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Do I have some sort of psychological disorder? Or am I just weird?

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Sugarcoat (Age:18 to 24)     When: 6 months ago
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I've always had a very overactive imagination, from a young age, not only could I imagine visuals and sound but feel, scent and taste as well. I've always had very vivid realistic dreams and nightmares, but this imaginative side has always been balanced with my logical side, using them both I'm able to creatively understand how things in the world work, and when I actually research them later, my conclusions are always fairly accurate.

I've always been a heavily visual learner.

I'm bothered by touching or being touched by strangers. I'm not sure if this is normal, but say when you go to a wedding and so and sos aunt just has to give you a hug, it really bothers me. I feel bothered by it sometimes for the rest of the day. Touching is fine if I know the person well.

I don't understand communication between men and women, especially flirting. I can't tell when its happening, I don't know the difference between that and normal conversation.

I went through a period in my life a couple of years ago where communicating with others became so overwhelming that I just stopped completely for about a year and a half. I didn't talk to anyone, look at anyone, or make eye contact with anyone.

Is this type of thing normal? Am I just weird? Am I mental? Lol
Is there anyone else out there like me?

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No, I have no issues in these areas.

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The-Nash
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The-Nash (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
Have you ever looked in a book of dream descriptions? That could help lead to the touching, my opinion would be subconscious/ something suppressed, when you were younger, maybe? Not sure here. Also Not sure how serious to take the book either.

Anyways, do you have an idea of what side of your brain is more dominant?

When a person develops a dominance toward one side of their brain, they tend to have certain characteristics and areas of interest in common. The left side of the brain is often thought of as the logical, thinking side. Related to speech and writing and reason.
When a person is Right Brain Dominant, they are thought of as the dreamers, the artists, and the musicians of the world. Just because they are usually not as good with numbers and usually with remembering facts does not mean that they are "different/ less attentive" than a left brain person. They just have their strength in different areas.

Now, some people are right handed or left handed, then there is ambidextrous - using both hands with equality. Now, if someone can use both hands evenly, and frequently just as much, who says the brain can't work the same, and faster - because it's mental, not physical, your thoughts can develop much more faster than hand movements.

Then we get into concrete and abstract thinking, and then relating concrete to the abstract and vice-versa. Now, if you are using both sides of your brain relatively evenly (and I haven't got the slightest clue on how to measure that), then you would be able to balance the logic and imagination, pretty good, I would assume. Usually one side is more dominant though in the thought process, but I mean for the other side to even come close - as to working as hard as the other would side - would be something truly incredible. Like an epiphany of some sort, maybe many of them. Now is there a way that maybe different interests play a role in developing both sides of the brain differently. Like "training the brain" subconsciously, not really sure, I think there could be though. Like listening to classical music while studying, "the Mozart effect" maybe that can be an example.

And the only censorship that is placed on the "mind's eye" is up to the person in question. Where does discipline lie within oneself. What values/morals/hopes and fears of oneself come into place of the imagination, that make nightmare or dreams of the imagination. And I think I confused myself, but if it helps any let me know.
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Question Asker I've actually been tested for dominance in the brain a few times . Each time the results come back either exactly even or very close to even . - 6 months ago

Superstrength79
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Superstrength79 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 6 months ago
I have a vivid imagination as well, and very powerful dreams. I can live in la-la land at times, and only when I'm sick or extremely tired am I relaxed and distracted enough to feel like I'm fully in reality again. The creativeness that comes from thinking all of the time is a gift I think, one that you should be happy to possess.

Are you unhappy when you are not talking to anyone? If your lifestyle doesn't bother you, then you shouldn't feel the need to conform to society's standards. If you find that you want to improve certain parts of your life, and you can identify certain ways you act or want to be treated that are getting in the way, you might have to make a compromise. Do what is natural and isn't working, or test your limits and try on a different "hat"/role and possibly benefit from the change.
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deadwait
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deadwait (Age:25 to 29)      When: 6 months ago
Sounds like you wrote part of my life story. This is how it continued:

Then I started to wish I was less thoughtful, shorter, fatter, and in general, more like everyone else.

