My question is what can I do to promote a health relationship with someone who is not used to being in a relationship at all. He's been single the whole 7 years I've known him. I think he is worried that I am going to want to change every little thing in his life, but all I really want is to fit into his life somewhere, for him to include me. How do I approach the subject in a manner that will show him I just want to be with him not change him. Or do I just wait for him to come around.
I don't agree with this at all. It seems to me that he is scared. You need to help the transition and make it as easy for him as possible. He hasn't had a relationship for 7 years, he can't remember what it's like. Chances are it wasn't a good relationship either. He is keeping you as friends with benefits because what if starting a relationship would change what you to have now. You have a strong connection right now. He doesn't want to ruin that. He is confused on whether he should take it further or not. Make this easy for him. Let him know what you want but, don't force it on him. After spending the night with him before you too seperate for the day tell him you would like more and let him think about it for the day. Then at the end of the day, call him and act like nothing happened and see if he brings it up. If he does yay, we are moving forward, if he doesn't he needs more time. If someone doesn't take the initiative soon you could go on without ever recognizing how both of you truly feel and this could end badly. It needs to be brought out into the open. If it doesn't work out at least you taught him something and you learned something in return.
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