Nearly All Women Have Their Inner Slut

[Anonymous]

BELIEVE IT OR NOT, MOST WOMEN THINK ABOUT SEX

It is difficult to understand this, mainly owing to a judgmental society, but most women love sex. They also want to be as naughty and dirty as their guy's fantasy, but are afraid of the slut label. Thus the anti slut defense results in them keeping this to themselves.

The key to a really great relationship is to unleash the inner slut within her.

WOMEN DO THINK ABOUT GUYS THEY KNOW

Many women, even ones with boyfriends, do think about their university guy friends. It's just that they are taken right now. So if they become single, then believe me, she has thought about it or will. And she does want to be sexual around you.

A lot of women will try to act pure and innocent around guys they like or think are boyfriend material. This is despite the fact that she is probably thinking about him and he about her in a very sexual way.

WOMEN SHOULD SHOW OFF THEIR SEXUAL SIDE

This is what the charming guy wants to see. Flirt and be sexual with him.

PROVIDER/LOVER CONUNDRUM

The paradox is that a woman will often take things very slow with a nice guy who is boyfriend/provider material. The guy who takes an interest in her, who texts her, who pays, etc. Whereas a guy who isn't as polite, who is just simply sexual and who isn't really long term material, she will quite possibly bang there and then. In fact she may even go absolutely wild and release her inner slut.

Women, you need to be sexual with the nice guy if you want to deepen your connection. And men, make sure you touch and show her your interest. And show you are non judgmental about women who are sexual to allow her to feel like she doesn't have to be worrried about being a slut.

WOMEN LOVE SEX

Women love to cum, but her inner slut is turned into a wild animal when she is giving a blow job.

Many of them love to be submissive and be as dirty as men dream about them to be. They are just more likely to show this to someone who isn't going to be around. It seems crazy right?

Guy: So why did you sleep with him?

Girl: He was sexy and I felt attracted to him. And he was pretty fun.

Guy: You gonna see him again?

Girl: Probably not.

Guy: So what about that other guy?

Girl: Oh he's so nice. He's relationship material. I wouldn't want to go so fast with him

See? She likes the second guy more but has decided not to sleep with him? Makes no sense right?

Women don't think logically when it comes to sex. Aside from real love making based on love and passion, a lot of women will have sex based on attraction which overrides logic. When it is moving fast, she will often sleep with a guy, even if he isn't that nice, doesn't text her, etc. Otherwise she starts to think I need to make him think I am not a slut.

THE INNER SLUT WANTS TO DO SO MANY DIRTY THINGS

While nice guy might be busy texting her something so cute, listening to her, paying for her and being friendly and the perfect boyfriend, she’ll be busy thinking about getting cumshots shot in her face, or getting fucked dominantly.

If she's not satisfied sexually, she will often have porn star like sex with a random “Bad Boy” who will be the one having all the fun sexually whilst releasing her sexual tension, while you the “Nice Guy” is busy massaging her feet and making her laugh and being a truly great relationship material guy.

They all want to do this, but you need to reinforce that you want it, otherwise they do it to someone else???!

WOMEN, BE SEXUAL WITH GOOD GUYS

These guys text you, they listen to you, they want you, so if you like them, why not be sexual and flirty with them?

The other guy doesn't give a damn, doesn't text, doesn't send a cute message, doesn't care, but you sleep with him? Do you wonder why guys can be put off?

[kaylaS91]

I liked this take for the most-part. Until I got to the bottom;
'These guys text you, they listen to you, they want you, so if you like them, why not be sexual and flirty with them?'

... why be sexual and flirty with someone who we're not attracted to in any way, sexually-speaking? Being friendly and behaving like a decent human being doesn't entitle you to stick your dick inside a woman, nor will such 'good behaviour' alone make her want that to happen.

[myTake Owner]

So if you meet a great guy whilst you have a boyfriend, and given the situation, e. g. university or work, you can't help but become friends, why then can you not be sexual and flirty with him if you later become single? Just because he happens to also be a nice guy?

[kaylaS91]

Because that's incredibly sneaky and twisted af to prep some 'back up' for when a breakup occurs. I'd be looking at the break-up as being inevitable at some point in time, basically putting a shelf life on it. In which case it would make no sense to remain with my boyfriend in the first place. But mostly, because just because you're a nice guy doesn't mean I'm going to want to fuck you. I'm sure most girls would be offended that guys think that's all it takes for us to open our legs.

[myTake Owner]

Oh no I agree, I think I didn't make it clear! I didn't mean the girl keeping a backup, that would be so wrong. Likewise if it was a guy. What I meant was this: 1. Guy meets great girl at uni. They both click. She has a boyfriend though. 2. Since it's uni/work, can't help to see each other often. Since they click, can't help become good friends. 3. The guy thinks she is pretty and has fantasized about her, but out of respect does not flirt given her status. 4. Despite distance after leaving uni, she makes it a point to keep in touch texting, etc. 5. They meet up amongst other friends if visiting the other country. 6. Girl becomes single. 7. Guy still thinks she is hot. Given this, would the girl be thinking about him or consider dating or even being sexual/slutty with him over others?

[kaylaS91]

she might consider dating him. There's nothing wrong with that in itself. Doesn't mean she kept him as 'back-up' while still with her ex.

[myTake Owner]

That is not my question. I know she wasn't keeping him as a backup lol. Would the girl be thinking about him or consider dating or even being sexual/slutty with him over others? And what should he do?

[kaylaS91]

Maybe, maybe not.

[myTake Owner]

Pls elaborate!

[kaylaS91]

.. there's nothing to elaborate on? She might see you in a way that has potential to develop into a romance. She also might see you in a purely platonic light.

[myTake Owner]

How would you tell? Given they keep in touch, he tells him he is so sweet when he sends her something and she makes it a point to meet him (and has made it a point to keep in touch)? Hows he to start flirting with her now?

[kaylaS91]

There is no way to tell unless you straight up ask her. She could very well be just as friendly to you as any of her other male friends, and you're simply interpreting it as meaning more than it does because that's what you wish to see. It all comes down to perception, in the end. Just ask her and spare yourself the bouncing back and forth.

[myTake Owner]

She kept in touch with me versus several other people. I do feel something of a spark there. Is it awkward though? How to say I thought she was pretty this whole time? And would I be perceived as a sexual man/potential lover given I have been a good friend?

[kaylaS91]

There's nothing wrong with telling her how you felt. I doubt anyone would have any issue with whether you saw them in sexual contexts or not, even though at one point you were just friends.

[myTake Owner]

How to you tell though? A lot of people say telling is silly and would just result in awkward friendzoning? What are u gonna say, as in 'always had a thing for u'? And then just carry on as normal? How do you transition into a sexual guy/desirable one given that you just met her at the wrong time (when she was taken), now she's single, and how to change perception?

[kaylaS91]

you're put in the 'friend zone' not because you took too long to express romantic/social interest, thus she sees you now as only a friend. She simply has no interest in you as more than a friend, even if you pull out your dick free of charge.

[myTake Owner]

But wouldn't it be disrespectful to display romantic interest to a girl who has a boyfriend? Not to mention being at uni, highly awkward, since you work together? Given that she chose to keep in touch with you, must mean something right? So how to transition in her mind now, given she is single now suddenly. What can the guy do?

[kaylaS91]

yes, of course it would be disrespectful and incredibly rude to hit on a girl or make advances when you're fully aware that she's already with someone. No, keeping in touch with someone doesn't necessarily mean that she ever wanted to see you as anything more than just a friend.

[myTake Owner]

Yes it's rude, and I wasn't rude as I didn't do that. Yes but she is single now right. And now what can I do? Flirt a little? What if she keeps in touch with him more than other guys? And what if he or she is visiting each other at some point? I don't get your point entirely. It's one thing to just see someone as a friend immediately. But what if you still think they are attractive when you are taken, and then you become single. Wouldn't they still be attractive? In this case, what should both people do (and given what most people here seem to say about the girl will wait and want to be led?) Thoughts pls?

