Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
BOTH SEXES LIKE AND WANT SEX
For most men, if they find a woman attractive, they would be open to having sex with them (if both parties were available). For women, it is EXACTLY THE SAME in terms of their personal desires or what they want. The only difference is the anti-slut defense which puts them off from acting on it or going for it with that guy crush or male friend.
Women, need to feel horny, find their potential mate attractive to have sex with them AND also need to feel ”allowed” to proceed. Men are driven by desire, and so are women, but women also have a defense mechanism that do not allow them to accept sex invitations or act sexually toward men.
LOVERS AND PROVIDERS - WOMEN DON'T KNOW WHAT MEN WANT
Women are seeking two types of mates – call it different providers. Consider sex being a trade, what you are trading for the sex defines what kind of provider you are.
The men women are seeking who are confident, independent, attractive having a lot of women chasing them are called “sex providers”or lovers – this is the man women finds sexually attractive – the man who women would like to have sex just for the sake of having sex.
These men are often behaving sexually toward women, making themselves being perceived as sexual beings – sex providers. This type of men is usually called “alpha males” or “lovers” in community lingo. Important to point out, these men are trading sex for sex. However, these are a minority – whereas the majority of men are providers of anything else of women’s needs such as social value, material goods, emotional support and so on. These men will trade something else than sex in for having sex with a woman. As a matter of fact this type of providers tend to get sex from being in relationships with women.
Now you might ask why is that a problem?
Well whenever a woman gets “too attracted to you” in ways that are not purely sexual (-i.e. not perceiving you as lover/sex provider), women will tend to act in very pure and a-sexual way toward those men – she will start expressing purity.
This is because she feels more attractive when ever she acts non-sexual toward men and feels unattractive when she is behaving too sexually or promiscuous. Women in fact believe we men do not like women who are sexually open – as they are very familiar with the complex many men have which is called “the Madonna/whore” complex.
SO THE PROBLEM IS, THE WOMAN FOR SOME REASON DOES NOT REWARD OR GET SEXUAL WITH THE NICE CONFIDENT GUY
The sad fact is that the idea of the pure Madonna remains just a plain fantasy. The cold fact is that no women are pure madonnas, neither are they whores for that instance – any women can be sweet and correct, but they are also “whores” as every women have a sexual biological drive – this is a universal truth about healthy women.
Many innocent women are deep down extremely kinky and if they simply showed this, they'd be having sex that they dreamed about with their male friends more often.
WOMEN WANT TO HAVE SEX, BUT THEIR BEHAVIOR SUGGESTS OTHERWISE...MOST MEN WANT:
Most men don’t want women to act pure toward us, as we want sexual openness – women fucking us quickly and good. Many times we just want to simply fuck a girl, not enter a relationship – or if we do want to enter a relationship with that girl, we do not want to commit on a false premise – her being a pure Madonna. A quick word of advice is to never ever enter a relationship on her terms – as you don’t want to exchange sex for anything else than sex. Keep in mind that you can easily start relationships with women by being perceived as a sex provider – these relationships will be of better quality and last longer.
MEN HAVE TO PUT THEMSELVES FORWARD AS A SEXUAL LOVER NOT A BOYFRIEND
1. By being sexual toward her and letting her know that you basically only can provide her a good time with good sex will make her believe that sex is the only thing she can get from you and therefore she doesn’t feel the need to make herself perceived as a Madonna- the purity frame will then be bypassed. A good way to make you perceived as a sex-provider is using sex talk.
2. Being sexual works so well, because it makes her perceive you as a lover (a provider of sex) but it also makes her feel that you are understanding her true nature – a woman who enjoys sex. She would therefore not put her shield up and act pure, because she will feel that you will not fall for it, nor does she has any reasons to make it so.
3. PUNISH AND REWARD BEHAVIOR A good way to reward her is by qualifying yourself to her by giving her a compliment like for example: “you are so sexy when you are being so sexually open”, but an ever better way to reward her is by escalating physically on her – reward good behaviours with physical escalation. However, if she is behaving a-sexual toward you, you can punish her by disqualifying her with the purpose of making her qualify herself back to you.
MEN......CONVEY TO WOMEN YOU DON'T JUDGE AND START TALKING ABOUT SEX
and WOMEN..START BEING SEXUAL AROUND NICE GUYS YOU LIKE..THEY do want you to be sexual!!
please POST HOW TO TALK ABOUT SEX WITH FEMALE FRIENDS (or if you're female how you'd like to talk about sex with male friends and be sexual with them) below.
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