Is caring for her a sign of weakness for men?

I don't know about other guys, but I tell my girl I care for her ALL the time. I show her, too! Making her happy makes me happy. I think you are meeting the wrong guys. Most are probably like me in their feelings for their girl!

Well, off the bat, don't be so sure that you can read him as well as you think. Of the girls I've dated, only two were ever really able to read me that well. We tend to be simple, but in the most complex of ways. Anyway, for most guys I think you'll find that we don't care about a whole lot. It's not to say we don't have our likes or dislikes, but general things we don't worry about much. "Where do you want to eat?" Well, unless we are really craving something, most of the time we don't care too much. You have to remember that we play a balancing act on our end as well. We want to keep the ladies in our lives happy (decent to good guys that is), so if it is something we don't care about one way or the other we would rather let the lady have her choice. Because in the end, it's not that big a deal to us. Now, as for the girl in this case, it sounds like he really likes her. If he says he doesn't care, but acts like you say- I really have to wonder why he stays with her. For most guys saying they love someone is a bit deep and if he's been with her for only a short time then I can see him liking her, or really really liking her.. but eventually he'll have to admit to himself that he loves her. Trust me, stuff like that isn't always macho related. Some times a guy just has to come to terms with what he feels.

It's probably for the same reason that guys ask girls if everything is alright and they say yes... when there is absolutely no chance in hell that everything is okay and we know that but for some reason girls what you to fight it out of them.

Same principle I'm afraid.

Here's an option you may not have thought of..

Does he have hidden feelings for you? If you spend any significant time together, his feelings may be mixed between you and her. Of course, when he's with her, he's going to act like the typical boyfriend and be with her, spend time around her, look at her like he's in love, etc. But he may be harboring feelings for you, which could explain why he doesn't want to admit to you that he really does care about this other woman. And truthfully, he probably DOES care about her, and he enjoys her company, and on some level, she makes him happy. I'm thinking that he may have some feelings for you that he hasn't expressed because he might be afraid of how you'd react.

This is only an opinion, drawn from my own personal experiences that slightly mirror the situation you've indicated.

I agree. He doesn't want his friends to know that he's what guys call "whipped" or in love. He thinks it's not ok to feel that way.

He doesn't want you to know he's whipped----men are like that but it's easier to say things then it is done or shown.