[kaylaS91]

'I don't get your point entirely. It's one thing to just see someone as a friend immediately. But what if you still think they are attractive when you are taken, and then you become single. Wouldn't they still be attractive? In this case, what should both people do (and given what most people here seem to say about the girl will wait and want to be led?) Thoughts pls?' Maybe. Maybe not. Attraction to people changes over time. I used to think certain guys were gorgeous a few years ago, and when I see them now they're just barely average in terms of physical attractiveness.

[myTake Owner]

Ok but there is a maybe right? So advice based on this?

[kaylaS91]

umm... just ask her if she wants to grab coffee or something with you.

[myTake Owner]

Isn't that advice suited to someone who you just met? Not someone you already know?

[kaylaS91]

no, not necessarily. Going for coffee is a great way to get to know people better or just hang out, whether you just met or have known each other from before.

[myTake Owner]

Ok, but just by going for coffee what does that do to change the situation? Isn't it just hanging out?

[kaylaS91]

yes. If you just want his dick, tell him that straight up and hope for the best.

[myTake Owner]

What are you talking about? We're talking about how should the guy friend act with the girl he met when she was taken. She hits it off with him and they just click. Now she is single. So how could she view him now and how should he view/act to her?

[kaylaS91]

he should ask her to join him for drinks/dinner.

[myTake Owner]

Ok just like that? How should he ask? And how would that help?

[myTake Owner]

Also if they used to text a lot - say 50/50 initiation when she was taken and now she is single, he texts her less, but the texting interactions each time are longer, is that good?

What do you think of texting frequency.. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1952439-do-women-prefer-a-male-to-text-them-more-often-or-less-so-when-will

[kaylaS91]

"hey, wanna join me for drinks tomorrow night?"

[myTake Owner]

Is that clear it's more than friends? Say she doesn't drink?

[kaylaS91]

then go for coffee.

[myTake Owner]

What about a meal or activity? Is coffee too friendly/girly?

[kaylaS91]

what in the fuck is girly about coffee?

[myTake Owner]

I meant would she view that as a guy acting as more than a friend or one of her besties?

[myTake Owner]

Given he met her when she was taken, how should he act now she is single? Text wise and also in person?

[kaylaS91]

he should act like they're friends. No different. Best not ask her if she wants to suck his dick too soon.

[myTake Owner]

But then would he not just be viewed as a friend then? He's not asking her to, he'd love that, but he likes HER. Dammit that's why he sends her sweet stuff versus any other female friend. He likes her. So can he be thought of as a sexual being if they met when she was taken? How should he behave, text her often or text her less?

[kaylaS91]

you're 25-29 and believe in the friend zone not only existing, but being a permanent locale? Tell this guy (ie. you) to grow a pair and tell her how he feels.

[myTake Owner]

Seriously I/he is trying to ask for help. Not everyone is that experienced and it's down to individual upbringing/environment etc. Pls would appreciate you sharing your knowledge not rubbing salt in the wound on my inexperience/virginity in these matters. So what I mean is the guy in the friendzone in this case? He liked her but met her when she had a boyfriend. He ended up becoming a pretty decent sweet friend of hers and her one of his most valued friends even though they met later in life relatively speaking. Now she knows he is outgoing and fun. He is nervous and unsure though what to do now she is single? Can he be viewed as a sexy man? And how should he act if he does see her as someone he would see around his entire life even as a friend?

[kaylaS91]

oh my fuck. feelings change. Go work on improving your confidence before getting involved with a woman.

[myTake Owner]

That's good to know, thanks! I am glad. But I have heard women need to feel like they have just changed a guy's mind rather than him telling her he's always thought she was fit/pretty? So you're saying she might see him as more or might have this whole time? And how precisely should he act around her now and through texting - examples pls

[kaylaS91]

I'm not going to give you examples because you're clearly struggling to grasp the concept that whether she was single or not when you met, among other things, has zero influence on how she feels about you now. She might like you, she could not. Figure this out on your own.

[myTake Owner]

Yeah you're a typical unhelpful person lol!

[kaylaS91]

Thank-you. I'm glad I could be helpful by not giving examples of how you should act in your specific situation because I've grasped the concept that not all women behave the exact same way, nor are all situations identical without hundreds of variables changing the context drastically. :)

[myTake Owner]

Lol, I wasn't thanking you. You're a typical unhelpful person who is very rude to others. I was asking advice on how, you simply ignored it, acted like you are somehow superior (clue - you're not), and arrogantly after having not read my questions to you, dismissed it and said that I was being ridiculous! You are quite a mad person. If you don't know, then say you don't know. Don't say generic things. Obviously everyone is different, that's not groundbreaking haha! The point and question was advice on how to approach this specific person. Needless to say, it is highly unlikely that you would be humble and offer any useful advice or even at the very least be kind to others on here, but I hope one day you do stop getting off on your self proclaimed high horse for which you have not shown you know that much and actually help another human being instead of bullying them.

[kaylaS91]

hahahhahahhahahhahahah
sorry I didn't give you 'advice' worded in the way of telling you what you wish were reality.
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[myTake Owner]

Frankly I find it unbelievable that you don't feel ashamed of how arrogant you are. You don't seem to know anything, yet are preaching at others on here. Please stop and stop pretending you know things as if you are superior to the rest of us. A - You don't B - You are so arrogant, seriously C - I pity you and hope one day you will not have so much hate in your heart and essentially get off from being rude to others.

[kaylaS91]

Frankly, I'm not sure why you'd conclude that I'm 'arrogant'? I see nothing in what I posted or do post around here which would indicate that. I'm also not 'preaching'. Stop holding your mommy's hand everywhere and learn the difference between preaching and sharing one's opinion. :)

[myTake Owner]

You are really abusive and frankly attempting to degrade others at every turn. Just look at your language right now. It's pathetic. That displays your arrogance, your total disrespect for others and utter appalling personality. You are not sharing an opinion, just acting like you know something. All you are doing is ignoring whatever I write and just rephrasing what you said which was totally irrelevant. And then lambasting me afterwards to boot! If it wasn't so hurtful, rude and utterly reprehensible it might be funny. You really are being offensive here.

[Negrodamuss]

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[myTake Owner]

@Negrodamuss What are u trying to say? Please just say it, rather than posting links here. Are you someone trying to excuse @kaylaS91's appalling behaviour on someone else's question?

[kaylaS91]

lol honestly, you've embarrassed yourself enough. Why don't you just pull that stick out of your ass and block me and/or close this question if you posted it seeking nothing more than confirmation of beliefs you're firmly holding onto?

[myTake Owner]

You are a really rude person who uses crass language. You honestly haven't or don't seem to know anything at all and have no eloquence or nice words to say from your mouth. Do you honestly think what you just wrote here is something that is not rude, crass and offensive? I pity you as it really is abusive, arrogant and downright disgusting. You're being so degrading.

[kaylaS91]

lolololol holy word salad.

[myTake Owner]

You're so abusive, you seriously think you're being polite and actually helping people?

[kaylaS91]

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[myTake Owner]

You're describing yourself. Will you please stop posting rubbish on my take? I've seen the other nonsense you post on everyone's opinion. Have you not seen how most people detest your arrogance?

[kaylaS91]

I'm so amused by how many big words you're pulling out of your ass in an effort to make your opinion or 'argument' seem more valid. Without even realizing nothing you say makes any sense. For example, me crying 'martyr'? lol. This is really quality entertainment. 👌

[myTake Owner]

Will you stop posting on my take please? You're nothing but an arrogant person. I'm surprised you read my words, but look them up if you can't understand the English used. The fact you think it is entertainment shows everyone how twisted you are. Your bullying is pathetic, shameful and a disgrace. Please leave my take, I've already reported your uncouth behavior.

[kaylaS91]

lol k.

[Joc4Position]

Only the media and the ignorant don't know that women like sex. Of course they do. They are humans too. I've known that for like forever lol.

You sound like that Bandit guy. That you?

Why do we always have this "nice guys aren't getting sex theme" going on on here all the time? People are much more complex than that. Most people are nice and not nice lol.

