So I am wondering why do men feel the need to hide their emotions and bottle them up? I know it isn't all men, But it is a lot, and I find it a lot among Black men and I don't understand it! Would it be too much to tell a sista you care about her every now? I don't want a soft man, or an emotional man, I just want a man than tell me how he feels every now and then! Is that too much to ask?!
Black men do get emotional. It's just not so cool to be emotional often. But it does happen. You want to see an emotional black man? Should have seen me when I lost my senior homecoming football game, first time it happened to my school in 23 years. I cried as though somebody burned my comic books!
Just be patient, your man will tell you how much he loves you. But do not expect a public display of affection.
Yea I think men are wired to be more logical, and women are wired to be more emotional and feelings. So, in the first place it's hard for a guy to express his emotion, other than anger or happiness.
Then, you have the male ego. Even if a guy is so and so, because of his ego he might try to hide the emotions. ^ ^
But why not tell me how you are truly feeling? Telling me every now and then would be nice, but the "soft emotional" part comes in for a man that cries or shares his emotions more than I do. . Lol - 8 months ago
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He might be unsure of what he should do. Let's be honest here, men have different skill sets. Some are great at picking up ladies but have low emotional IQs. Others may struggle with finding the girl, but are great once she's found. He may have a good idea how to get things started, but not how to keep them up. Are his folks married, his friends? Much of what we learn is modeled from interactions with others. If he doesn't have an emotional role model, he may not know what to do. - 8 months ago
Black men don't trust anyone don't think it's just you it takes a long and I mean long time to get them to even admit anything let alone show weakness.
Men as a rule are not as emotional as women are. Duh. I mean we all know that. Some men are even more emotionally cut off then regular men are, this is just the way they are. Can they change, gee I hope so, but I'm sure it will only be over a long period of time, and in the arms of a woman who truly loves him and is patient and gives him kudos for any show of emotion.
What we (as the emotional sex) don't realize is it take a lot to make a man WANT to share how he FEELS with us. We on the other hand, want to share way to much for the average man so that's why they sometimes tune us out, we overload them emotionally, sometimes making it even more difficult to deal with their own emotions because they are to busy trying to process our emotions and keep up on that, so we don't give him grief for not being in tune with us. Relax a little and who knows he may feel like he wants to share a little more.
Good answer and I agree. But I am not that emotional of a woman (3 weeks out of the month anyway. Lol) Honestly, I just want to know that a man cares, because sharing his "feelings" through physical affection just doesn't do it for me. What man wouldn't wanna rub up on, or be close to a (cute ;-) ) girl?! Lol - 8 months ago
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I think that is just a common trait among men in general. Maybe it is more so among black men because of social pressure to act a certain way towards women. I think if you find the right man, black or not, he will eventually open up, but sometimes it takes time.
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