If your little sister might be drinking and smoking pot?

If she really does look up to you as much as you make it seem like she does, then all you really need to do is keep in touch with her more often and have a talk with her. If that isn't enough, then she doesn't look up to you as much as you think.

drugs are bad, mmk?

I would advise her to simply stay aware of the things drugs an alcohol can do to you. (Don't tell her not to do it, she'll just get mad at you).

As long as she is aware that most drugs should only be done in moderation, and some should never be done ever, I think she'll be okay. Remind her it's for her own self-interest; nobody wants to become an alcoholic.

I believe that if you're that close to her, she'll listen and take it to heart with whatever you have to say. But, as for what to say, I don't know, but just say what you feel. Speak freely, be nice, but firm in what you say and how you say it.

It may sound weird, but she may be trying to get your attention by acting like the people that she thinks you hang out with now. When I went off to college my little brother started smoking pot and drinking, when I talked to him about it he told me that he saw my FB Wall and he thought that I was doing the same stuff and that my friends were into it. He felt like he was less important to me, and if I was okay with that stuff then I would be friends with him again.

Well drinking is one of those things that just gonna happen at that age, as for weed many people experiment with it so hopefully that's all it was and not a regular thing.

If it's an unreliable source then I'd treat the rumours with suspicion. Be observant when you meet her, I think you should spend the first few days just spending time with her, you will be able to tell if there is something wrong. If you think something is wrong, bring it up with her, explain what you've noticed eg 'you seem really quiet'. Try to keep it casual, not like a direct confrontation, she's far more likely to open up that way. Even talk about yourself a little so it doesn't seem like all the focus is on her. Telling her not to do it is actually a bad idea, it's negative suggestion. Instead focus on allowing her to express herself fully and finding out the reason for it, you need to know how she feels in order to solve the problem. If there is one.

heyyy I have a sister too she is 17 now, and same here we are very very close, and I feel like she is my child lol. Well it is def. not your fault! may be the environment? I mean if more people are in to drugs and drinking where she is the more tempting. However, no matter where you are at some point around that age kids discover alcohol and drugs, they experiment. Happened to me, happening to my sister and her friends right now. ( just this sat. I called my sister was suspicious of what she was doing at 1am said b where ever you are in 2 min you coming home, and what she was DRUNK off her ass, had a talk with her the nxt morning, she is a good kid just made a bad mistake you know, from this she learned something (I hope so!)))... I always talk to my sister about drugs and drinking, we have this convo alot, how bad it is, and honestly I tell her if she drinks someting ( which she most likely will) not to drink too much of it, and how each alcohol effects you. When she goes to parties I let her go but she has to text me every hour, and I call her up too. In your situation I think when you go home, don't attack her about drinking and drugs. Have a calm talk, as what she has been up to, about boys and parties does she go out etc. Then say hey I heard you drink and pot? what's up with that. see what she sayes, denies it say I hope its not true babe and then remind her why its not good, and give her a good talk and remind her of your family and I don't know you or your family but something that will hit home that will remind her why she shouldnt be doing these things. The worse thing is to scream and accuse her, be calm.

TELL HER JUST THAT WHEN YOU CALL HER, " I DONT WANT TO OFFEND YOU OR START DRAMA BUT I NEED You NOT TO GET UPSET AND BE HONEST WITH ME" TELL HER WHAT YOU HEARD LEAVING NAMES OUT TO AVOIDE EXTRA DRAMA AND ASK IF IT WAS TRUE OR NOT AND TELL HER YOURE PROUD OF HER AND HER A CCOMPLISHMENTS HOW YOU TWO ARE BREAKING THE PATTERN AND REASSURE HER THAT SHE CAN STILL CALL YOU FOR ANYTHING.. THIS IS HOW I HANDLE THINGS, AND IT ALWAYS WORKS... REMEMBER NOT TO ACCUSE HER OR GET UPSET. IF SHE IS USING, ASK HER WHY, HOW SHE FELL INTO IT.. TOO BAD YOU CANT JUST TAKE HER AND HAVE HER BE YOUR ROOMMATE...