[myTake Owner]

Yes they do right? It's just why do they act sexual and flirty with some random new guy or someone who doesn't care about them or text etc? Why try to act pure to those they know or a nice charming (still confident) guy? Also what do you make of: 1. Guy meets great girl at uni. They both click. She has a boyfriend though. 2. Since it's uni/work, can't help to see each other often. Since they click, can't help become good friends. 3. The guy thinks she is pretty and has fantasized about her, but out of respect does not flirt given her status. 4. Despite distance after leaving uni, she makes it a point to keep in touch texting, etc. 5. They meet up amongst other friends if visiting the other country. 6. Girl becomes single. 7. Guy still thinks she is hot. Given this, would the girl be thinking about him or consider being with him, boyfriend wise or indeed sexual/slutty with him over others?

[Joc4Position]

Every female has their own type of guy they like. Sometimes it is the "nice guy" (eye roll) and sometimes it isn't. I don't know. Depends on the female and what she wants. Some might would consider dating the guy. Other would not. The problem with guys who have the "nice guy syndrome" is that they think females are definitive robots. They aren't. Every female is different.

[martyfellow]

Many guys have this perception. But don't hold your breath expecting venal US girls to stop using sexy to get what they want from the men who have a lot of things.

[DeadShot619]

Very very very nicely said! Damn!

[myTake Owner]

Ta, what do you make of how the guy should get her to open up her sexy side in this situation: 1.. Girl (has a bf) meets a great guy at uni. She likes his drive. She even introduces them later telling her boyfriend, this is the guy I mentioned. 2. Guy thinks she is pretty, but out of respect, doesn't flirt. He finds her very nice as well. 3. Since it's uni, they become friends (guy can't avoid her despite fancying her). 4. After uni, despite distance, they stay in touch textwise and whenever she or he visits, they meet up. 5. Girl then becomes single. 6. Guy is nervous as to how to behave, should he flirt or not? Now in this case, would a woman be her wild sexual self around him?

[DeadShot619]

Not sure really. All depends on the woman and how she's thought of him the while time. If he has always been a friend to her then that's what he'll stay, but if she was attracted to him at one point then anything goes

[myTake Owner]

So how to know. Naturally out of respect he wouldn't overly flirt or touch her. But now how should he act? How would she be attracted to him and how would she be flirty/touchy and not act pure, but act sexual around him? How would she see him as a sexual man?

[DeadShot619]

Hard to say. Never been in that situation so I can't really help. Sorry

[myTake Owner]

Can u help me out www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2149531-do-women-let-some-men-get-away-with-more-see-description-first

[lumos]

"She likes the second guy more but has decided not to sleep with him? Makes no sense right?"
Because she actually gives a fuck about him and doesn't want him to just pump and dump her. She wants to make sure he feels the same way about her first, sot that she won't get her feelings hurt and her heart fucked over. That guy she had a one night stand with, she didn't care about. She didn't care about what he thinks of her or if he sees something in her. But with the second guy, the guy she actually likes, she wants to make sure that he won't hurt her and/or use her. She cares about his opinion of her. So she takes her time and analyzes him.

"The other guy doesn't give a damn, doesn't text, doesn't send a cute message, doesn't care, but you sleep with him?"
Because she's allowed to sleep with whoever the fuck, even if he doesn't act cute or like a stupid lost puppy. Stop acting like nice guys "deserve" sex just for being nice. That's pathetic.

[JRICHARDS1996]

Nobody deserves sex just for being nice. But regardless, it is frankly very fucked up logic for a woman to say that she is not sleeping with the nice guy because she "cares" about him. If she cared about him then she would treat him well and not be so difficult on him by weaponizing sex. That is like an abuser telling a woman that the only reason he hits her and not other women is because he "loves" her more and is therefore more emotionally unstable in her presence. You complain about getting hurt? Then stop fucking around with assholes who are only after one night stands. Stop blaming the nice guys for your own mistakes, and stop treating them like shit just because they are behaving properly. You want guys to treat you well? Well create an incentive for it by being easier on them.

[lumos]

@JRICHARDS1996 it's not fucked up at all. She cares about him, and therefore wants to be careful with him because she wants to make sure he's a good guy. She's not weaponizing sex. She just wants to make sure that the guy is just as serious about her, as she is about him. Thus she wants to wait with introducing sex, because sex is not the main event her. The feelings are. Comparing it with abusing someone is completely fucked up and you need to gtfo with that poor argument. Not having sex with a guy =/= abusing him. The guy can leave and find another girl if he wants sex quicker. However, for an abused person, it's often extremely dangerous to try to leave because it often provokes the abuser to lash out. It might be life threatening. Don't you even fucking dare compare the two. I don't fuck around with assholes. Nobody is blaming nice guys for anything. Learn how to read and stop making piss poor arguments.

[GreatnessRevamped]

@JRICHARDS1996 I think your first mistake is trying to understand women. It's impossible. Women are logic-defying creatures. The only thing that matters is how much they care for a person. If they care a lot, they will move mountains for you, if not, mountains can't move them. Just go with the flow... or don't. I don't care.

[lumos]

@GreatnessRevamped how is it illogical to want to go slow with a guy in order to make sure he's right for you? With a one night stand you don't have to "worry" about him leaving you because that's the entire point - to just use each other for sex once and leave it at that. But when you want more than that, you've got to make sure the guy is on the same page as you, and won't just treat you as a pump and dump. That's why girls take their time and analyze guys they truly care about and want to be serious with.

[GreatnessRevamped]

I understand what you are saying, but I wonder why do ONS in the first place? I never understood that premise for guys or girls. even in short encounters, I had to know the girl for a short amount of time.

[lumos]

@GreatnessRevamped some people just want sex, quickly.

[GreatnessRevamped]

hmm... I like my sex slowly. lol :P

[lumos]

@GreatnessRevamped and that's what girls usually want when it comes to serious relationships, because they want to make that connection first. But with ONS that doesn't really matter.

[lacorine197]

please don't get mad, but i think that's a load of bs, unless I met the wrong girls, these girls that you claim want to seek a serious relationship straight shitted on relationships with me by 1 thinking i'm a chauffer 2 trying to make me feel bad for something i didn't do and 3 overall clearly showing no signs of in the future wanting to take it to that next level, eventually the guy should move on and not waste his time waiting on eternity. though I respect your opinion tho.

[lumos]

@lacorine197 then you were with the wrong girls who abused "the system". I would never lead a guy on like that.

[mikemx55]

"Because she actually gives a fuck about him"

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[lumos]

@mikemx55 so... I'm assuming that pic is a good thing and I proved a point? 😛

[mikemx55]

Ah damn it: "Explaining a joke is like dissecting a frog. You understand it better but the frog dies in the process".

[lumos]

@mikemx55 😎 I'll just assume then that you're one of the few guys who understands the point.

[myTake Owner]

@JRICHARDS1996 This is absolutely true. I also do not understand the notion that you would not act sexual/flirt with a guy who cares about you and you see as someone special. It makes no sense to act pure to them and yet sleep with someone who doesn't text you, show interest, be sweet etc. Should you not share being wild and flirty and sexual and maybe kinky with that person? For that nice charming fellow, it is off putting when he sees her being fun and flirty and even a little slutty with someone who doesn't care about her or text her etc. He likes her for her and has also fantasized about her being sexy like that, but will be nervous and put off by this her being sexual around other people and not him.

[myTake Owner]

So why can't the woman enjoy sex with a guy she likes? After all they can be kinky, fuck her hard and share fantasies, role play whatever as well with them can't they? Wouldn't sex make their relationship deeper given they actually CARE? Ok what do you make of this: 1.. Girl (has a bf) meets a great guy at uni. She likes his drive. She even introduces them later telling her boyfriend, this is the guy I mentioned. 2. Guy thinks she is pretty, but out of respect, doesn't flirt. He finds her very nice as well. 3. Since it's uni, they become friends (guy can't avoid her despite fancying her). 4. After uni, despite distance, they stay in touch textwise and whenever she or he visits, they meet up. 5. Girl then becomes single. 6. Guy is nervous as to how to behave, should he flirt or not? Now in this case, would a woman be her wild sexual self around him?

[lumos]

Nobody said anything about the woman not being able to enjoy sex with the guy she likes? She just wants to make sure he doesn't run off once he has gotten his dick wet. If she's being flirty with other guys it most likely means she's not into this so called "charming" guy.

