I am a total idiot when it comes to telling whether someone likes me. My boyfriend and I are currently breaking up and his friend is staying at my house to do some renos (for pay). This guy seems to be extremely considerate of things I say and is really trying hard to convince me he is a good guy. He also constantly smiles and drops hints like " I like a girl that is dating one of my friends but they are going to break up". Is the girls me - I don't know because I'm too out of the loop (been with my boyfriend for 5 years) to tell. Please help me with suggestions of things guys do when they are into you if you are currently ending another relationship. I'm not sure that I would want a relationship again right now but I would like to know so I can address the "issue". Thanks
Update: I just wanted to add that he has always been quite the ladies man and I kind of also want to know whether its a serious like or a like her because she poses a challenge like? Any help is appreciated.
3 months ago
Update: I wouldn't call him a player, he has had relationships and says he want to find the "right" girl to settle down with and that is why he has been such a ladies man - but that could just be what he says because apparently I don't speak man.
3 months ago
Currently breaking up is woman language as you want to dump him (and he probably doesn't know it) but you are waiting for the right moment.
Um, break off the relationship with your boyfriend. Bang his friend and tell him it's just some rebound thing and move on. Everyone seems to be okay with it.
Man language... hmmm There is a word for a woman who goes from sleeping with one guy to sleeping with another guy without missing a beat. You soon-to-be ex-boyfriend knows it, and I am sure this guy knows it too. It always looks suspicious when I woman starts banging another guy immediately after a relationship, but will certainly give your ex-boyfriend some closure. Woman language ... What does "currently ending" a relationship mean ? Is it over ? Are you trying to decide who get the furniture and separate the CDs ?
I surely can't do more than speculate, however, if he is known to you as something of a ladies man, he's surely aware that you are vulnerable right now. He has also placed himself in a good position, in that he is apparently living the house of a vulnerable woman, prime for attraction to a "rebound" relationship. Again, it's your move.
The only way to be sure (if in fact you are interested in him, which you sure seem to be), is to ask him whether he might be interested in investigating a committed relationship with you. It's imperative that you make it known to him that you are not interested in any sexual contact in the foreseeable future, as your trust factor is at a low. See what happens once the possible incentive of booty is taken from the table. - 3 months ago
Dating isn't about other people, especially if you ex is breaking up with YOU,.then he clearly doesn't want you anymore. to put it blankly, he wont. maybe his friend has been jealous for the past 5 years? I guess what I'm intending to say is love is there to make you happy, don't worry about what other people want, just do what you want and feels right(while still being nice about it) if you like this guy go for it, ur breaking up with your ex anyways its not like its gona make much of a difference. my friends going out with my ex, I don't even mind, I hooked them up.. If ur ex is gona mind he wouldn't let you guys break up, otr at least he'd say so.
If that is your ex's friend---do not cross that line! Yes, I'm sure he likes you and wants you bad, but girl...stay strong, though that may be impossible because I'm sure your nice looking and all. Plus, you are prancing around the house like a "tender roney" If you cross the line, before you do, sit down with this dude and map out all of what you two expect, and want and will keep hush. (Clearly, you want him too.) Peace
The only way to address the issue is by actually addressing it. The next time he makes a comment like that, ask him what he means. Is he implying that he is interested in you? What exactly is he looking for, a relationship or a hook up? When he says "I like girls that are dating one of my friends, but are going to break up" is he referencing to you? Our guess is as good as yours. The only way to really know what He's thinking is to ask him. Even then you can't really be to sure because a lot of guys will do anything and say anything to get in a girls pants. Another thing, you haven't even broke up with your boyfriend yet... Or have you? Even so, you were with him for FIVE years. Give yourself time to get over it. That's a long time to be with someone and how do you know you won't get back together. Let time heal before you decide to get involved with another guy. Even if its a fling. Take time for yourself and make yourself happy. A lot of the time people lose themselves in relationships and don't realize it till they are alone.
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