Female hypergamy means that women want men who are better than them. The reason equality and feminism movement frustrates women so much now, is because the effect of men trying to be equal to a woman and take into consideration their opinion frustrates women. Women want a leader who take control of women's lives and tells them what to do. A man who needs to always consult a woman on each of his action is emasculating. Now why do assholes, players and badboys do so well with women is because:
1) They display they are better than women whether through words or actions. They re not afraid to touch a girl again when she says no. They aren't afraid to tease a girl about her insecurity. They aren't scared once the signals are there to pull a girl in for a kiss where as the other gentleman would be scared of hurting a girl.
2) They display confidence and don't try to sway their opinion to match the girl. if a girl and him have a disagreement they stand by their point and discuss upon it rather than act like a lot of these other guys who will change stance and bend their principle to appease the girl. 3) They put themselves first. This who women playing hot/cold and taking hours/days to respond to text and testing you all came from them mimicking these men. These men have things going on in their life and in some cases messaging multiple girls. So they show to these women my time is precious and take their sweet time like women to message back a response. Whereas, a lot of you guys respond within minutes and seconds to a girl showing your fixated on her and you put her first. Women want men to put themselves first but also appreciate them. 4) They don't tolerate women's shit and call them out on it. While a lot of men would let it slide because they fear losing the girl. Abidance mentality. It demonstrates the male is more valuable again and him being with her is because he choose to be her out of the many girls he can replace her with. 5. They don't act thirsty.
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6. They don't try to impress her. Like a little boy trying to get mommy's approval.
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You may not beleive me when I say this but here it goes anyway.. I am NOT attracted nor would I strive to date a man/guy who genuinely cares about himself above me or anybody else. I am NOT attracted nor would I strive to date a man who would disrespect me in terms of getting what he wanted despite what I don't want to give him. When I think of a man like that- I think that he is not intelligent. And being intelligent is important in a relationship to me. Now I'll admit I'm a shy girl at first, but I'm not going to let a cocky guy get what he wants out of me. I really apreciate a guy who cares to understand me. A guy who I already have a connection with and a mutual attraction to, he is okay to kiss me without being worried I'll be mad at him for it. I like a kind man. As long as I know he has a good heart it's all good. I just don't click with anyone who is simple minded and doesn't care about how I feel. He doesn't need to have tatoos, be tall, or wear saggy jeans and a muscle shirt.
I voted yes because it probable happens a lot! Sorry to you men who don't deserve the critisizm! You are awesome for just sticking through it. :/
Also sorry because I ramble way too much. Sorrrrryy. I don't like cocky guys. Period. It's always been unnatractive my whole life. In school, there are always the Alfa dogs of the grade- the ones all the girls "secretly" are crushing on. The guy who calls the shots and speaks everything off his mind. He is the guy all eyes are on. And every one of those Alfa dogs did not attract me in the slightest. I was moreso disgusted. No offense. Literally 98% of the girls at least showed some attraction or respect for these guys. Guys like that don't have my respect. Do something kind and then you'll gain some respect.
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These may work on women that are indeed less than you, it won't work on women that are better than you or on your level. The key words are assertiveness and masculinity. Women crave these traits. The things you have listed here are not my thing. I don't like selfish men. They are the worst. And I have nothing to lose if he is not offering me anything valuable. If he always thinks of himself, if he strings me along he could be the hottest man on earth but he won't do it for me. I like to feel like prize. But then again my standards are pretty high.
Can you explain then why we have so many women making more than their man and doctors, lawyers with guys who have nothing going on in their life but display these very exact traits.
Women are always marrying up (most of the time). Most guys date girls that are less than them. Usually the most good looking/high value women are harder to catch (higher standards). As I said these things will work on women that are less than you, which makes sense cuz she will want your validation. You can manipulate her into being your personal bitch. This won't work on women who are self assured and are looking for something more than validation. I like a masculine man who makes me feel like a special woman. I like being ''the chosen one''. If treats me the same as other women he is of no use to me.
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Marrying and dating are too different things. A woman when it's time to settle down will marry up for sure and look for wealth but when they are dating whether LTR ro STRthey look for these traits in their men.
"This won't work on women who are self assured and are looking for something more than validation. "
This definitely work. Majority of women are insecure they just hide it and up a good front. We see perfect stance of this when the vast majority of you'll are too scared to approach the guy they want.
" I like a masculine man who makes me feel like a special woman. I like being ''the chosen one''."
* A woman when it's time to settle down will marry up for sure and look for wealth but when they are dating whether LTR or STR they look for these traits in their men and put priority over this.
No, I am sorry. You want to believe that this works on all women, it really doesn't. It will work on insecure women. On women that are less than you and are impressed when you give them some attention. I am not impressed when a handsome guy gives me attention, I'm very much used to have this kind of attention. I am looking for more. If he is a player he has nothing to offer for me, him playing me will only make my value drop in the face of other women. I won't let it happen. As I said, I like a generous masculine man who is very much in love with me. I only invest my time in someone who is worth investing. I don't care about a handsome guy who is just handsome. If that handsome belongs to everybody he is not special. It's like driving another person's car and being proud of it.. doesn't make sense.
