When I was a junior in high school, my maternal grandmother passed away after battling emphysema. She left her grandchildren and children money in her will. My issue is that my mom gave my money (as well as my sisters) to my aunt, who has always had money troubles. I know that she genuinely needed it, and that as I minor, my parents had legal control of my finances, but it REALLY bothered me that they took that money.
Am I in the wrong? I feel guilty about how I feel, my parents have given my siblings and I lots of opportunities, but my mom has always been financially controlling over us. Your thoughts?
i would be annoyed by it too. it was your money. she should have asked what you thought about it before she gave it away and talked to you in an adult way about YOUR money. so yes you have a right to be annoyed.
one thing I've learned is that money isn't real. society just decided that it matters and sadly it decides how far and where you can go in life. don't let them know it bothers you, not caring about money shows character. yes, she did leave some money to you, and being a minor at the time gave your gaurdians/parents control over it. and maybe it would have been more fair if they at least stuck the money in a college fund, or CD account to gain interest until you were of legal age. but the reality is that they put it towards a cause in which would help somebody in need. maybe it will do her some good and one day she may possibly repay the money and have a lot of appreciation and gratitude for the assistance. but complaining and giving them sh*t won't do any good. it won't make them repay you. I don't know how much money your talking about or how upset you are. but money comes and goes and there are many things in life that are far more important. sure I suppose you have the right to be upset, but it won't do any good. you'd probably feel better eventually if you just shrug it off and not think about it. the next time somebody brings up the money topic, just say "atleast it went to a good cause and somebody is better off because of it. it did more for her than it would have for me". I gaurantee the family will see you as very mature and selfless and will ultimately respect you more because of it. let your siblings have their own opinions, but let them think that it doesn't bother you. it will definently show character and you may feel better about it. I'm not economist or psychologist, I've gained and lost tmoney and feel that its better to just not let it bother you. anyways good luck. they'll be other financial opportunities later on. life is a lesson, you learn it when its through. take care : )
True, she did. But she was given her share of the money also. She calls my mom every once in a while asking for money. I understand you can't always help your financial security, but the woman had enough money to buy my cousin puppies. They have a house full of animals instead of a phone. I think it's a matter of sorting priorities. - 18 days ago
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Oh then yeah I know what you mean I would be sort of bothered by it then. - 18 days ago
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