Am I over reacting or not? Because this guy that is at school is like my brother. I love him like I would love my brother too. but he is SO protective over me and all the time, too. He thinks he can pick who I date and tell me what clothes I can and can't wear. I mean I know he is looking out for me but I know he isn't always going to be there and I got into an argument with him today because I think enough is enough and I told him he needed to stop. Advice needed on this situation please and thank you.
He's obviously not your boyfriend because he thinks he can pick out who you date. So he either: a. Is a control freak and thinks of you as his sister. Or b. Is a control freak who wants to be your boyfriend at some level, but isn't.
Either way, don't let him control you and don't confuse control freaks with caring people. I mean, he probably IS a caring person. But he would be even more caring if he stopped criticizing your choices and telling you what to wear, right?
So, you can find out how caring he is by telling him not to control you, that you need to live your life independently and if he cares about you, he'll support that.
If he IS caring, he'll at least try. If he IS just a freak, he won't respect your freedom and wants and choices and try to explain why what HE wants is better for you than what YOU want. Then you'll know whether to continue your friendship, or say goodbye.
He definitely is being overprotective towards you! In fact, he is smothering you. I would talk to him, and let him know that he needs to stop this behavior. If he doesn't stop, dump him. You don't need that much control in your life!
crazngirl
(Age:Under 18)
When: More than a year ago
It'll be okay maybe he cares about you soo much and doesn't know how to show you without going overboard with it---imagine him as a boyfriend you'll appreciate him showing a lot of attention or maybe not---maybe he treats you like a real sister I've never known anyone like that but that's how my boyfriend used to be. He just wants to be a good friend and he doesn't wanna see you get hurt.
Well, if you are like brother and sister maybe he really sees you as a little sister and feels it's his duty to protect you from harm, and he wants the best for you.
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