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Can anyone guess what GaG user came to mind when I saw this? XD
Personally, I don't agree. Maybe he sleeps with her, but long-term it's likely not the guy she's going to choose.
Which is why I avoid bad foods AS MUCH as possible 6 days out of the week. Saturday is the day I can eat what I want (in moderation).
Why *I* go to the gym for 90 minutes (minimum), 5 days a week. My 6th day, it 2-4 hours (swimming is 3-5 hours) of some form of exercise. Why *I* spend hours making my meals for the work week.
Well actually there is quite some truth to it. Marriages in earlier times used to survive cause it had Man as the provider and woman as the care-taker. But with gender roles getting blurred their has been an exponential rise in divorce rates also. I am all for women rights, but yes when women become the dominating one in a relationship things will not go too well.
Make a definition broad enough and someone is bound to fit into it. Still, I don't think one must be an asshole/player to fit those requirements. Especially if he's looking for something special. I also don't think most women look for all of those qualities. Or at least my personal experience hasn't proven it.
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I don't agree at all. I don't want a guy that'll boss me around but I also don't want to boss him around, I want to be equals. The only reason I would be attracted to a player/asshole is because he's hot. That's it.
Lmao kinda brah bexause "players" "fucboys" are mostly big jacked ones who aren't insecured of "mixed signals" chicks "send" them and they dont complaint about chicks liking "nice guys" so
Another MAN. Trying to justify a woman's action to women 😤 Or how our mentality works. Why can't people just stop picking our brain.
Women like confident caring men. Not friken jail magnets and assholes. 🙄
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I will download the first picture from the top. Not because it, and the whole of your question, says nothing I was unaware of. But it's uncommonly funny :))
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Laws of nature are much easier to be denied than be erased. They will be always denied, but never erased, in fact.
this hypergamy thing is out of proportion. when your society does dowries and and has a strong caste system then there will be hypergamy like in some parts of india, but not where we live dude. the average women does not aim for hypergamy.
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So all these articles in the west of women complaining not enough real men is what then?
Not just complaints but even on gag many women are complaing about lack of real men because of hypergamy. Women want to date guys who make more than them in the west. However,
If you make more than 34k/year you are in the global top 1% of wealth in the world. Kind of hard for women to marry up when many of them are competing with men for jobs and making more than them.
Hence, many women complaing aobut the lack of men. Hypergamy is real. It's ingrain in women. Many women who reach high level jobs making 100k/year complain about their shortage of men in dating pool because they refuse to date down.
Hell a question on gag was posted on whether women should start dating men who make less than them and majority objected.
"Hypergamy (colloquially referred to as "marrying up") is a term used in social science for the act or practice of a woman marrying a man of higher caste or social status than herself."
Wealth and social status are often linked together in the west. Caste isn't only tied to Indian but there is a caste in the west. America and many countries in the West are pro white. You'll fine a large majority of minorities put whites on a pedestal and many white guys/girls have an easier getting a hot girl that is non-white.
This is especially true when we look at Asian girls.
i dont really know how American society works. i have never experienced this social status thing here in Europe. i know girls that come from a wealthy family that date total hobos.
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European tend to less materialistic but this is the culture in the west. I know a german girl coming from a rich family dating a tall, handsome fisherman right now.
historically in Europe we have had counter cultures against the aristocracy and their classes. perhaps this causes us date people from different statuses. also in Easter Europe people are even less materialistic as in western Europe
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But again there are similar instances in the west where many girls who are doctors, lawyers are dating guys who make way less than them or total losers too. These guys win out and get the girl by displaying the same traits above.
The fisherman guy the german girl is dating does this. He shows he likes her but always less. She put hearts on his picture on FB and he puts likes on her. Signifying she wants him more. It's all about perceived value with women. If you show you are better than them they want you.
creep shaming is just another way for women to demonize a guy who she doesn't find attractive approaching here. The assholes can see it, most sensible men who are getting laid can see it, men who aren't manginas observe women can see it.
Guy will tell you this guy is a genuinely good guy that women reject to go with an asshole because she got bored. And in regard to that stereotypical bad mytake. Why not watch this video by a more sensible woman who basically shows all the thing women say about the nice guy is them just trying to justify why it's ok to demonize and hate them.
*creep shaming is just another way for women to demonize a guy who she doesn't find attractive for having the balls/nerve to approach her. 2 men could do the exact same approach and women will perceive the less attractive guy as a creep if she doesn't feel validated by his approach.
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Nah, son. That might work with some, but you can't generalize. There are those of us that do not like the asshole/player. I can't stand those types.
im cold towards women... and never smile around them... i dont even hold doors open... you have to have a certain look to pull that shit off or it won't work...
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What the cuck did I just read?
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You just read how to get girls son rather than being friendzoned.
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