Okay, I got into an argument with this guy that used to be my friend but became more than that. He deleted me from his myspace and keeps putting that he feels "fabulous" or other comments about how great he feels on there. He knows I am heartbroken. Is he deliberately trying to hurt me more? Why?
Absolutely he's trying to hurt you. Many times when guys get in fights or arguments, or we're hurt, we act childish. I know I have and probably still do. So we think of ways that we can maybe get back at you in small ways (not like slashing your tires). We feel if we can make you feel bad, then it makes us feel better. We also do it to try and make you feel guilty, or try and get you to talk to us.
Well, I guess it worked because I have written him and apologized and requested him as a friend again. But he hasn't responded yet. It is like he is playing games and trying to draw out the pain for me. If he hurts too why doesn't he want to talk to me - 8 months ago
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Yeah, it's the childish game of who can hold out the longest. A pretty sorry game, but we all play it. We feel if the other person gives in, then we have the upper hand. And yeah, he's probably trying to squeeze you to make you hurt. - 8 months ago
Wow, he's a really shallow guy. Sorry to break it to you, but yes he is trying to make you feel really low. I hate when they do that!! just want to slap them around. Pretend like you don't care, do the same thing to him, write you feel "good" on myspace and write you don't care whats going on! even though you do! but it feels good after a while.
Guys would rather act happy, and joke with their friends about what you say in an apology letter and shit rather than cry over you, and put depressed on their myspaces.!
Don't look at his myspace if you don't want to get in a bad mood!
And I'm sorry you apologized for him being a dick :[ He is the one that should be apologizing but guys are stubborn as mules. He will never admit feeling bad about what he's doing; but damn right he does.
But from his point of view he has 2 easily stateable options: 1. Cry over you, apologize, make himself look like an obsessed, immature baby, always think about you, keep : depressed, and sad on his myspace mood. OR HE CAN 2. Laugh about it, put his heart back where it belongs, make you look like an obsessed emotional mess; forget about you, and even put: fabulous, and happy as his myspace mood.
If I really thought it was that simple for me to clean myself up and get back on the playing field; I would without a doubt choose number 2. Anybody would. Usually people think about themselves before anything else!
Sounds like he may be trying to mask how he's really feeling by trying to show people he's ok. It could be he's trying to convince himself to move on and be fine, due to his pride or maybe he doesn't want people to know he's hurt. Or, he could possibly be doing fine. For some reason I have found it's easier for guys to move on then women. We tend to dwell while they tend to pick up the pieces like it was no big deal. I am going through something very similar. The man was about to propose to me and then left like it was no big deal. Now I find out ( a month later) that he is sleeping with someone else and deleted me off his myspace and even removed all pictures of me from his account. He puts little messages on there like " dealing with tricky cuddlers" and now it says " thinks he has found solace" ( after talking to me on the phone). I wonder the same thing, if he knows I look on myspace and he is trying to give me a message. I really don't think he is trying to deliberately hurt you, just trying to move on and convince himself to be fine with it.
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