So I know I'm a bit depressed and there's a guy whose new at my school this year and he has sad (seasonal affective disorder), so he knows a little about depression, but I wouldn't know if not for his roommate who told me, so he doesn't know I know . ANYWAY . We were getting to be pretty good friends . We weren't friends with the same people but when we talked it was good . We had one class together which he was doing really poorly in so I would help him a lot . One time he almost got me in trouble for it but I forgave him clearly and we were back to normal . before that happened though, once he had said 'you seem depressed . ' I denied it and he was like 'well if you ever need to talk . ' which is nice right . But then I texted him asking when he was coming back a certain day and he asked why and I was like 'remember you told me I could talk to you if I needed to' because I was feeling extremely depressed . He texted back saying 'ill be there as soon as I can' . When he got here he texted me . But i/we kept putting off meeting till much later . And finally we did and he was like 'what's wrong' like he was pissed . And I was thinking he knows what's wrong . There are people around what do I say so I said 'uhh I don't know you were the only one who ever asked . ' etc etc and then I gave one specific thing and he kind of brushed it off . And that was before the cheating incident so I don't think the cheating has anything to do with it because I forgave him and he went back to normal . but then he just stopped talking to me . And its been like that . (once HE asked to study so I went out of my way and then he blew me off but that's the most we've interacted since . Believe me if he asks again I will get my questions answered) if anything I should be the one mad at him but I'm not like that . He's like a girl, so dramatic . He's a player but we were just friends anyway . So now its always awkward around him and I don't like it . He probably thinks there's something really wrong with me . I don't want to bring it up again and I don't think well ever be as good friends but I don't want it to be awkward ! (did he like me and stop because it seemed like he cared more/in a different way than all the other girls, but I don't think he liked me so what was up ? Is he just a tool or retarded ? I don't think he wanted to get with me so why was he caring one day and not the next ? It really threw me off and made me feel like I was the wrong one)
I think that it is possible that he cared more for you . Not very many guys will say to a girl that if they want to talk, they can . I will do that as I also know what it is to be depressed (chemical imbalance) and to deal with it alone .
The second question at the bottom makes me think that you don't really care for him at all . A tool or retarded ? Harsh .
Caring one day and not the next ? Perhaps he feels that you have sent him mixed signals - you don't want to talk, and then you do all of a sudden . Then you continually put it off with him . Often if left alone, a depression induced issue (ie feeling depressed about something you wouldn't normally feel depressed about) will disappear . With me it's feelings of rejection and hurt from my past that I start reliving . When the depression is over, it is no longer an issue . Perhaps once you got to talking, it wasn't anything for you anymore and he was confused about that .
Perhaps you need to start acting like normal with him again . Once he sees that you're prepared to do so, he should react in kind . Study with him, chat with him, act as if nothing was ever the matter .
Hey I know this was from a long time ago but something else happened with this guy and since you've already read that maybe you can help instead of making someone else read the background. Ahah well so we were at an after prom thing and we hadnt talked still til he had to leave and he was pretty sober I think and I wasnt TOO bad but I was like wait here's a goodbye present! Its beer from Austria! (haha sorry bear with me please? ) and he was like aaaw thanks and after he gave me a hug but it was - 8 months ago
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It was just a hug and then he was standing to leave still after a while and he held out his hand for the handshake thing but he didn't really follow through with it lol I'm so sorry I'm giving you all these details and then he had to come back in and was like mel I can't take this incase I get pulled over so yeah oh well that's what happened. It'll be weird next time I see him. I know alcohol brings out the true whatever but what do you think this means? He couldn't have been TOO drunk so he knew what - 8 months ago
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What he was doing right? And it wasnt a special hug or anything but still compared to us not talking. I don't know. If you have anything to say to this or have a question if you want to bother reading that at all thanks so much I don't know what to do haha! THANKS! - 8 months ago
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Hey sorry I am leaving you SO many comments haha. I called him those things in question because I had a love/hate thing with him currently its hate haha obviously. And you said I need to act like normal with him. My problem is I'm really insecure, I know girls are all so insecure blah blah but I really am I and I feel like every guy I talk to doesn't want to talk to me I don't know if its the way I look or am or if its all in my head so I feel like if he's acting weird he doesn't WANT to talk to me. - 8 months ago
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I don't mind all the comments, really. I actually love chatting to people from all over. Sorry it's taken so long to reply to them. It's true that alcohol lowers inhibitions, and lets people do what they are really wanting to do. Not always a good thing, but that's not the point. The point is that it can be a bit like a truth serum, in that it can show you sometimes what someone really thinks or feels inside as it stops them from shielding themselves from opening up. The hug was genuine. - 8 months ago
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That hug though can be totally platonic as anyone can hug someone for being friends. Today I saw an old girl friend that I hadn't seen for six months (studying in Canada) and I hugged her to say hello. That was just a friendly hug, nothing more. You also need to think about what sort of hug he gave you. Was it full body press, or just a pat on the shoulder with arms around the neck. Full body press implies that he wanted more, and the other just means friends, nothing more. What was it? - 8 months ago
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