[myTake Owner]

Ok then that is a point. What do you make of this: 1.. Girl (has a bf) meets a great guy at uni. She likes his drive. She even introduces them later telling her boyfriend, this is the guy I mentioned. 2. Guy thinks she is pretty, but out of respect, doesn't flirt. He finds her very nice as well. 3. Since it's uni, they become friends (guy can't avoid her despite fancying her). 4. After uni, despite distance, they stay in touch textwise and whenever she or he visits, they meet up. Great rapport over text. She finds it sweet loving his lines? 5. Girl then becomes single. 6. Guy is nervous as to how to behave, should he flirt or not? Now in this case, would a woman be her fun wild sexual self around him? And how should he now flirt given she is single?

[lumos]

You've already asked everyone else that. I don't think you need any more opinions on it. And if you do, just post a question.

[myTake Owner]

I would still like your opinion pls. I already have, but hardly any responses.

[singlebee]

But who the fuck wants a girl who is fucking the bad guy and waiting for the nice guy? If she really likes the nice guy and if not find have sex with him soon why if she fucking the bad guy... Don't you see girls like these are already cheating and back stabbing the nice guy!! The nice guy would only want a nice girl who is not sleeping around while she takes time with him... Not a slut who is fucking everybody and cheating already

[orphan]

@lumos waiting for your coffee table book of insults.. i'd read it.

[myTake Owner]

@singlebee This!!!

[myTake Owner]

@orphan Nice

[lumos]

@singlebee then why do y'all keep crying about these so called "sluts" if you don't really care about them/don't want to be with them?

[myTake Owner]

Yes you do though but if they are behaving sexual and flirty (thus rewarding) a guy who is not caring to them or texting them nicely and showing an interest in them, then they would feel dejected. After all they are doing that, yet are denied her wild side of fun persona. She acts pure and aloof around them not being flirty and sexual to them. So they feel like they aren't liked by her right?

[singlebee]

I never cried oR complained! It's the other stuck up guys... I have a lot more better to do in my life than keep on complaining about not getting a pussy LOL :-D

[lumos]

She probably doesn't like him no if she keeps going after other guys lmao. This scenario is so goddamn stupid.

[Nik1hil]

This concludes it girls (not every girl) give priority to love and emotions and affection, while guys give priority to sex and hot sex...

So they wanna do this with the nice guys 👇
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1Y4_BivnrwM

Leaves me with another question, why then girls get pissed if the guys sleeps with other girl even though he is dreaming of her and fucking another girl.. He doesn't care about that another girl, doesn't gives her flower or gift or her credit card?

I am a bit confused here I happen to put emotions and affections above sex... Thus is makes me a girls brain in a guys mind... 😜😝

[myTake Owner]

It makes no sense why she would have sex with the guy she cares about fast and not be slutty/sexual with the guy she cares about and who cares about her?

[lumos]

Caring about someone doesn't automatically mean that you want to have sex with them. And like I said, if true feelings are involved, she wants to make sure that the guy isn't just going to have sex and leave. Most guys who want to have casual sex want it immediately, or as soon as possible. Very few wait around since they know they could get it faster elsewhere. Hence she waits to know his true intentions. I explained all of this in my original opinion. It's not that difficult to understand.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Yes! So much yes!

[myTake Owner]

So a guy she met whilst she had a boyfriend, and who she clicks with and likes a lot. She befriends him, stays in touch after uni etc. They just get on, and they find each other sweet. He didn't hit on her earlier out of respect, though he thinks she's pretty cute. When she becomes single, does he rank higher in her mind than a new guy? Is he a possible sexual option, if he's boyfriend material?

[lumos]

I don't know. I'm not a mind reader.

[myTake Owner]

What would you think from the perspective of the woman or suggest in this case?

[lumos]

Like I said, I have no idea.

[myTake Owner]

But can he be viewed sexually given she met him whilst she had a bf? I mean what is the guy meant to have done, hit on her in spite of that? How should he behave now in person and by text?

[lumos]

Can you stop? I told you that I don't have a fucking clue, I'm not a mind reader, I have no idea how she'll view you. Stop obsessing and just ask her the fuck out and let it be.

[SexyStudent]

I love it when anonymous person throws out crap with no backing or justification. And then we will discuss it as if it were a scientific study in the New England Journal of Medicine. Much of the above is crap. One example women like to cum but go nuts when giving a blow job. Bull shit I go nuts when I reach orgasm when a guy gives me oral sex. Too many assumptions in this confabulated discussion

[myTake Owner]

Ok what about this? 1.. Girl (has a bf) meets a great guy at uni. She likes his drive. She even introduces them later telling her boyfriend, this is the guy I mentioned. 2. Guy thinks she is pretty, but out of respect, doesn't flirt. He finds her very nice as well. 3. Since it's uni, they become friends (guy can't avoid her despite fancying her). 4. After uni, despite distance, they stay in touch textwise and whenever she or he visits, they meet up. 5. Girl then becomes single. 6. Guy is nervous as to how to behave, should he flirt or not? Now in this case, would a woman be her wild sexual self around him? And how should he start to flirt?

[Bunny212]

This is my opinion, there is this guy I have been speaking to for over 4 years. I consider him a friend, but he sees way past that, despite me telling him that I am not interested over a number of years. I realize he does me favors, and pretends to listen because he still hasn't given up, and often states that I do not know what the future holds, and that we can be together. I can't respect a man like that, he doesn't take NO for an answer and simply refuses to move on, because he is wishing that his mind games will work someday. With that being said, women are no less sexual beings than men, and we have the right to have sex with who we want, because we choose to, and not solely on the basis of a guy playing nice. Its our body, our choice.

[lacorine197]

exactly, I hate when this girl tried to get me to be her boyfriend no matter I told her that I am not interested in her that way and she keeps trying and failing, I tell her to watch herself I'm not interested, I like certain girls not her, I like her as a friend, she thinks just cause she's my friend she's entitled to my privates.

[myTake Owner]

That's slightly different tho in that you are both clear on what you want and don't want or who you want and don't. What if it hasn't been said, e. g. 1.. Girl (has a bf) meets a great guy at uni. She likes his drive. She even introduces them later telling her boyfriend, this is the guy I mentioned. 2. Guy thinks she is pretty, but out of respect, doesn't flirt. He finds her very nice as well. 3. Since it's uni, they become friends (guy can't avoid her despite fancying her). 4. After uni, despite distance, they stay in touch textwise and whenever she or he visits, they meet up. 5. Girl then becomes single. 6. Guy is nervous as to how to behave, should he flirt or not? Now in this case, would a woman be her wild sexual self around him?

[ksoma]

Being a sexual being, having sexual interests, fantasies, desires, an active libido, and a satisfying sex life, do not make a woman a slut.
A slut is a woman who has promiscuous, attachmentless sex.

I find it horrifically offensive that you would suggest that just because a woman craved sexual satisfaction, she was, in fact, a slut.

Language, words, and general semantics matter. Use them more carefully. And there is not one woman on this site that needed you to tell them that they are, indeed, sexual beings.

[myTake Owner]

Agreed on the term slut. What the take is referring to is what guys want, a great attractive confident women to be dirty/slutty in the bedroom. So in terms of women, do they have a strong sex drive and would they show that to a nice charming guy or would they just act pure and not show that side of themselves (even though the guy wants to see that)? And would they show that instantly to a guy who doesn't actually care about them or exude provider qualities?

[myTake Owner]

B) And what about this: What about: 1. Guy meets great girl at uni. They both click. She has a boyfriend though. 2. Since it's uni/work, can't help to see each other often. Since they click, can't help become good friends. 3. The guy thinks she is pretty and has fantasized about her, but out of respect does not flirt given her status. 4. Despite distance after leaving uni, she makes it a point to keep in touch texting, etc. 5. They meet up amongst other friends if visiting the other country. 6. Girl becomes single. 7. Guy still thinks she is hot. Given this, would the girl be thinking about him or consider being sexual/naughty with him over others?

[myTake Owner]

Dude can u help me on this www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30669-do-women-have-dirtier-sex-with-guys-who-don-t-care-about-them-what

[LittleSally]

Of course everyone who's not asexual has an inner sexual being - so... No big surprise there.
Of course we think about sex. And I agree - ONLY the good guys should get all the sexual - and other attention from the good women (or men).