Then I went through the phase of accepting the notion I'd end up as the lonely piano man - now granted, I have no problem making what most people think of as "friends" or "girlfriends" - but they usually left me feeling empty.

I would often ask myself - am I crazy? - then I figured something out - I needed to dumb down the actions and speakings of others - people, far and large, are not like me - turn what they do into, "what would a self centered moron do?" or "what would a pattern follower do?" Perhaps that sounds harsh, but remember not everyone can make patterns. This really helped me - the problem wasn't that I couldn't understand others, they couldn't understand me - thus the reason I had to date older and older woman, to find some sort of similarity - the old adage, "its lonely at the top" applies well here. Don't confuse this with high ego - its not - its more of a curse - naivety is bliss - don't look down on others because that's all that their capable of or willing to be.

my, didn't that sound grim? Now, lets look at something positive.

Going back to school was the best thing I've done to help my situation. I still dream and hope that one day, someone I may know, will have a series of epiphanies, that awaken their perceptions of the world, themselves, and of me - until that day comes - art and education are my substitutes.


Cheers
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ionlife
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ionlife (Age:36 to 45)      When: 6 months ago
Hard to say what is normal since 'normal' is a moving target in our society. Besides, I tend to question someone who claims they are certifiably normal. I always tell them, you may be certifiable but definitely not normal. :)

Some individuals are not touchy feely so there is nothing unusual about that. Flirting is also an art form and we all know that not everyone understands art, so nothing wrong with that either.

Becoming a hermit or pulling inwards for any long length of time however isn't quite the norm. Are you weird? Nope, quite a few people go through these stages. Are you mental? Depends on what color the walls are and whether they are padded. :)

The good news is that /you/ hold all the answers to the issue because your the only person who knows what goes on inside your head. You need to ask yourself what was it about the other people that made you withdraw for about a year and a half. Was it anxiety, was it fear, was it hurt, etc.

I think it also sometimes help to write out the feelings and just elaborate on them on paper as your mind and hand will slowly guide you down towards the right answers and the quite potentially the root cause of what transpired.
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MrFigueiredo
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MrFigueiredo (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
Well it's pretty cool to have and overactive imagination and creativity has well as an aptitude to think logically.
Now about not liking to be touched by other people that's also pretty average as well I guess there are many people who don't like to be touched by strangers, and with strangers I mean people we aren't used to see or live with, me for instance I have no problems with people touching however I can't stand "strangers" who can't keep a distance when they're talking to me and I kinda find that awkward. The bottom line is your a normal person (aside all that brain power) with stuff you like and dislike oh and about not being able to understand communication I'm sure it'll come to you in time ;]
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ConfusedOne
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ConfusedOne (Age:25 to 29)      When: 6 months ago
A. M. E. N.! I'm the exact same way. You basically just summed me up somewhat! Well, minus the hyper-active imagination. I don't look at is as being "weird" or "abnormal" any more, it's more like a blessing. I don't ever need to look at instructions when I'm putting something together or learning how to use something. I sometimes like being completely oblivious in the flirting game; I don't find myself falling victim easily to charm unknowingly and vice versa. And I get sick less because I don't let strangers invade my personal space! I like the way I am! Be happy with the way you are!
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Belleza
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Belleza (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
Yea kinda I am I have a vivid imagination too - its really hard to tell these days what they all mean since we have so many psychics around! Your basically tuned in with your intuition - our intuition which we don't use most of the time is a feeling - it's sort of a psychic feeling - basically when you research you are answering your own question as to opposed to someone who is not tuned, your dreams are visions which you try to signify and try to understand - don't try to understand it get in tune with it - balance it out and see what it means. About the touching - I get like that too - it happens sometimes - I really can't say why.
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