Lets say you start dating a guy . One day the two of you are talking and he mentions that his ex use to spill crumbs in the bed and it that it would drive him nuts . The ex wasn't happy in this relationship so she spilled the crumbs on purpose to cause an argument . Then like 3 months down the road you find yourself unhappy in the relationship but you don't know what to do . So you're lying in his bed and you are eating .
Would you spill crumbs purposely on his bed ?
Have you done something that you knew could potentially cause an argument ? And why ?
No that sounds completely immature. If I wasn't happy in the relationship I'd tell him and try to fix it and if nothing helped, I'd send him on his merry way. I also hate arguing so I try to avoid it at all costs. If someone doesn't want to talk to me as an adult, then they're not worth my time. But that's just me, I'm sure there are girls that would do such a thing because they don't want to speak their mind and some girls also enjoy seeing their s/o mad.
Sometimes I do things on purpose to cause a minor spat b/c I know the make up sex will be good later ;)....LoL
Seriously though....I try NOT to do things to upset my hubby...when we get in an argument sometimes he will say things to upset me on purpose and that really makes me feel bad so I try not to do that to him.I don't like it and it really just makes things worse.
I've done that once . Personally for me it worked . The guy I was dating told me that he used to hate it when his ex went off with her friends all the time and he knew she did that to give him the hint that she didn't want to be with him . I found myself in the same position, and ended up doing that . It worked, even though it was a bit immature . Guess if it works once its gonna work again, right ?
I guess it works but why don't you just tell him that you don't want to be with him? It's confusing when games like this are played. This is the reason why men always say "We have to read women's minds" because they act like this. This is also one of the main reasons that I do not believe that women mature faster then men mentally. - 9 months ago
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I know it was wrong now. Thats why I said I think it was pretty immature. But I guess at the time, I couldn't see any other way because I knew he wouldn't be able to see my reasons for breaking up with him and for some reason I didn't like the idea of hurting him like that and him not understanding, because we were already close friends. So I thought that would make it easier. It worked when it came to us breaking up, but it did cause an argument, which I regret. - 9 months ago
Why do people do things to upset their partners ? - 9 months ago
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I don't know, I did it because I found out I really hated him . It isn't a good thing to do . Sometimes we do it to push them away when we don't realize it . - 9 months ago
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When we don't realize what ? - 9 months ago
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That we no longer want to be with them . We push them away . His Ex use to eat cereal in bed . He hated that . So I started doing it . - 9 months ago
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But why didn't you just tell him that you didn't want to be with him any longer ? - 9 months ago
Whatever happened to originality lol well I don't think that's very nice because its the start of a trend and if she broke up with the other guy that left crumbs what makes you think she is not going to do the same??? positive things should be enforced to prevent vicious circles from starting because they can ultimately end a relationship that could have otherwise been the love of your life
Well that's the whole reason they spill the crumbs, because they are not happy. They want to end the relationship but, they are scared. And instead of expressing their feelings and trying to work it out like a mature adult they do things to piss guy off. They know what the ex did to piss him off so they use that strategy against him.
See, he knows what she is doing. So he asks, "What is wrong?"
She replies, "Nothing." or gives him another indirect answer. Therefor the problem is never solved. - 9 months ago
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Well I don't agree talking is way more simple and better and more mature i don't understand why people just can't do it but if your mad the best thing to do is be mature about it and try to solve the problem or brake things off and stop causing each other more pain and stress but just some people have no common sense or respect - 9 months ago
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And they say women mature faster than men. - 9 months ago
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Maybe they need to fix that but I matured faster and some girls just think they mature but the fact is that they are more childish than some guys or maybe they are just exposed to more just for the fact that they are girls - 9 months ago
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The with people is that most of them lack the ability to step outside of themselves and look at who THEY really are. Most people don't want to think about working on their own problems. But I have said it before and I'll say it again, the best part about being human is being able to change ourselves. Why wait for evolution :) ? - 9 months ago
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And I strongly agree with you if I person can't step out of his or her own head and see herself how can they hope to help and understand others whenever they don't understand themselves and I like your idea of "the best part about being human is being able to change ourselves. Why wait for evolution" I could not have said it any better - 9 months ago
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