[myTake Owner]

Yes totally agree. I also think good guys and nice women should be rewarded. Plus it's better with a real rapport. So much better. What do you make of this? 1. Guy meets great girl at uni. They both click. She has a boyfriend though. 2. Since it's uni/work, can't help to see each other often. Since they click, can't help become good friends. 3. The guy thinks she is pretty and has fantasized about her, but out of respect does not flirt given her status. 4. Despite distance after leaving uni, she makes it a point to keep in touch texting, etc. 5. They meet up amongst other friends if visiting the other country. 6. Girl becomes single. 7. Guy still thinks she is hot. Given this, would the girl be thinking about him or consider being with him, boyfriend wise or indeed sexual/slutty with him over others?

[LittleSally]

Did you two flirt at all at any point? If yes, I say go for it. If no - then she definitely only sees you as a friend.

[myTake Owner]

Can u flirt though given she was in a relationship? I mean we do have fun, she kept in touch, and I do compliment her etc. Just kept the flirting very low key given her status right? Now how should you flirt? And how to get her to open up her flirty side as well? I mean there must be a little attraction, otherwise why did she keep in touch... also a while back she introduced her boyfriend to me saying that this was the guy she mentioned? Thoughts specific to this example given that they both click and he thinks she is pretty but never told her?

[LittleSally]

I just say tell her you like her. Don't try to 'flirt your way into a relationship' - especially out of the blue... Games won't work. Just be honest. If you don't have the courage for that, then be honest with yourself and let her go.

[myTake Owner]

But I value her a lot, I am nervous. She is a really nice person, it's so rare. Can I really just say I fancied you at uni and think you're pretty by the way. Would that not be awkward?

[LittleSally]

Saying she's pretty is grade school nonsense. Tell her why you really like her. if you fancy her just because she's pretty then this will never work.

[myTake Owner]

But saying you see her as sexy or had or have a thing for her, is that awkward and would it go well?

[LittleSally]

In my personal opinion - creepy. Obviously you just like her for her body. Or at least that's what I'd think. You seem to only talk about that aspect of her.

[myTake Owner]

No I love her personality as well

[myTake Owner]

In any case, is there anything wrong in finding her pretty? It's more than that tho, she is genuinely a really great gal?

[myTake Owner]

Thoughts?

[myTake Owner]

Could u check this out? www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30669-do-women-have-dirtier-sex-with-guys-who-don-t-care-about-them-what

[YourFutureEx]

"Guy: So why did you sleep with him?
Girl: He was sexy and I felt attracted to him. And he was pretty fun.
Guy: You gonna see him again?
Girl: Probably not.
Guy: So what about that other guy?
Girl: Oh he's so nice. He's relationship material. I wouldn't want to go so fast with him."

The only thing I genuinely hate about women 😒

[SecretScout]

A made up dialogue?

[YourFutureEx]

@SecretScout The writer of article included this 'made up' dialogue in his article. I was commenting on this. This was an example.

[SecretScout]

An example of the thing you hate about women was something fictitious?

[YourFutureEx]

@SecretScout Oh come on. You know what I'm talking about. Women don't feed sex (yes, I'm using the word "feed") to the guys they "love. But sleep around with the guys they don't care about. OK. But if they're going to sleep around with such guys, why don't they feed them again and again? They just 'use & throw'. Hypocrisy.

[SecretScout]

What are you on about? How is this hypocrisy? Where's the hypocrisy here? What do you mean they don't feed sex to men they like? If a girl isn't sleeping with you despite your attempts it means she doesn't want to fuck you, it isn't out of spite - it means she doesn't want to have sex with you, no matter how much you try and persuade her that you're a "nice guy".

[YourFutureEx]

@SecretScout My point is, why doesn't she sleep with me 'again & again'?

[SecretScout]

Who are you?

[YourFutureEx]

@SecretScout Depends. If that girl is attractive with bad personality, I'd just... sleep. And eventually break-up because they don't give me the respect I deserve & I had no feelings in the first place either. But if she has both, then I'd plan my future with her, but she refuses all of my demands. So, all women are ineligible for me because of this behaviour unless of course, I fake myself which I don't have time for.

[SecretScout]

Ok, I don't know what you're on about.

[myTake Owner]

@SecretScout The dialogue was an adjusted paraphrased quote from life tho I've also seen something similar in a magazine, ironically a women's one!

[myTake Owner]

Yes very interesting point. So why do they act very sexual quickly with a guy who doesn't show care for them? Also what about: 1. Guy meets great girl at uni. They both click. She has a boyfriend though. 2. Since it's uni/work, can't help to see each other often. Since they click, can't help become good friends. 3. The guy thinks she is pretty and has fantasized about her, but out of respect does not flirt given her status. 4. Despite distance after leaving uni, she makes it a point to keep in touch texting, etc. 5. They meet up amongst other friends if visiting the other country. 6. Girl becomes single. 7. Guy still thinks she is hot. Given this, would the girl be thinking about him or consider being with him, boyfriend wise or indeed sexual/slutty with him over others?

[BuchitaBuchys]

It makes sense to us. If we care, we don't want to move fast with you because we don't want you to think "she gave it up to me fast, she's easy, I'm not going to go out with her again" or "I'll just fuck her, but she's not relationship material." Too many guys do that, even "nice" guys. With a one night stand or casual sex guy, she already established in her head that she ONLY wants sex. But with a relationship, she established in her mind that she wants more. And men who trivialize and treat it like it's the same, that's the only thing I genuinely hate about men. They refuse to understand that we can't detach sex and emotions as easy as them. We can't be free to be sexual like men. In an ideal world, men and women could be genuine with their desires. But too many men will call you a slut or would just "hit and quit", even the "nice" guys. They're often times the most judgmental about female sexuality.

[YourFutureEx]

@BuchitaBuchys They're immature who slut shame. And guys like me don't like all these "hard to get" thingy. We have so many important things to do in life and there are millions of other girls. You can make a fuckboy, a nice person by making him wait for sex (but you try to change him by feeding sex and that's why you end up getting dumped). As a result, you learn to make a guy wait and try these things on nice guys (not westernised term of nice guys) but eventually, they get pissed off from your behaviour because they think you're either not interested or just leading them on and then you break up. And then you girls say "all guys are same". The thing I want to tell is that there are too many guys too who don't even think about a girl being easy or not. These things are just for teenagers. But as you said "We can't be free to be sexual like men", this clears it all up.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Then most men are immature lol because most men do it. Like I said, it's not the same. Because with casual sex, you already have it in your mind that you only want sex. And when it comes to casual sex, you kinda don't want someone you can fall for. Why? It's a bit harder for most girls to separate emotions from sex. So if he's a decent person, but not one you really like, and you find him attractive, perfect so you won't fall for him. Guys can be fucking a pretty chick, with ambition, who has a job, is intelligent, sweet, etc and still want nothing to do with her but just sex. It's not that easy for us. Stop acting like it is. When you're dating, the dynamics are different. And sometimes it's not even playing hard to get. You just don't *feel* it yet. I don't think I've met a single couple who had sex on the first date or before and they're still together. They usually don't end up lasting for many years. And yes, we can't be free to be as sexual because it's not the same.

[YourFutureEx]

@BuchitaBuchys Yes. I can understand. Thanks.

[BuchitaBuchys]

And it's not "pump and dump" by the hot "jerks" they're complaining. And if they do, they're stupid because they already entered the agreement to be pumped and dumped by them. It's pumped and dumped by the guys they're dating that women complain about. I don't know why men lump them altogether. They're not in the same category to us. There's the guys you'll fuck but aren't relationship material. And the guy's you'll date. Kinda like men do, but men are more strict with it. And it's easier for men to move a "relationship" woman to a "just sex" woman and leave her in that category because guys tend to have stricter standards, not necessarily higher, just a lot stricter. And they can put the best woman in the world in the "just fuck" category and actually leave her there.

