy (S)
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+1 yGood old-fashioned greed.
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+1 yBecause that's what dating means.
00 ReplyDo they? Not in my experience.
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+1 yLove = business
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+1 yCause having 2 sets of lips on you feels nice.
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