Should I bother to call or just let him be?

Ask yourself why you want to contact him on his birthday. If it is because you truly want to wish him a happy birthday then send a card but keep the card content to the point and don't mention the breakup, relationship, or how you feel as it is about /him/.

If you secretly wish that perhaps contacting him will change matters between you and him then that would be the wrong reason to contact him on his birthday. Keep in mind, it is /his/ birthday and it should be a happy occasion for him regardless of how unlucky he may have been in the past.

You really need to ask yourself what your true intentions are. I understand that you are hurt and that the feelings still linger around and you most likely still ask yourself a lot of 'what-if' questions but the one thing we can not control in our lives is who we love and whether they love us back. The beauty of love is that if this was the real thing then it will return to you, regardless of how the bad breakup was, but you also need to continue to live your life. Don't put your life on pause as you may be missing out on what it truly has to offer to /you/.

He's most likely seeing another woman now. If you call, his new love will find out and it will certainly cause problems for him. Maybe just drop him an email or mail a card to his work address.

If you still have feelings, not a good idea to call him, specially when you broke up in bad terms.

If he asked you not to call or see him then you have to respect that! Beside it is over and so you have to get over it, I do understand the feelings you have for him but it won't help unless you get over him.

Some times when it is over its just over :-)

Let him be.

Breaking up on bad terms sucks. I have been there girl.

It is so hard and it hurts very much. But if he asked you not to call or see him. Respect him. That is the most "lady like" and attractive thing you can do is respect him.

He will appreciate your thoughtfulness. I know its hard not to call but it can be done. It is really hard when you still have feelings for that person.

Me and this one guy broke it off on bad terms one night. We dated a year and was in love but broke up on bad terms. I wanted to call him so badly but I didn't. It goes both ways. Don't feel like you should be the one calling unless you broke up with him.

I never called the guy but I still was in love with him for months. He finally called after 7 months. He will call you eventually. I promise. They always do :)