[myTake Owner]

@BuchitaBuchys You've contradicted yourself many times though. Are you saying that a guy who you just run into BRAND NEW at a bar. One is nice, the other not that interested in you and just acting dirty. So you sleep with the 2nd guy? Wtf? Who said the nice one was looking for a relationship, he might have been good one night material as well and surely better given he took some interest in YOU? And in terms of if you're going about in life. You have a really cool male friend who you met when you already had a boyfriend. He's uplifting, sends sweet texts, makes you feel alive when hanging out, and is someone you admire. Now say you become single. Is the male friend someone you might sleep with or relationship with? Or are you just saying that you would go for a randomner you just meet later on, either for a relationship (even though he's not as sweet as the other male) or sex (again, he's not as caring or into you)?

[myTake Owner]

This is nicely put YourFutureEx. Precisely. You can't have it both ways. On the one hand they're saying oh why can't guys be nice. Then they delay sex with him and sleep with the ones who aren't as considerate and subtle, but are instead brazen and purely sexual to her. Even if he's not as caring to them, she sleeps with the latter. Naturally a nicer guy will feel like wtf is this, he is genuinely into her, but she isn't being sexy/flirty to him? What about this

[myTake Owner]

Say a women at uni meets a really cool male friend when she already had a boyfriend. He's uplifting, sends sweet texts, makes her feel alive when hanging out, and is someone she admires. Now say she become single. Is the male friend someone she might sleep with or relationship with? Or are you just saying that she would go for a randomner she just meet later on, either for a relationship (even though he's not as sweet as the other male) or sex (again, he's not as caring or into her)?

[YourFutureEx]

We just have to deal with it. :/

[myTake Owner]

Can you pls give your thoughts on this: Say a women at uni meets a really cool male friend when she already had a boyfriend. He's uplifting, sends sweet texts, makes her feel alive when hanging out, and is someone she admires. Now say she become single. Is the male friend someone she might sleep with or relationship with? Or are you just saying that she would go for a randomner she just meet later on, either for a relationship (even though he's not as sweet as the other male) or sex (again, he's not as caring or into her)?

[YourFutureEx]

I think she'll do sex.

[myTake Owner]

Ok why? And how should he act in order for this to happen if one is meeting up with the other for example?

[YourFutureEx]

If you are current boyfriend and she's meeting up another man, bluntly ask what's this? It also means that she's a cheater

[myTake Owner]

I don't think you got it. She had a boyfriend. Meets another guy at uni and then he is in her social circle. They stay in touch etc. later she becomes single (breaks up with bf). Now is the other guy a potential option

[YourFutureEx]

Of course.

[myTake Owner]

@BuchitaBuchys That makes no sense. So you reward a guy who is less good in an environment like normal day life by acting more slutty/less innocent when posing for a camera or in the way you speak and possibly even sex, yet with a good guy you act innocent, pose innocently, talk less flintily etc?

[SecretScout]

What a load of condescending bullshit. You hang around some stupid people if you think this is applicable to women in general.

[mikemx55]

You mean the dialogues he quoted and his advice, or the assumption that woman think about sex?

[SecretScout]

@mikemx55 all of it is condescending. Of course we think about sex with people we know.

[mikemx55]

Really? I've heard all women deny that. That it never crosses their minds. They just think of them differently, like hugging and cuddling and getting married lol.

[SecretScout]

@mikemx55 you ask every women you meet if she thinks about sex?

[mikemx55]

Not in real life, but the people I meet in here, usually if we talk enough, the subject eventually arises.

[mikemx55]

"I've heard all women deny that", I meant all women that have shared their thoughts on the subject. My bad

[SecretScout]

@mikemx55 on here? You're either an idiot or you're lying.

[mikemx55]

If those are the only options, I guess I'm an idiot then :(

[SecretScout]

@mikemx55 just open your eyes, there are questions about sex from women all over the site, myTakes about them...

[mikemx55]

Oh yes! Absolutely! They ask about it related to husbands, boyfriends or people they're genuinely interested or just general insecurities, but it's bot like "uhh, today I looked around my class/work and found 4 attractive guys.. I imagined having sex with them cause they were hot! Later I fapped to that", Said no woman ever

[SecretScout]

@mikemx55 women aren't men, we don't generally talk about masturbating to random guys. For one it's far less socially acceptable and for two, we've mostly got a bit more class than to talk about it. Why does anyone need to know?

[mikemx55]

Because the topic arises and we're usually 5 thousand miles apart, so I'm definitely a total stranger who they're comfortable enough to say the actual truth

[SecretScout]

@mikemx55 total stranger/comfortable sharing the truth... Ok, those don't go hand in hand in my book. Ever thought they're saying these things so that you think they have no interest in you sexually?

[mikemx55]

Are you not telling me the truth? We're total strangers. The 5 thousand miles apart thing makes that last question pointless

[SecretScout]

@mikemx55 no it doesn't...

[myTake Owner]

So women think about guys they know? What if: 1. Guy meets great girl who is taken. 2. Can't avoid her since at uni or work. 3. Both of them click and thus can't help but become great friends. 4. Despite distance, girl stays in touch. 5. Guy still finds her attractive, even though he is a genuine friend, but is respectful of her status and doesn't flirt. 6. Girl then becomes single. Based on this: 7. What can guy do? 8. Will girl see him in sexual light, think about him and be sexual with him? 9. Would she be slutty with him (which is what he fantasizes about)?

[myTake Owner]

@mikemx55 Lol So would a girl be sexual/slutty with a guy she met when she was taken, but she is now single?

[SecretScout]

I don't know, we don't have a hive mind. I can't speak on her behalf.

[myTake Owner]

How should he flirt and what do u suggest?

[PrincessTashaaaa]

The only part I agree with is the blow job part. I enjoy giving blow jobs a LOT more than sex.
Yes, women are very sexual beings. It's nature. But I don't think it has much to do with the slut label these days. It's more because porn is readily available that we feel inadequate and shy.
Like, tonight with my husband, I was on top and all I could think about as he was grabbing my butt is that my butt didn't curve up like the porn stars butts do, and I was instantly turned off because I was reminded that my husband probably wishes I looked like that... :(

[myTake Owner]

Ok, so what is it about the bj you like? And how does a guy suggest it and how to act during? Is it cos it's naughty/dirty to be in that position? What about two single friends, a guy and girl (recently single)?

[Mustachekitteh]

All the titles you put are obvious. Of course women LOVE those things! Though you description after the titles are extremely off. Not all women are like that.

Plus when you say,"nice guy."I just picture a dude who's like a lost puppy and doesn't have a backbone to stand up for himself. Which those dudes piss me off and I seriously want to beat them up.

Honestly it seems like most dudes forget what a TRUE nice guy is. Which most of them aren't so nice it makes your teeth hurt. Most people can't stand dudes that are WAY too nice.

Most chicks want a guy that can be nice. Yet at the same time not put up with stupid peoples bullshit and tell those to fuck off. So like I said someone who has a backbone.

[myTake Owner]

So that is a nice guy - i. e. a charming nice person who stands up for themself but is also not arrogant, not cocky, but endearing instead and also uplifts the girl, texts her, takes an interest in HER. Is not purely sexual. But it seems women act pure around such guys and not fun, whereas they act more fun around guys who don't text sweet stuff, who aren't charming, but are instead just rowdy, or indeed just sexual guys who just speak dirty and that's it. Often the guys who don't actually care that much about her. A real nice guy is the former who shows their interest or at least is caring to her. Now do you see, do women really reward this guy? Or instead play mind games with him?

[Mustachekitteh]

Nice guys can be cocky son of bitches. As long as they back up what they are saying. Why do nice guys have to message icky sweet things that make your teeth hurt? What's wrong with being naughty and doing dirty talk? Honestly my boyfriend is both types. The good guy your explaining about and the bad boys. Though not 100% what you said. Still he does the texting/messaging everyday, he's endearing, he only uplifts me if I'm feeling down and it's a logical reason, takes in interest in me. He's also a cocky son of a bitch, I would hate it if he texts me sickly sweet things, him being a pervert is charming to me, and he's only sexual if I'm happy and he's expressing his feelings towards me.

