Does anyone else feel the same way?

You have had so much negative feedback in your life that you are scared to be who you are on the inside. But, it has gotten you so worked up that you have spent most of your time trying to be what you think other people want you to be; so you have no idea who you are. My parents were the same way to me growing up and I had a very cruel sister on top of that. The problem is with them, and not with yourself. Your parents have an ideal of what they want you to be in their head, and they refuse to believe you are just different than them-simple as that. People will be people, and that is how a lot of them operate. I didn't realize this until a couple years ago, and I am really glad I finally did. Trying to please other people, or trying to basically create a "character"-a lively person or the shy girl is just going to make it harder to find yourself. You are going to always have to keep up with that act, and it is hard making lasting friendships that way. I like making friends with people that will accept me for a my little "quirks", because those are what make me who I am. My car is always a mess, I would lose my head if it wasn't attached, I still watch the disney channel even though I am 23, etc. Some of these things have actually annoyed people, but the only thing that tells me is that they don't appreciate me for the way I am. All the little things that continue to follow you, no matter what "character" you are being at the time are who you really are. My family still thinks I am kind of weird, but they know that is just who I am. If, after all these years they can't accept that, then there is nothing I can do to change that. My good friends love me despite the fact that I don't share all the same interests as them, because they are glad I am happy with who I am. Write a list of all the things you have always enjoyed, and that will help you start to figure out who you really are. Ignore people that find the need to comment on every little thing you do in a negative, they are just trying to get to you, and aren't worth the time getting upset about. good luck!

I been actually stabbed by both my step parents fed drugs and never complimented. I have dated and was only used for sex. You can only help your self. You have a working heart and that's all you need. when love and lost stand beside you be the stronger person and move on. Everyone can try to hold you down but in the end you will shine like a goddess after everything ^.^

I think you need to take a deep breath and relax about everything. Next, basically what the other guy said try to ask yourself what you like or what may you feel good and try to work at becoming good at whatever that is. Once you do that everything else will fall into place. And most importantly you only need to please one person in life and that's yourself cause as soon as you start trying to please other people first you'll find yourself lost and confused with life and remember try not to worry so much over everything just relax and take a breather when things get a little out of wack.

i have felt almost exactly the same way as you for around a year now, I lost a whole bunch of gu my friends becasue they were starting to smoke and drink. so I was basicly lost I made new friends but I still don't feel like I have any real friends. too be honset it's kinda growing on me I have more time for doing everything nobody is around makeing me feel bad. it's all about the way you look at the situation it's a glass half full kinda deal as for the no idea where you wanna go in life pick some thing your passionite about and just work towards it. just live for yourself don't let other people tell you how to live it's your life you only live it once do what you want to not what is acceptable or what people tell you you need to be.

there is nothing wrong with you. Try: not trying to figure out what is wrong with you and focus on the people and problems around you. try looking at what's really happening and why they are saying these things about you.

i use 2 be the same way. when my dad died I started acting out and not like I was before. my mom always says I should do better but I never do. somtimes its like I'm living in an un popable bubble and every1 else is just floating around ablivious to who I am or what I do. maybe you should try talking 2 ur parents or a councler. it really helped me. if I would have told my mom that I wasn't happy with I was then maybe I would be a better person today than I really am. it mite just help. try it and see what happens, you mite be surprised with the resolts

First, I believe deep inside you, you are honest and kind.
Second, you don't know what you want because you don't have a dream to fight for.
Third, you care about other people's judgements so much.
Forth, maybe you want friends who respect you, who warm your heart and make you feel comfortable when you are around them.
Fifth, why not just be yourself and do whatever you want?
Sixth, join some meaningful activities may help.