Wanna share stuff about how to love "oneself"?

It's not a "gay" question, having self-esteem is very important, and it's a great sign that you're asking people for help.

First, get some therapy or counseling. Mental health is very important, and a professional can offer more effective help than we can. If money is a problem, there are ways to get inexpensive or free therapy. If you're a college/university student, there's probably a student health center on campus that can help. If you're not a student, telephone or email your local government health office and ask about it.

Second, I found a short article that lists 10 ways to make yourself feel bad (you'll probably notice you're doing some of these things), and 10 ways to make yourself feel good (you can start doing some of these new things to make yourself feel better). It's a good start for improving your self esteem. Here's the link:

Http://www. Cyh. Com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails. Aspx? P=243&np=293&id=2161#6

Third, can you be a little more specific about your troubles? If you're having problems with work, or relationships, we can maybe offer some more detailed help.

It's not gay at all. EVERYONE goes through a certain time when they have problems with self esteem. But a good way to do it, is to kind of break it down. Start with the parts of your body that you like. Be specific. If you like your butt, legs, eyes, hair, face, whatever, start with that. Everyone should have at least a couple things that they like about themselves.

Then go on to the things you don't like, or wish were different. Write down a list of things that you can change, and a list of things that you can't change. For me, something I can't change would be my nose. I think it's a tad big and weird looking, lol. But there are things you can change, like stomach, legs, arms, whatever. Most of the time we have low self esteem because of our face, our body, or we don't get asked out by a lot of the opposite sex. But begin to work on the things you can change. I have always been super skinny. So I started to go to the gym. I've definitely seen my body get bigger, more toned and muscular. Am I where I want to be? No, not quite, but I have gotten more self esteem because of the change I've seen. Start going to the gym and changing the parts of your body that you can. You will begin to feel better about yourself as you see changes. With the things you can't change (like my nose) except through expensive plastic surgery, start to force yourself to accept them. Chances are, they aren't as bad as you think. We tend to look a closer look at ourselves and criticize ourselves more then other people.

Not gay lol. Here hug yourself and be silly with it say "You are so beautiful" seriously try it. If this doesn't work what's bothering you physical beauty or inner. Let me tell you that everyone here has wanted to change something about our selves. But you know why I love people. because they are Not perfect. Because we all are imperfect and need one another because of that. Try focusing on the fact that you are alive and have a purpose. Find a passion get involved with it, listen to uplifting songs. When I feel down I listen to happy songs and one in particular makes me feel good called I'm Concieted by Remy Ma. Everyone has something beautiful, something sexy about them and trust me everyone because someone loves them.

It's not gay, I'm actually going through the same thing. I wish I could give you advice on this but since I'm stuck in the same boat, I'm as confused and desperate as you are. I just want to let you know you're not alone in this and if you need to talk feel free to email me. Maybe we can help each other figure this out.

Write any negative thoughts you have about yourself on paper. Take a good look at them, then rip them up!

It's a great way to get these thoughts out of your system.

Oh sweetie its not gay. Its a normal question. You gotta read the book By Kimora Lee simmons called Fabulosity. I know LOL.. But, I gotta tell you, she can tell you how to boost your self esteem. It is actually pretty good. My 20 year old daughter bought it and I glanced through it..Then I noticed little things she would suggest you do to be fabulous. Its is great for boosting your self esteem and she is hilariously stuck up rich. Love it!! So, pick it up and read it. But, you already know you are a fabulous person, she just tells you how to discover it.

Sweetheart don't worry about that, some people have that like you. Here's advice that I tell my friends all the time. To have high self -esteem you must love yourself first, then people will love you back! And its not gay, I think like that too sometimes, but you gotta think positive. Think of the world as a fairyland (weird I know) but that's how I think of it. Don't think negative whatever you do! If you think negative about yourself people will see it and treat you like shit (sorry). So be happy about yourself, do good things for people and good things will come to you!

Hey what do you mean self esteem in what category do you need help in sexually ones self getting a girl? Guy just message me on what and ill be more than happy to help you