Does my girlfriend want me to be mean because she's afraid I'm gay?

Well I think that if she really loves you, she will accept you the way you are and you don't have to try to be someone you're not just to please her. Be yourself and if she doesn't like it, then find a nice girl who likes to be treated politely

If she didn't want to be with you, she wouldn't be with you right now. It seems that she doesn't apprecate you, and does not appreciate the fact you have respect for her, when her ex didn't. I also think she means the things you say to her is "stupid" in place of gay. Though, like I said, she probably does not have any respect for you. If you feel that she is treating you that bad, you should find some one else that appreciates you more. I hoped that helped!

From what I read in your past questions about your girl, she doesn't seem like the person who appreciates you at all. She has no respect for you, if I were you I would just dump her.. and forget she exists... my god if a guy cursed and then apologized to me I would be happy.. there's so many guys out there who just curse for the heck of it... No offense man.. but I find your girlfriend GAY!!! I hate girls like her. sorry!

She wants you. She just doesn't want to think that you're gay. So just prove to her that you're not, whether if its by mouth or touching her, kiss her and say, "was that gay? " then kiss her some where else, "was that gay? " and so on. Hopefully she'll start laughing and every time she calls you gay ever again, just kiss her again and say, "was that gay? ". (that way its an inside joke for both of you). Good luck, I hope this is helpful

Um no offense you have a girlfriend who still misses her boyfriend and who's still immature on the word "gay" - first of all gay means also happy - it just happened to have turned into the term gay for the same sex couples cause people think gay people are always happy! And two yes I'm guessing actually I know she really likes tough guys who take control and hit women or something like that - she definitely misses her ex and would like for you to act like him at least somewhat and no offense she's really immature at least she sounds like it - all I can tell you is do what you think is right by you at least what you feel you should do!

From your story it sounds like she's using "gay" as a synonym for "turning me off. " So, no I don't think she's concerned with you becoming an actual homosexual, regardless of your meds. I can't tell whether she feels anything for the ex, but she sounds like the type that likes you a little "rough around the edges. " So, you tell me, does that describe her old Boyfriend? If so, then it might not be that she wants you to copy HIM as much as she wants to be a specific, profane, non-cheesily complimentary way. I read this to mean she wants you to be a guy's guy not a "sensitive" guy.

But if she really connects profanity or unkind treatment with homosexuality, I would question the judgement/intelligence of this girl.

You're "You know what" response MIGHT be a good idea. It sounds like her criticism of you and attempts to "mold" you are grating on you. That response would certainly get your point across. But even if she wants you to be rough and rude, just like her ex or her dad or wherever she got her preconceived notions of how you SHOULD be, you're on the right track to NOT excuse being overtly mean to her. That's probably NOT what she wants.

But consider seriously whether this girl has control issues and wants to change you into someone you're not. If so, you'd better deal with her about it soon, because she needs to know how you're starting to resent her. And trust me, you'll NEVER become what she wants if you're not it already. Better to tell her how you feel and hope she lightens up, or move on to a girl who doesn't insult both you and the gay community whenever you don't fit into her mold.

She may just be using the word gay to mean anything she doesn't like. I have some friends who are gay, they are very irritated when people use the word in that connotation. Society has several circles that use the word a lot "this is gay" or "that's gay", it's a trendy and easier way to get across the real message they are trying to convey.

Does she say other things are gay a lot? If so, she might just be misusing the word, and doesn't think you're actually homosexual.

Your girlfriend is immature. She seems to still have a teenager's sense of how the world, and relationships, work. I've read many a comment here about how and why confidence is attractive. I think that's a two part answer - one being the attractiveness and two being the indication of what isn't there - namely the kind of knucklehead emotional viewpoints that callow people offer. Your girlfriend has no self-esteem (and what she presents is a smoke screen) and so she tries to cut down the people around her. Sounds like she's a piece of work and not much fun to be around. Honestly, does spending time with her make you happy? Do you walk away or hang up the phone and feel good?

Sure she wants you to be meaner. But is that what's right for you? Is that who you want to be?

I'd just say, You know what? I don't really feel like playing games. Have a good night.

It is well documented that some women are drawn to relationships which border on the abusive side either due to their childhood or past events. They feel comfortable in that situation because that is all they know. As soon as they are placed in a different position their mind starts reeling as it is something new which they are not familiar with.

This is not to imply that your girlfriend is of this type. Perhaps she just wants you to be more assertive (or as they call it "be a man") hence she teases you about it.

Does she think your gay? I doubt it as girls these days seem to like to use it as much as men use the 'b' word but she may be viewing you as rather weak because you've apologized for cursing.

Try to be more assertive and see if that improves your relationship. And don't apologize for cursing if it was not mean to cause harm or insult her. Remember, you only apologize for things which you have done wrong --- which may be quite a lot with women. :)