I don't think I've ever hated anyone because it's such a strong word and emotion and I don't think I've ever felt it before.
To me the word hate means that you despise a person so much it wouldn't matter to you if they dropped dead right in front of you. I see it as being full of anger and rage and disgust when you simply hear the person's name.
Hate is a funny thing, it's the opposite of love, I guess, but you can be "in love," you can love something, and you can a wholesome family-type of love. But Hate is so one dimensional in using the word during a conversation, you don't say "I'm 'In-hate' (like saying 'in-love') with so-and-so," you just say "I hate so-and so/ I hate this or that." And sometimes the person will continue on for a little bit about how much they hate, but the point was made that hate is present.
But you can have things that you are afraid of, or dislike that you hate to be around, like creepy insects or snakes or or whatever (just examples) for the sake of your own comfort, or you can really despise a person for who they are, or how they act. But if someone hates someone else, and there is no legitimate reason, just an "I hate that person-" then I see it as ignorance, and the person should really find the influence of that feeling and explore why it's there, and how it came to be there in the first place, or it's just spreading ignorance.
Brilliant explanation! I couldn't agree more! - 9 months ago
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Thanks:) - 9 months ago
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And like if I was to name something I hated, it would have to be more inclined towards actions and not so much as towards a person - I hate being lied to, being used, wasting time, I hate the feeling of dishonor over my own actions. Like - I don't hate myself when I do something stupid. I just "hate" what I did, the action. Now with other people, they can change, they learn from their actions, and if I want to give them the same respect I want in return then I hate the action, not the person. - 9 months ago
I tend to forget the names and faces of people that angered me greatly in life. As a grew older, I thought about hate and found it is the actions people take that are the things I hate. I don't hate the person. If the same person treated me well or was indifferent, I would judge them by those actions as well. So when someone does something that angers me these days, I always stop to think about why it happened, and I never really hate the person.
I don't think I could say I've ever really hated someone to the extent you are talking about. I suppose no one has ever really screwed me over that badly. I can usually get on with most people even some who many would think are extremely annoying but there are a few people that upon meeting I've taking an immediate intense dislike to. It actually worries me slightly because there is no logical reason for it but hate no.
Hate to me means the total absence of love. It means to wish nothing but harm and death to someone or something. I don't think it's possible for me to truly hate someone. Something, well that's another story. I simply can't feel anything but hatred for green peppers. Lol.
I don't think I've ever truly hated someone. Not even Robert Mugabe, who is the dipstick president of the country I was born in - Zimbabwe. He's buggered up the country, and as I type, he's rigging another election to stay in power. My family also lost so much because of him. But you know what, I pity him. I feel sad for what he's done, and still is doing. He truly has a lot to answer for, and I don't envy him one bit. I just feel sorry for him. If there was anyone who I could hate, it is him. Yet I don't. It's really strange this sadness and peace I feel rather than terrible hatred. I think that I've forgiven him, likely because I've been forgiven of so much in my life already.
Forgiveness requires more strength than hatred hun and I admire you for that=-) - 9 months ago
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Thanks. As I said, it is likely because I've been forgiven of so much that I can do so to him and others that have wronged me in life. I also think that forgiveness is easier with the more practice you get at it. I've done so much, although I had to do a lot to do so with 'Uncle Bob'. I can never, nor will I ever be willing to forgive green peppers, though. Evil things, those. - 9 months ago
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Green peppers aren't all that bad lol I have a strong dislike to onions lol - 9 months ago
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Lol. I suppose their smell is pretty bad. I can't be in the same room as a green pepper that has been cut open, much as I'd love to see it mutilated and then fried in boiling oil.
