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How to have a cheap date (including amazing atmosphere, great conversations) - date #8

tallandsweet

As most of you are aware of now, I'm dating someone right now but we don't have a label yet other than being exclusive. We've been on so many dates recently that I haven't gotten around posting, so this is where the series continues.

Here's my last three posts on him:

Slowly falling for him, him hugging strangers, a really cute letter - date #7

Making memories together, him biting but not kissing me yet - date #6

Going exclusive is scary. Why won't he kiss me? [Three months of online dating series]

Here's the thing - we really miss one another during the week and he's been trying to see me more often recently.

[Photo by Jakob Owens on Unsplash]
[Photo by Jakob Owens on Unsplash]

I don't have a lot of time, I've got university, church and a life next to that, but he manages to squeeze himself in.

Some people love planning their dates a long time in advance and while I think that this makes dates more special, I also appreciate spontaneous dates where you focus on the other person more and not on the great things you're doing with one another.

I was shook when reading the reponses to several questions posted recently where users asked other users how much money they spent on (first) dates. Some people spent up to 200$.

I tried thinking of an activity as expensive as this but couldn't come up with one. So here's some ideas to spice up your dates without spending more money than you'd like.

I'm not expensive. On date #8 with this guy, I paid at the one venue while he paid at the other - not one of us spent more than the other person. Nobody spent more than 10€ and we had food, coke and hot chocolate.

I will get back to this, seeing each other in our situation is definitely more expensive than it should be (because of the distance thing).

[Photo by Farrinni on Unsplash]
[Photo by Farrinni on Unsplash]

Go for a walk

This is something we always do, you can set the pace (fast if you want them to lose weight, slow if you want to be more touchey/romantic).

Pick a place that will be special for you. By now, we've got so many of these, I've honestly lost count. Go there and revisit some of your dates, sit down on a park bench and talk.

Touching while walking is easy

Just hold hands, that's romantic enough on its own if you don't allow your hand to act like dead fish.

On date #8, we walked a lot, which gave him the opportunity to let his hands very slowly travel from my waist towards my hips. I couldn't stop smiling when I realised what he was doing, it took him hours to finally touch my ass and that was the last little push I needed to fall for him.

Not him grabbing my behind per se - the fact that it took him eight dates, that he respected me this much, that he was so nice about it and that he very clearly appreciated me letting him do that.

Food

I've never had anyone touch my ass before. We have a little tradition of going to one of the only places where we aren't treated like crap, getting food there and then sitting down on a bench we like a couple of minutes on foot away to eat. I didn't comment on him touching my ass until it was clear we'd go there again - I hugged him and told him in a playful way that I didn't want him to touch my ass while we were in there ordering take-away.

We had a really good laugh about what I said - I love how he doesn't take himself too seriously. He then went "I won't touch it again then" and I said "please don't stop touching my ass", which made him pull me in and grab it tighter. I don't mind him doing that, he's so sweet about touching me and it never feels like it's too much.

Conclusion

I tried to keep this as short as possible. The most important aspect to remember is that the most important thing on dates is creating opportunities to get to know one another better.

Try being open and honest about what you want and what you don't like. For example, he knows that if he wants to go somewhere noisy, he'll have to hug and calm me afterwards. If he didn't, my mood would drop, I want to avoid that (already happened several times, sometimes it's not preventable).

I've seen many pink users on here make the mistake of not expressing what they want and I am a good example for this too when it comes to the whole kissing thing I outlined here.

He stuck to my no-kissing-now sanction on this date and I'm glad he did.

Why are people trying to buy their date's attention?

What do you enjoy doing on dates?

How to have a cheap date (including amazing atmosphere, great conversations) - date #8
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