Wife upset about my use of prostate toys /anal play and masturbation. Varying sex drives. Help?

[bisexualwomenlover]

Been with my wife for 10 years. We both know what we like. We have great sex. She always has at least 3 orgasms when we make love. First by using her vibrator, while I play with her, and then at least 2 or more from penetration. I do not disappoint. Not being cocky. I myself really enjoy anal play, and using prostate toys. She has enjoyed anal play in the past, but it's been a while since I've played with her ass. I would incorporate anal play on her, while fingering her vagina, when she uses her vibrator on herself. I know she likes it. But when it comes to playing with my ass, or using a prostate toy on me, she doesn't really want to. She doesn't like the fact I use prostate massagers when I'm alone. She says to me, "I'll never be enough, will I?" But it's not that she isn't enough. We have great sex. I just enjoy variety. We've dabbled in different things. But I feel like she's just happy with plain vanilla, whereas I love some neapolitan and rainbow. She's not into oral, giving or receiving. Although early in our relationship she seemed to like receiving. And giving took some time, she warmed up to it, she started doing it once and a while, and then stopped because she just really doesn't enjoy doing it. I can respect that. But she knows how much I enjoy it, and she isn't bad at it, and I always showered beforehand. She basically dictates our sex life. There is no compromise. We've been married for a short time, compared to how long we've been together, and have children together. I feel like we're on completely different plains when it comes to sex. There is so much fun to be had. I'm not at all going to give up on our relationship. And if I get us a sexual therapist, she'll be upset about it. I cook, I clean, do laundry. Work a full time job. I feel like I'm a great husband and father, Yet I feel like I'm taken advantage of. Why does pleasing your husband have to be a choir. Shouldn't she want to please me sexually, the way I do her? Mature responses please

[Anonymous]

suck it up and stop bitching.
Are you gay? you should already feel pleasure from your dick with penetration I can understand why she doesn't like that.
also it's not all about the sex she isn't obliged to suck your dick that's just a hype those bj
sex is just sex intercourse should be enough.
I think you're the one that should seek therapy on how to be statisfied without each time getting bored and wanting to try new strange plays and if u can't u get upset

[CheshireCat89]

You mentioned a sex therapist, buy what about a few sessions with a couples counselor? It sounds like the two of you could use some help communicating (without either party feeling defensive or hurt). Maybe with the right approach and some understanding you can introduce your wife to the type of sex you would like to have.

It's best to address these issues promptly. Over time they can turn into resentment and fester in a relationship.

[bisexualwomenlover]

Thanks!

[Dargil]

Many of us have things we do for ourselves to supplement sex with our "best girl". Mine is closer to the edge than yours and I keep it well concealed. Our sexual relationship is sparce, i fill in the gaps discreetly with (...) and our situation is stable. There is no reason to cause them to feel inadequate or expose them to "Ewww".

[AustinMan]

Talk to her. Tell her how important prostate play is to you. Has she ever massaged your prostate?

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10152-how-to-talk-to-your-so-about-sex

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10446-prostate-massage-properly-done-supercharging-a-hj-or-bj-with-anal

[Rissyanne]

You need a marriage counselor not a sex therapist

[singlebee]

Tell her to me more adventurous in bed... tell her you are not happy with her being so timid and insecure...
Looks like you two aren't very compatible in sex department... She like plain old boring vanilla sex which is very boring when it's comes to being with someone for a long time...

You just gotta talk to her and get her put of her small shell I guess

[johnmananm]

Anal play is the best. Pm me

[Jan1ssary_]

You want to stuck a Vibrator in your butthole? Get a life bro lol.

[Anonymous]

Expect a therapist or councillor to tell you that you're the problem.

[Anonymous]

dont know