The news is just becoming clearer about the situation in Zimbabwe. It looks like Uncle Bob is out after a 28 year dictatorship (of sorts). He's now run to Malaysia - I doubt that many would let him live in Zimbabwe again. He's terrified for his life. I really pity him and the hole he's dug for himself. - 9 months ago
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See I'm a huge believer in karma and I think that's why I've never felt hate towards anyone because they get what's coming to them in a different way eventually. - 9 months ago
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Time catches everyone. South Africans have a huge amount to answer for after the years spent in apartheid. We're answering for that now with an economy that should have been massive, but isn't, and uneducated people left unemployed all over the place. I don't ever want to hate someone, though I have honestly come close to it sometimes. It's more a thing of hating what the person has done than hating the actual person. Time will catch them all out - Uncle Bob, Hussein, Stalin, Hitler, Amien, ALL - 9 months ago
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Absolutely! People's actions and outlooks usually come from how they were raised. If a person commits evil, it's probably due to a screwed up childhood. Hitler is a prime example of that. He hated Jews because his father was Jewish and had an opinion of Jews based off of being ignorant. The outcome of his hate was horrific, heartbreaking, and downright unnecessary. I don't excuse his actions by any means, however I feel that if he was raised with more love, maybe that wouldn't have happened. - 9 months ago
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Does that mean that you believe that people are the sum of their combined experiences? I kinda do, but I also believe that choices can influence that. Some people have lived really crappy lives, yet they also make decisions that change it for the better later on in life. Perhaps Hitler wouldn't have done all he did if he'd been raised with more love in his life, but he still chose the wrong path - a path he could have avoided as you can see from people that've had worse, yet lived better. - 9 months ago
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Yes definitely. People are products of their environments, and can either learn from their experiences and not let history repeat itself, or they can let their past overcome them and let the evil take over, as Hitler did. There are so many people in this world that choose the wrong path and it's awful. All we can do is pray for them and hope they see the light before it's too late and they destroy their lives, the lives of others, or both. - 9 months ago
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It's sad to see people that ruin their lives unnecessarily. Or just plain ruin them period. You put it quite nicely here. You can actually let history repeat itself, or learn from past experiences. I like that. It is funny though if you look at some families (okay, sad really) where there was a bad parent (drunk, abusive or even distant) and the child grows up with so much hatred that they want to change and make it better. They then take it to another extreme and maybe smother. It's strange. - 9 months ago
It is I think that each generation is a test of trial and error. We see (or don't see) where our parents went wrong and want better for our children so we do what we feel is best. Sometimes it goes to the extreme opposite, but there is usually improvement with each generation. I feel that at some point in time, a person finds the median and becomes the parent they want to be and in turn raises happy healthy children, and that breaks the cycle. I feel that I'm going to be that one in my family - 9 months ago
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Yeah, there's some things in my family that I'd like to see broken too. I might have had a great home life, but there are some things that I don't want my kids to have to go through. I want to be there for them. I just have to worry that I don't smother them or distance myself from them. That's the thing that I've had in life. One parent scarcely ever around and distant when he is, the other overbearing. Maybe I'll be that balance in my kid's lives. I still love my parents, though. - 9 months ago
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Well there you go, it's not about not loving your parents, just learning what you'll do differently as a parent. It's kind of like editing a film before it's made. It's an awesome power to be able to be the one that breaks the cycle and finds that balance. Everyone expresses love in different ways and you realize that healthy way that you want to express yours for your children. I don't doubt that you will be a wonderful and balanced father. - 9 months ago
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Thank you and that really means a lot to me. It's still a while off before then, but I'm glad for the vote of confidence. Parents have So much responsibility, and that's such a scary thing. I can't wait. *eager grin* It's a huge honor to stop something that's taken years to ingrain into a family. Did your folks have similar careers to you? If not, it's likely that they won't have had the same experiences. If they did, you get the honor to prove them wrong on some imperative decisions in life - 9 months ago
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My father(whom I haven't spoken to since I was 9) was in the Navy but got kicked out. This is my little way of proving to myself that I'm stronger and better than him and I won't let what he's done destroy me. The vicious cycle in my family is dead-beat/abusive fathers because the women were weak and made poor choices. I don't want to bring a child into this world until I'm happily married and I know that my s/o will be a wonderful father. I want my children to enjoy their childhoods. - 9 months ago
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Good for you even more than I said before (is there such a thing? Lol) You're doing pretty well at what you're doing, so you really can and are doing it. You're proof to others that they can too. You've shown that you're strong and that you can move on from whatever is in your past to create a good life that actually means something to the world. I have no doubt that not only can you be a great mother and have awesome, balanced kids, but that you will do so too. You've shown you can love too. - 9 months ago
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Thank you again even more than before lol seriously though! I have the same feeling about you(except you'll be a great father instead of mother lol) - 9 months ago
I think it's a rather scary feeling. That's all I can say. I spent most of my childhood hating someone in my family, hating and feeling sorry for occasionally. I sure felt hatred. But can't understand how you can feel sorry for someone you hate? I guess it's just human.
Well I can understand that because people sometimes do things that either they can't help or don't know any better and maybe feeling sorry for them is our way of trying to forgive so that we don't feel that burning hatred anymore. Thank you for your answer - 9 months ago
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I agree with your definition of hate to a T. I didn't think I would ever hate anyone in my life, but some events have led me to hate a group of people (a family) because they hurt my own family both physically and emotionally. They also spread vicious rumors about my family to the whole town.
To me, hate means the extreme of dislike. If you saw them in the street, you would have to get away quickly or you would be likely to take some drastic action. If you hear their name you feel sick and you can feel the anger bubbling up inside you and you want to scream out what you think of that person. And as you said, you couldn't care less if they dropped dead.
I do hate one person. He was my old step dad and he was the nastiest s*** that I have ever seen. I feel all those things about him. I'm not the sort of person to hate, or even dislike anyone. But I really do hate him.
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