Okay, if that doesn't clarify things, then please, allow me: I'm TERRIFIED! What can I do to get one girl on her own, and how do I stop my heart from exploding out of my chest when I see her?
How often do you see her ? If you see her often look at her until she makes eye contact with you . When she does crack a smile and say "Hi" . See how she reacts . Does she smile back ? If you get a good reaction from her you know you can go up to her next time . So, the next time you see her you can walk up to her again and say something like "hi my name is _______, I couldn't help but notice your beautiful (smile, eyes, hair,) I sure would like to get to know you better . Would you like to go out some time for coffee ? "
All this in front of her friends ? AARGH ! Okay, well I can do that, I suppose - minus all her other friends . Crazy thing is though that I won't consider a girl that I'm not friends with . It's just since I started liking her that things grew nervous between us - and I don't think she realizes that that's the reason . I do know her, but I want to get to know her better . - 9 months ago
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Oh well then if you all ready know her . How does she act towards you when you are around ? You could probably just ask her out sometime . - 9 months ago
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You should check out the article by SeanE entitled "How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection" Its really simple . Think about all the anxiety you are going through right now . It's probably driving you nuts thinking about it . That anxiety may last from one day to a month or more . Now if you just go and ask her that will get rid of the anxiety . You may get rejected but in the end you will know that you were strong enough to ask and that will make it easier the next time you want to approach a girl . - 9 months ago
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Rejection may be hit that hurts, but at least it does not last as long as anxiety . ANXIETY KILLS ! - 9 months ago
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Good point. Thanks! Don't you find it quite funny that it's the feeling of anxiety that can be the worst thing out there, and yet it can also be the thing that drives us. Often I've found that people are in love with being in love rather than getting in a relationship - they just want the chase. It's invigorating in a way, yet to me it's also incredibly terrifying. It's a catch twenty-two situation. - 9 months ago
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Anyone who is in a relationship that would purposely put their partner through anxiety is not worth it. When they want to be with them they will be with them. When they don't want to be with them they will kill them with anxiety. That is cruel and I don't understand why so many people put up with it. It could possibly be because their partner lies to them and that makes them feel like they are the problem. In all reality its the person who is giving the anxiety who has the problems/issues - 9 months ago
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It's hard to imagine that someone can be cruel enough to do that. Anxiety is really nasty.
Oh well, thanks for your answer(s) and take the best answer. I told you about the situation around this question, but I hope that this will help me in future. Hmm, this comment and the best answer means you get four points. I'm man enough to give points when they're deserved. You can catch up with Lesae as well. - 9 months ago
To answer the other question just go up to her there really is no way to be embarrassment free you kinda just have to be selfless. When or if you go up to her ask her cud you take a walk. Then just ask her
That sounds simple enough. Thanks. BTW, if you press the 'comment' button, you can reply to any comments. You don't need to go and answer the question all over again. One good thing about answering again is extra points for both of us, but it may be taken off by admin as spam if they see it as such. You seem to have answered a few of my questions today. I comment and agree/disagree with almost ALL answers. That should tell you who I am. - 9 months ago
Are guys really that terrifying? I always felt it goes the other way. Oh well. How do I get one girl on her own so that I can ask her out without embarrassing her, not to mention myself? - 9 months ago
I literally had tears in my eyes from laughing so hard after reading this answer. Thanks - I needed that around about now. Do I just walk up to her and ask her for the number? - 9 months ago
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Yes. That is the only way you are going to get it. Be bold and show confidence. You might become the pack leader one day. - 9 months ago
Yeah, I agree that it's stupid for girls to do this. But chances are, they're not thinking about how scary it would be for a guy to approach a huge pack of females. They're just hanging out and having fun with their friends, and it doesn't always occur to us that maybe a guy is trying to get one of us on our own. My only suggestion, other than just sort of waiting for the girl you're interested in to separate from the group, would be to maybe make eye contact with her and sort of nod your head to the side like you want her to come over away from the group so you can talk to her. I'm not sure a lot of girls could misinterpret that signal.
Another thing, if you know the girl and know her screen name, would be to talk to her online and ask her out that way. It seems like a cheap way out, but you're pretty much guaranteed to get her on her own. :)
I suppose I can't really expect girls to stop hanging out in groups like they normally do just because I am interested in one of them. I just get so nervous when I see her around and I can't get myself to calm down enough to make eye contact. She must think I'm really weird because we have always gotten on very well, but things changed when I started feeling like this. - 9 months ago
It's not their fault they want to hang out with their friends! I mean, don't you walk with your friends as opposed to alone? At least you aren't in my situation where I want to talk to a girl and my idiot friends are following me and acting like animals. Anyways, the only way you're going to hook up with this girl is if you just ask her, she'll probably respect you more for it, too.
I know it's not their fault, but they hardly make it easy and they complain when guys don't just admit their feelings. No matter what I do, something will always come around to bite my ass - either I do it in front of her friends and get even more scarred for life if I'm rejected, or I do nothing and get nowhere with her at all. I suppose she will respect me more if I just 'fess up. - 9 months ago
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