[myTake Owner]

What do you mean sickly sweet things? So how you are, saying you're great if you do songs hung, complimenting your talent or personality, wishing u a happy holiday or something? When I say dirty talk I mean people who are prelude dirty or sexual or just the rowdy type without the kind messages or caring nature? As in versus a quieter but still confident when it matters and also caring person who isn't sexual in public? Explain and clarify pls

[Mustachekitteh]

Things that just sound to sweet. It's hard to think of them since I'm not that kind of person. My boyfriend doesn't care about holidays. He shows affection and other caring things in his own certain way. Which I like it. Yeah it's fun to talk dirty to your boyfriend. As in like saying how much you want him to pound your brains out. My boyfriend is the type that doesn't care about the public. He will still do certain kinky things with me. Though that's just how men and him are. We show more affection and intimacy through sexual acts. So the happier we are with each other. The more will want to do kinky things.

[myTake Owner]

So it's too sweet to ask a woman how she is, or say she's great? Ok, so what is a guy friend meant to do with a recently single female friend? Text wise and in person pls?

[Mustachekitteh]

Don't bombard them with texts. Don't talk any different and just be how you would normally be.

[myTake Owner]

Ok. So don't be sexual/dirty in person immediately? How to convey sexual interest and get them to see you as a sexual being rarther than just a friend? As for texting, I don't bombard personally. I do however read and reply when I see. I also respond as much as her which can mean 5 texts if she sends 5. As for getting her to initiate texts? She has sometimes? And as for flriting with her and her being sexual/ naughty with me?

[Mustachekitteh]

No never you work up to that point. Once y'all are more comfortable around each other and talking about more things. That's not something you can force them to change their mind about. Normally it's either you aren't just a friend to them or you are. It's rare if they change their mind after a point. If anything best thing to do is to just say that you want to be more than friends. Your cool if they won't do that right now. That your fine with them giving you an answer some other time. That you just wanted them to know how you felt. Not sure how other chicks text. Normally I would assume if they message you first they are interested. If they don't it's either they aren't interested, are way to shy, or to nervous and over thinking about what to say.

[myTake Owner]

Ok good points. What about if you meet a woman who has a boyfriend whilst at uni? Then you can't avoid hanging out and owing to both of you being great and clicking, you naturally are in the same social circle and friends. She likes your drive, you think she is pretty (tho you out of respect for her status don't flirt too much) and value how cute/nice she is. Then what if she becomes single later? In that situation, can attraction be there and how to be flirty friends then?

[Mustachekitteh]

Do NOT go after the chick with a boyfriend. That's just meaningless drama waiting to happen. Best to ignore her and find someone easier to be with. So just assume having anything to do with a chick in a relationship. Is going to fuck over you life in the worse way possible. If she becomes single then you can try getting with her.

[myTake Owner]

With respect, I don't think you read this properly or I may have miscommunicated. Either way, she was taken, but she is now SINGLE. So based on this?

[myTake Owner]

Given that you were friends before?

[Mustachekitteh]

Oh kk if she is now single then yeah go for her.

[myTake Owner]

Yes, so HOW?

[Mustachekitteh]

Normally went I want to talk to people. I think of a subject that I know they like. So I start asking them questions. Though if you feel like your having to drag the convo out. Then don't message for a bit.

[myTake Owner]

Will message u

[myTake Owner]

Can u try and have a look at some of my messages pls, I spent a decent amount of time breaking it down after YOU requested smaller bitesize chunks lol? At least one or two a day? Otherwise it's pretty sad that you asked me to help clarify and then just left it. I mean it took me a fair amount of time :(

[myTake Owner]

Can u check out this? www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30669-do-women-have-dirtier-sex-with-guys-who-don-t-care-about-them-what

[SarahsSummer]

I do things in the bedroom (and other places) with my guy you can only dream of.
Soft and sweet, Wet and wild, erotic, messy, sweaty, rough and powerful. Handcuffs with cupless bras, spanking, gagging, hair pulled sex that I love and you will only read about but that doesn't give you right to label me slut. I am a WOMAN.

[LaurenGrace]

Amen Babe its our choice to want to be sexaul the same way a guy does.. just because we may do some down and dirty things like Sarah had listed dobt label us sluts or slutty . I too also have an open marriage that too also doesn't make me a slut im in a loving marriage and thats what we choose

[myTake Owner]

That's great. What I mean is being sluty/dirty/kinky. It's absolutely great to be like that, be sexual and be yourself. And with someone who values you. Totally concur. What I mean is would a woman be sexual with a nice charming guy, a great friend or just the bad sexual boy who won't be around the next morning and who doesn't text her sweet things or show genuine interest?

[SarahsSummer]

The sex I described above IS with a nice, charming guy and great friend. (One guy 😊) I think because of those features I am MORE able to fully enjoy myself and pleasure him completely as well.

[LaurenGrace]

Im close with my "friends" they are people i do care for quite deeply and trust and respect and that value is mutually share by them also aswell as my husband. I dont love them i love my husband and wouldn't trade him for anyone , i do feel as free to do with my friends when we invite them to join us the same way i feel free alone with my husband or by myself. Id rather express my desirees and kinks everytime than repress them and feel like I've short changed myself and/or partner/s

[myTake Owner]

@LaurenGrace if ur single and she is? To

[LaurenGrace]

Who said my friends are girls? Mostly all guys Sweety

[myTake Owner]

@LaurenGrace Yes I am asking if the girl is recently single and guy she knew before (and now friend) is single, would she start being fun with him?

[singlebee]

Your are not a slut of you are doing all those things with one guy... or the guy you love. . But if you are cheating then definitely any girl is a slut

[singlebee]

@LaurenGrace then why are you in a open relationship? Why?

[LaurenGrace]

@singlebee its what we both enjoy and we only doit together there is no sex with others without the others.

[SarahsSummer]

@singlebee if a woman is cheating she is a "cheater" the term slut has no bearing and as I said earlier isn't a label to be used to describe a woman's private sex life. Lauren has a relationship that works for her and her mate, neither cheater nor slut is an appropriate label.

[singlebee]

@LaurenGrace hmm good for you

[singlebee]

Ohh no I didn't call you or Lauren a slut.. i only said that a cheating women is a slut...

[SarahsSummer]

@singlebee thank you. and without belaboring this conversation any further I contend the term for a cheating woman is "cheater" we really should learn to just not use your other labelling/shaming word.

[myTake Owner]

Any chance you can look at this www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30669-do-women-have-dirtier-sex-with-guys-who-don-t-care-about-them-what

[Berethor]

It's not about being more slutty, it's about being more active with the right guy. True nice guys are not looking for an easy sex and easy girls, true nice guys are looking for serious relationship with the right girl, and true nice guys are not only "nice" to try and get something from a girl, but they are nice because it's part of who they really are. Show you are not judgmental? how can you be "not judgmental" with an girl who prefer to give herself to an jerk instead of to an good guy? that is an good sigh that a girl is an real slut and/or have an very poor judgment, in any case it's very hard to trust an girl like that. Inner slut is the inner beast, only those who can control it, can be an truly moral people, and that one of the reasons why the society is right for judging wild sluts. There is an fine line between loving sex in serious relationship and having sex with many guys, an true slut is an girl that have sex with many guys, most of them are likely to be jerks and not good guys, some sluts prefer jerks, as they very much alike, while other didn't have much of a choice, because only jerks would want to be with someone like them, good guys tend to prefer good girls, and rightfully so. No one care about what someone is thinking, as long as they can control their crotch, it's all that important. It's better to take things slow, but not too slow, it's better to know each other enough first, if an girl is too first, it's an good reason to suspect that she was so fast with other guys as well, which can be an turn off for guys who don't looking for one night stand and easy girls. An good girl would release her sexual side only when she is sure about the guy, only then it's might be justified. Being attracted to someone is not enough, it's possible to be attracted to someone on the physical level and still don't liking their personality. If an girl feels more free to be sexual with an stranger then with her boyfriend then she is not good wife material, and I know for an fact that many girls are much more open with their boyfriend, just as it's should be.

[Berethor]

It's true that girls are generally much less logical then guys, but they are also much less sexual then guys, and no, it's not only because society, actually it's mainly because guys are usually having much more testosterone then girls, so really, if some guys can control their much bigger sexually, I am sure that girls can too, being an slut is usually have more to do with personality then with urges. It's hard to expect anyone to staying loyal if they are not satisfied for an long time. There are many girls who don't want to have cumshots on their face, cumshots on is an porn myth, girls are getting almost nothing from that, even swallowing are making much more sense then cumshots, because it's much more easier to come in the mouth in a blow job then in the face. As for getting fucked dominantly, it's happen almost always anyway, to different extents, after all it's the guys who usually doing almost all the job and not the girls, girl who know and like to ride are not very common.

