She never talks to me and she seems so passive about stuff but I know the gears are turning. How can I get her to open up and talk to me about stuff? How can I get her comfortable with me again? Give her space? Or should I keep calling and talking to her even though she does not call me anymore? How can I get her to call me again?
Update: She has a boyfriend right now and I'm trying to get her back. I'm thinking if I just make the time I have with her great and maybe text her or call her the nights after we do hang out it will get her to call? Hope this little extra info helps! Thanks.
8 months ago
Well. this is a tricky one. I am not sure of your context cause you did not go into great detail. so since this is under relationships I would assume she is in a type of relationship with you and perhaps because you asked how can I get her comfortable with me "again" you are inferring that she once seemed comfortable and talked more. this also throws a red flag. did something happen between the two of you?
So this is the best I can do with the information provided and the way I am understanding the context.
I too experienced this same passive talk. I was the one not talking all that much and being passive. Does this mean that she doesn't care?... NO! actually, I know from my experience that I became passive because I felt like I couldn't talk about things because my boyfriend was so darn opinionated about things. I am a junior in college pursuing a psychology sociology and criminal justice degree so I am obviously not stupid. I always felt knocked down by sarcasm and to some degree by stupidity of egocentrism! .... I stopped talking so much and decided just to let him talk for awhile. I wouldn't put my 2cents in because I wouldn't care anyway. I was just sick of feeling knocked down. ..... this may relate to your situation. My suggestion is too keep calling her. Communication is the best medicine. tell her in a very supportive, understanding, and non-threatening manner how you feel. ask if she has something that she would like to discuss or she feels indifferent about something. How you can get her to call you again! ? .... care about her (emotions) .. reassure that you care about her well being and feelings and that you would like to understand. COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE!!!!! (don't force her into it, just let her know that you are here to talk and discuss anything anytime! and that you care both for and about her! )
I Hope This Helped! Take Care & Bless All! (: Amber :)
I've got the same problem -_- Watching this thread for solutions. - 8 months ago
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THANKS! Good tips we are actually good friends and she is dating but we have a thing but can't decide if I want to play hardball and wait for her and just when I do see her surprise her and make it great. I will take this into consideration though! Thanks - 8 months ago
I hear this type of advise all the time, but never have I heard it actually working. I think its the advise you give to people to give them false hope to make them feel better, and eventually come to the conclusion on their own that its just not gonna happen.
The simple answer - you can't do anything to get anyone to do anything
The only thing you can do is completely cut her off, only then, might she realize that she misses you and call you. Sorry, girls are all nuts for the most part.
It amazes me how people go through the effort to ask a question, then generally go with the answer that makes them feel the best, regardless of its relevance. Your not going to "get" this girl, she already considered you when she decided to be friends. - 8 months ago
I'm thinking maybe I'm reading a bit too much into this, but here goes:There's a kid in my stats class who's cute and seems nice. The first day, he...
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