Ok so I've finally got to the point where this girl isn't the first thing on my mind anymore. Finally got to the point were I can talk to her without feeling like my heart was being ripped out my chest. So I talk to her about what the heck went on between us like she has been telling everyone we know that she wants to do. As recently as last week she was complaining that I just had an attitude problem and wants to talk. So Long story short she tries to back out of talking. Says that's it's awkward. Tells me that she understands why I can't be around her and that's fine. I continue to say what I need to say and clear up some things on my end. Nothing mean, nothing hurtful. She doesn't really say anything but tells me she is sorry that she hurt me and that she does care for me...blah blah blah. On the other hand all she has been telling our friends is that she doesn't understand why I can't be her friend and be around her and that she wants to talk about it. So should I gather my friends and let them know she is a liar and has been either playing me or them? Should I let everyone know the two faced person she is? Should I "Nail her to the wall" with this? Or should I drop it and let them find out on their own eventually? Yeah I know this could be revenge but I'm wondering how long I should stand by and let her tell me one thing and my friends another? Especially since it's about me. Would this be a petty action?
I think the mature and proper thing to do is get her and your friends together and tell her to get her story straight in front of everyone. That way the whole he said she said game isn't being played and your friends won't feel torn between the two of you. She'll feel like an ass of course but it'll be because she brought it upon herself, and you won't seem like the vengeful ex boyfriend. Hope this helps and I wish you the best hun. From how it sounds, you're better off without her anyway.
Let her be. Maybe she's over analyzing and panicking in her actions. Not everyone is so level headed all the time. Especially with matters of the heart. I know plenty of people who have done and said stupid things they wouldn't normally do because they really liked someone. Maybe she says those things because it's what you want to hear and she's afraid to ask you to expound on it for fear it'll cause another argument. No offense, but in my experience guys aren't always so clear cut in expressing what's on their mind. Misunderstandings are inevitable if she's distraught. So, I think you should take a step back and give her some time to take in the situation without making it worse. Don't let your friends do the dirty work for you (I read your other question). She will talk to them and I'll bet it'll be to pass on how she feels and leech some pity. Your instinct might be to hurt her like she hurt you, but would that really make you feel better? If you're one of the good guys (and I suspect you are) you'll probably end up feeling like shit.
I'm not taking sides. Lol. Just trying to look at this in another perspective. All we get is your side of the story, so I'm taking a leap and thinking about her side too.
Well, in my opinion, even though I myself wouldn't want to be "nailed to the wall" by someone, I think you should. If she keeps backing out, that's probably not going to change. And, plus, you'll like getting your sorta-like-revenge right?
I would steer clear of this drama queen. She sounds like she wants to stir something up, I would cut the ties. And stick with your friends that DON'T lie. Plainly she just sounds shady as ef.
Be the mature one and just drop it you know what happened that's all you need if she had did that to you. You probably would have died emotionally. Socially. But I always remember and forgive
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