[myTake Owner]

Interesting points. So would a nice girl show that dirty side or inner wild sexual desire she has to a nice guy? What about this? 1. Guy meets great girl at uni. They both click. She has a boyfriend though. 2. Since it's uni/work, can't help to see each other often. Since they click, can't help become good friends. 3. The guy thinks she is pretty and has fantasized about her, but out of respect does not flirt given her status. 4. Despite distance after leaving uni, she makes it a point to keep in touch texting, etc. 5. They meet up amongst other friends if visiting the other country. 6. Girl becomes single. 7. Guy still thinks she is hot. Given this, would the girl be thinking about him or consider being sexual/slutty with him over others?

[Berethor]

I know for an fact that there are many girl who propose for their male friends after they because single, it's happened to me number if times, and I don't have problem with it in theory, but here is the thing, the guy himself might not be interested in his female friend, after he know that she had been with other guy. Many guy tend to prefer an girl with an clear page, also the guy is knowing that she just break up with her boyfriend, what would make him believe that it would not happen with him as well. As an friend a guy might also get to know the bad sides of his female friend, and to no want her because of that. Like I said, people may attract to each other on the physical level but have an problem with the personally of the other side and/or know that the relationship with the other side don't have an future, so for those who don't looking for one night stand it's matter an great deal, and true nice people usually looking for serious relationship.

[myTake Owner]

Ok say the guy still likes her? What should he do? To see her flirty/sexual inner self? How should he now flirt given he held back out of respect? SPECIFIC to that example mentioned?

[Valkyrie1]

I want women to have more sex so I'm going to write all these insulting generalizations and tell them to embrace their inner slut. Women have sexual desires oh wow that's like being fucking human or something. There are so many things wrong with this post it makes my head hurt so I'm just going to say this: Did you ever think that just by using the words, "inner slut" you are partaking in our judgmental society? The word slut means, "a woman who has many casual sexual partners" but it use to mean, "a woman with low standards of cleanliness". It is an insult. There is a host of less insulting words you could have used like seductress or even dare I say goddess. My sexual fantasies DO NOT make me a slut. They do not make me dirty they make me human! I will also point out women can be very intelligent when it comes to sex. Sexual fantasies can be very detailed and diverse and emotionally/romantically linked not to mention personal. Not something I would do with a stranger. Or you know what here is a better idea STOP MANSPLAINING FEMALE SEXUALITY. Why don't you ask why women don't share share their fantasies. Mansplaining just makes you part of the problem!

[PinceNez]

So, women think about sex... And women love sex too.

Thank you for the groundbreaking news!!

[myTake Owner]

Haha

[Bluemax]

"These guys text you, they listen to you, they want you, so if you like them, why not be sexual and flirty with them?"

Possibly because they are not sexually attracted to many of them. If they are not attracted to them, then that's that.

[Starfishlover]

How about calling her a normal human being, not a slut... fuckboy?

[Dimmu]

Girls give their best to who ever degrade them, they can't respect who treat them nice And whoever can't keep her pussy from everyone around isn't normal its a slut

[myTake Owner]

@Dimmu So women treat those who degrade them better than men who treat them nice?

[Dimmu]

yea sure,,,,,, women like to enjoy her life with interesting dangerous man who makes her feel like alive but when they tend to marry they choose the boring nice man who wouldn't be rough with her and woudnt let her be alone dealing with children , these women are left overs and nice men dont deserve them, even those dangerous men dont marry them, those women are like filthy tissue men wipe their desire with by the way i am not a raged rejected nice man-cause i heard that a lot here -, i already have my perfect match

[myTake Owner]

@Dimmu Nice. What if a girl meets a guy who is great fun when she already has a boyfriend. The guy who is then in her social circle doesn't hit on her openly out of respect. They really get on though. She keeps in touch with him after uni. Text/meet up etc. Then she becomes single later. Now is the guy (friend) still an option? It's not his fault meeting her when she had a boyfriend right? And both the guy friend and the girl are nice sweet innocent people in this case?

[Dimmu]

First everyone has their own motives But do u think it's fair that a guy keeps sex for love be with a girl who had sex with everybody? Not cause he is nice to her but only cause he will accept her shit Generally if she didn't cheat she is OK to me

[myTake Owner]

@Dimmu Ok yeah but what do you make of the example I mentioned?

[Dimmu]

Wn a emotionally virgin man stuck with non emotionally virgin woman, it will be unfair for both, he can give floods , and her best won't be what he deserve even if he didn't realize that

[myTake Owner]

@Dimmu You're not being specific to my example, pls can you reassess the example I provided

[Dimmu]

Your example is gonna work if the guy had a past relationship or he doesn't invest much emotions But yea They are both good

[myTake Owner]

@Dimmu Yes that's a great point, about giving your best/being dirtiest with guys who don't treat you respectfully. And then lambasting guys who are good right?

[Dimmu]

Exactly

[myTake Owner]

@Dimmu I don't get why that's not crazy though

Surely you're dirty for someone you really like - e. g. the sweet person with good qualities who is more attractive than the other person?

Can u help me out on this www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2149531-do-women-let-some-men-get-away-with-more-see-description-first

[MissMcK]

A 'slut' for my boyfriend and only my boyfriend

[Artist10]

All good

[myTake Owner]

That's fair enough. But if you are single, would you be slutty for a great guy you have known for years? Eg a guy who you befriended when you were not single, and now you are?

[myTake Owner]

What do you make of this? 1. Guy meets great girl at uni. They both click. She has a boyfriend though. 2. Since it's uni/work, can't help to see each other often. Since they click, can't help become good friends. 3. The guy thinks she is pretty and has fantasized about her, but out of respect does not flirt given her status. 4. Despite distance after leaving uni, she makes it a point to keep in touch texting, etc. 5. They meet up amongst other friends if visiting the other country. 6. Girl becomes single. 7. Guy still thinks she is hot. Given this, would the girl be thinking about him or consider being with him, boyfriend wise or indeed sexual/slutty with him over others?

[myTake Owner]

Thoughts?

[singlebee]

Yeaa now you are talking... Exactly what I like in a girl... Slut only to her boyfriend... Not others :-)

[Chief16]

No! This is G@G so who don't we all just let women do whatever the hell they want!(quoting some pink anon). Biatches be like
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But truth tho. Women gotta admit they like dick as much as men like pussy.

[myTake Owner]

Nice. What do you make of this? 1. Guy meets great girl at uni. They both click. She has a boyfriend though. 2. Since it's uni/work, can't help to see each other often. Since they click, can't help become good friends. 3. The guy thinks she is pretty and has fantasized about her, but out of respect does not flirt given her status. 4. Despite distance after leaving uni, she makes it a point to keep in touch texting, etc. 5. They meet up amongst other friends if visiting the other country. 6. Girl becomes single. 7. Guy still thinks she is hot. Given this, would the girl be thinking about him or consider being with him, boyfriend wise or indeed sexual/slutty with him over others?

[Chief16]

Depends, I don't really know the gal. So how can I answer?

[myTake Owner]

Ok well it's described by this www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30669-do-women-have-dirtier-sex-with-guys-who-don-t-care-about-them-what

[myTake Owner]

What about female friends who become single

[idkwtftoputhere]

AY I'LL BE SEXUAL WITH WHO I WANNA BE SEXUAL WITH OK

[myTake Owner]

1. Guy meets great girl at uni. They both click. She has a boyfriend though. 2. Since it's uni/work, can't help to see each other often. Since they click, can't help become good friends. 3. The guy thinks she is pretty and has fantasized about her, but out of respect does not flirt given her status. 4. Despite distance after leaving uni, she makes it a point to keep in touch texting, etc. 5. They meet up amongst other friends if visiting the other country. 6. Girl becomes single. 7. Guy still thinks she is hot. Given this, would the girl be thinking about him or consider dating or even being sexual/slutty with him over others?

[idkwtftoputhere]

I don't see why not? She single and they get along great so It's possible?

[myTake Owner]

How should he flirt now?