Sexual Relationships 
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I'm currently falling for someone I met online. We've been spending so much time with one another lately, which feels so amazing that I'm honestly at a loss for words.
Here are some of the other takes about this guy (most recent to least recent);
How to have a cheap date (including amazing atmosphere, great conversations) - date #8
Slowly falling for him, him hugging strangers, a really cute letter - date #7
Making memories together, him biting but not kissing me yet - date #6
Train ride
On our ninth date, we went to another city yet again. Going there was exhausting. He picked me up in my city - we were on some tourist's video that he took in the train. I tried being calm about it and then remembered that this video may appear on YouTube, so I told him I'd be right back, walked up to that guy, put on my friendliest voice and said:
"Excuse me Sir, I see you're filming a video, would you mind deleting it? I don't want to be a part of it."
He assured me that he'd cut out the parts where I appeared and I thanked him in an incredibly sweet voice I didn't know I was capable of.
I turned around, walked back to my seat and saw that my man had gotten up - he looked at me in a confused way and told me that he'd expected me to start a small fight. He's good for me, there's no reason for me to fight people unless they don't respect my wishes after I've told them politely what I want three times.
We then watched a video together - I knew I wanted some spiritual input that day, he wanted to join in, but I'm pretty sure it bored him. Still, he thanked me for letting him be a part of my little routine.
Arriving in a new city
It was freezing cold when we got to our destination, I made him take cute pictures of us together in front of the train station and then we went to explore the city.
We didn't like it as much as the other city we went to on our sixth date, but it was still nice to walk around with him and to talk about different topics.
Minor disagreement
I got him food, he got me cake and hot chocolate at a café - when I mentioned that I'm happy we weren't at the peak of our "relationship" (we're not together) yet, he stopped talking to me, let go of my hand and continued to reject me for about 45mins. At that very café, the lady behind the counter smiled at us and told us how cute we looked together - this never happens in Europe, she was genuine about it, so we apparently do have amazing Chemistry.
The whole him getting angry and sad thing is because we have the following agreement: if we can't see a future with one another, we'll end things when we're at the peak of our relationship. Sometimes one of us says things that remind the other of the end, which makes both of us sad. It's crazy how far ahead we can imagine our relationship going. I've never felt this way and I'm pretty certain he hasn't either.
I don't like thinking about this too much, it's too early, but on our ninth date, he mentioned that he'd love to buy us a house anywhere I'd like to be. The thought of living with him is wonderful, but we won't move in with one another before getting married.
I have to say that if this wasn't the case, we'd probably live together by the end of the year and that would be too fast for both of us.
Porn
I was very close to leaving when he continued to reject me and didn't even tell me what was going on. That was just rude of him. I told him that I didn't know what I should do and he said that he wanted to go walk across a bridge, which I agreed would be a nice idea.
Things got better then - we sat down to talk, I started a conversation about porn because I wanted to hear what he had to say about it. I grew up in a religious house hold and am used to speaking very openly about these topics - luckily, he's fine with that too. Sex isn't everything, but communication is, and when looking for a mate, I personally always look for someone who can TALK OPENLY with me.
I asked him what song was playing in the back of a very short pornographic video because he knows music very well and I hadn't been able to find the song. He knew the video and the song but was confused that I had watched this video - that was an awkward moment, but things were fine a few seconds later. I like that even when things get weird, we're good.
A serious conversation
We walked around some more until he said that he wanted to have a deep talk with me.
We spoke about us and random things, when out of nowhere he looked right at me and said "You already know what I'll tell you now." Indeed, I did - I was waiting for him to tell me that he was still a virgin. He had teasered this topic in one of his texts about his only ex some days before going to this city together and I was expecting him to talk about it now. I said "I'm not sure about that" because I know that he likes a challenge - and then he said "Ich liebe dich" (I love you in German).
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I said "woah, that's really early and I'm not even remotely there yet" and he just gazed at me and told me that that didn't matter and that he'd only told me because we had promised one another to say things like this whenever we feel them. I took his hand and apologized for not feeling that way yet, but he didn't care about that at all. He told me that all he had wanted was to tell me in person.
I asked him what loving someone meant to him - our definitions of the phrase don't overlap. To him, it means that he can see a future with someone, while to me, it means that I can't imagine spending my life without someone anymore. Not in a childish or overly dependent way, but knowing that you don't want to go through life without someone is my personal definition of love.
Finally kissing
We walked back very slowly in the dark, but the train was too full, so we got off again. I said: "you know what, why don't we just forget about the sanction and kiss near the river?" His eyes lit up and he smiled a very big smile. We walked back to the river very fast - he had to take a phone call (this is one of our biggest issues, him leaving during special moments) and I waited for him. I already thought that we wouldn't kiss, but when we were finally on the bridge in the dark together, the city looked so beautiful and picturesque that I knew this was the moment we'd waited for for nine dates.
We did end up kissing one another. It was a little wet, but I didn't mind because he had told me prior that he was a little "rusty" - that honestly took so much pressure out of the whole first kiss thing for me. Both of us only kissed one other person before meeting one another, so it was very special to the two of us. I also loved how soft his lips felt, I kissed him again on the way back to the train station and gave him a letter I had brought along in case we'd kiss. In that letter, I thanked him for waiting for the perfect moment, for not rushing me or himself and for everything he's already done for us. He read it in front of me, I had picked it out only a few days before at a local store and instantly knew what I'd use it for - he loved that small gesture and we both went home deeply satisfied and happy that day.
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Have you ever had someone tell you "I love you" too early on?
How early is too early for you?
What was your last first kiss/your first ever first kiss like?
Do you think that first kisses are important? Why?
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