I am really in love with this girl who stays in the same house, and for 3 months I tried to stay quiet about it and deny the feelings, because it seemed too good to be true. But obviously she picked it up and knew about it and started showing clear signs that she felt the same way, but never confronted me about it, and left me agonizing.
At last I couldn't handle it anymore and went and knocked on her door and told her I like her. But instead of an embrace she scolded at me and told me she has a boyfriend already and does not feel the same way at all and I must forget about it, "move-on" and leave her alone.
I don't understand why she would be so evil, luring me out like that, knowing that I like her and not saying anything and then let me burn down in flames just when I thought I should risk it. Now suddenly she is inviting her boyfriend over and will tell him about it if I don't stop liking her, like it is a crime to love someone. Any normal person would be flattered. I should have known better than to fall for her. Now my heart is caved in and all hope lost. Now she is starting to plot against me with her boyfriend to make it worse and even more miserable.
You sound kinda paranoid. Maybe she was flirty like in a friend way. I would just stay clear of her. It isn't cool to involve her boyfriend. That is childish. Just leave her alone and later on down the road see if you can be friends again.
She's paranoid too (Keeps 2 kitchen knives in her bedroom and has OCD), and I love it . Your advice is the best advice, and I knew I had to do that even before she moved in, but did it anyway for revolutionary reasons . Trial and error I guess . Now it's her 3 months . I can't give her up (for revolutionary reasons aka Love), even if she has her stupid boyfriend with 5 black belts . - 9 months ago
I am super curious, why did you wait so long? I think she got frustrated with you because you waited so long to say something. I hope things go better for you in the future.
Buddy, you are blaming her on so many levels when you should actually accept quite a bit of the blame. Its okay to feel upset when you are rejected but don't make this a "them" vs "me" situation.
You've spent three months secretly agonizing over your love for her that you convinced yourself that "[she] started showing clear signs" but never confronted /you/ about it and that /she/ left you to agonize over it. Could it be perhaps that you only saw what you wanted?
If it helps you to get over her then by all means blame her for the whole situation but you are at an age when you need to accept responsibility as well for your own (in)actions and thoughts. If you fail to realize that small distinction then you'll always play the victim in your own life, so ask yourself, do you want to constantly be the victim in your own life? If not then take ownership of your own life and accept the situation, learn from it, and move on.
I thought is over and over and well though out and considered this . But two days later, after she rejected me, she left a sugar coated sweet in a heart shape in my bed .
Her words and actions conflict . And I wouldn't risk a second time . - 9 months ago
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Placing a sugar coated sweet, regardless of shape, is only a conflicting action for you because you choose to read it that way . Have you considered that since both of you live in the same house that perhaps she felt bad about the situation and tried to make amends with you as a /friend/ ?
I'm quite perturbed about your comment to Lesae where you claim she is paranoid and that you love it . The "revolutionary reasons" are also quite creepy . Makes me wonder about your love for her . - 9 months ago
Well said, ionlife . I was thinking the same thing about the creep factor . Ick ! - 9 months ago
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Yes I considered that. I am a creep, so what, she's one too. Everyone are in some way or another. Why aren't anyone answering my question? - 9 months ago
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