I'm dating this guy who is the most absolutely sweetest man in the world! He comes and visits me after he gets out of classes, takes me out and pays for meals, and he always spends the night at my house.
Well today, I had to leave early for work, so I told him to sleep in and eat cereal for breakfast, and when I came home from work today I discovered he had washed up all of my dishes in the sink and had taken out the trash for me, and it was soo sweet!
Problem? He doesn't want to be in a relationship with me, won't tell me whether he cares about me or not other than letting me know I'm a close friend. And we are soo good together! So what's the deal with him?
Um, if you are "dating this guy. " and he "takes you out" and spends the night at your house. Why do you not think you're NOT already in a relationship. I don't get it.
Are you saying the dates are "just friend" dates? And he spends the night in a non-romantic non-sexual way?
If so, this is kind of weird. He's sweet to you, takes you out, pays, sleeps with you but doesn't get any, does your dishes, takes out your trash. But ONLY thinks your friends? Hmmm.
I can say that I don't go on dates and take out trash for my friends.
He's either liking you but scared to say so. Or weird.
Lol. Well we used to be in a relationship together, now we are not. And we are intimate together still, but he does not want to be in a "relationship" with me, and ONLY tells me I'm a close friend, and won't give me anything more than just that. So it feels like a relationship to me, but he will only tell me as much as it is nothing but a close friendship. So that is why I'm confused. - 5 months ago
You are in a "relationship". He is just scared of commitment, a lot of guys are! I think, they think if they actually admit they are in a "relationship" it somehow makes things different. He is okay with doing all of the "relationship stuff", but just doesn't want to put a label on it. If you are okay with the way things are, I wouldn't push the issue. You know what it really is even if he won't admit to it!
With that said, is he "close friends" with anyone else, the way he is with you? If that is the case, I would say he wants to have his cake and eat it too! Then I would definitely consider changing the situation. But if not, I wouldn't worry about it, some guys are just like that!
Thank you! And no he does not have any other close female friends. He made a point in telling me he only has two friends outside of his family, some guy from highschool and me (and he hopes to grow more with me) So your reply just made me a bit happier and a little less pushy about the subject. - 5 months ago
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