Can I get mad at my boyfriend for watching porn all the time?

If he is looking at porn over having sex with you yes you should be mad. I would ask him what I'm even in the relationship for if he is looking at porn when he could be doing stuff with me.

You said that you tried talking to him? You should make him realize that he needs to appreciate you. I would start going out more, doing stuff without him. Don't just sit around and be neglected, if he isn't doing his job that doesn't mean you have to be miserable. When he realizes that you're not sitting at home being old reliable, he will probably get his act together and pay more attention to you.

Without knowing why you aren't having sex, there is a possibility that you are to blame for this.

Also, it isn't clear why you are with this man besides the free ride that he's giving you...do you love him? Does he love you?

Let me get this straight...

You are not having sex with this guy...
And he says he doesn't cheat on you...
And he buys you everything you have...
And he takes care of you "Well" in your own words...

And you are p*ssed that he looks at porn.

OK I had to go back and re-read your post cause it sounded like to me that you were getting EVERYTHING fron this relationship and he was getting the shaft. That might very well be the case because you do not give any detail as to WHY you are not having sex? Please leaborate before I finish this post.

Why aren't you two having sex?

Awwww I feel for you. I think you deserve better. But if you still see something in him, you should ask him to maybe not watch porn for a month. If he relapses, it means he is probebly addicted. Its a common addiction. I've suffered from it for about 8 years (I'm 19 now). With your support you can help him through his addiction. He needs you so much more then he knows.

First, learn punctuation. Did you realize you made that entire paragraph just one sentence? Guys like porn. Some can't get enough of it. Consider it a red flag that he needs to work on.

Why are all females jealous of this? honestly. If you hate it then join him to get an idea what he wants then surprise him. plain and simple don't think of it as bad. Realize its for his needs and learn what he likes so he focus's his eyes on you.

1. Sit down and watch three clips, from those three clips see what you can possibly do.
2. Go to the store pick out something you saw in those clips
3. Hide his laptop for 1 hour and tell him your all his for that 1 hour and he can do what they do in the videos.

its very simple, porn is out there because males and females like it. Learn from it and prove your more entertaining.

This question is asked time and time again. This a copy and paste of my answer from another question along similar lines.
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Porn + masturbation is different from sex.

I could quite easily be in the mood for a quick wank, without wanting sex. Masturbation is a purely selfish act that's 100% stress free. You don't have to worry about:
- Do I smell ok
- Did I brush my teeth
- I should have trimmed my pubes
- Is she enjoying this
- Am I going to fast
- Damn I should slow down
- Will this lead to a relationship talk?

And so on. You can just sit back and look at whatever fantasy you happen to like at that moment. The internet (and the porn) allows for us guys to fulfil our generally rapid fire switching of turn ons at will. For instance I might start of, say, wanting to look at Jennifer Love Hewitt pictures, and during the course of a wank, that migrates into big breasts - bouncing big breasts - jumping - skipping - jogging - girls on a beach jogging - sex on a beach. Within the space of a few minutes.

I honestly don't think the majority of girls understand that, or indeed how the male fantasies work. From what my girlfriend has told me, her fantasies when masturbating are long drawn out elaborate scenes. Her favourite is about being a saloon dancing girl in a wild west tavern and being taken by wild bill, the local bad guy. She's been masturbating to the same fantasy and imagined image for years.
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All guys are different. All guys have different porn tastes and levels. I LOVE MY GIRLFRIEND intently, but at the same time I still watch porn. My friend however, when he started going out with his now wife, he deleted all his porn on his computer (but did admit to watching it still online at times anyhow). Another friend of mine as more porn than the internet! (Seriously, spindles of dvds, all categorised) that he and his girlfriend watch.

Talk to your boyfriend about it, talk to him and say how it makes you feel. But in doing so, try to understand that porn to a male, and masturbation for that matter, is TOTALLY SEPARATE ENTITY to sex with a loved one. I cannot stress that enough.

Firstly, jerking off to porn is cheating. He's getting sexual gratification and fantasizing about freaking all these women who aren't his, so may as well be satiating his lust by sleeping with them, its practically the same thing!
Secondly there's not really much you can do...I gained freedom from bondage to lust and porn through God, but I ain't about to preach to you, lol. If you believe that he should get his sexual release through you alone, then you need to tell him that and hopefully he'll see the light, eventually

Girls who are jealous of porn kind of scare me. They seem like crazy jealous control freaks.

I think there is a little more here than what you are telling...b/c if he is the bread-winner? And you are "acting" like you don't want to do anything with him, you might want to jump off that high-horse really quick because a nude bar or a cheap skank is not far in his reach. If he is not "wanting" to do anything with you now that could be something else. You have to realize that unless you learn to be independent and on your own...you will always be that person or chick that depends on him. Are you a well kept or good looking chick? Are you working? Doing anything influential with yourself? Because you have to make yourself different and exceptional to the next chick...that is what keeps chicks around us guys. If not, then yeah...he will make you feel like you can be replaced...it happens. Looking is looking, if he is doing something with them then there is a problem...with him that is. But what drove him to that point?

Ok if he is watching porn and not having sex with you then that is way wrong and yes you should be mad. Not saying you should but have you tried watching it with him? You never know maybe the sex will be ten times greater if you do. Don't get me wrong I still think he is in the wrong. I kind of went through the same thing and boy do I regret it. And sometimes she reminds me of it too. Just to keep my ass in line.

If he has replaced real sex with porn that's called an addiction. If he just does it in his free time and still has sex with you regularly not a problem. its just recreational. Boys of this generation were raised on porn. its like a habit. for some a hobby. and as long as it doesn't interfere with him having sex with your or doing his daily routines then its harmless. heck sometime me and my girlfriend watch porn together, gets her in the mood

No. Don't get mad at him.

Try watching porn with him. Comment about how sexy the girls are and tell him how excited you are watching it. Talk about their boobs and ass and how interesting the position looks. Ask him if he wants you to do to him what the chick in the flick is doing to her guy.

If he does not respond, then talk about how sexy the guys is and how big his d*** is. If he gets excited with that then he may find guys exciting. (Does he like girl on girl porn?)

hey girlfriend... it's not that bad of situation..
try this..
umm. guys love porn oke.. it's nature..
try this.. when he is lookiin at porn..
ya kinda like caught him try making love to him at that time..
maby he wants sex at times that you cant.. you know..
i kinda had this prob a time a go..
try some new stuff..
ask him what he likes ..
and try to work something out..
thats my advice..
xjes,
me

I see three problems here:
1-Not much communication
2-Him looking alone at porn. This might stem from your attitude towards porn.
You might try looking at porn together and getting both in the mood for sex from it. Girls too look at porn, but very few will admit it (their omnipresent daddy wouldn't have liked is little daughter to be naughty: good girls don't). Just choose the kind of porn (and actors) that turns you on.

3-Not having sex anymore
If he only looks at porn from time to time, no problem, but if he prefers porn to sex he has a problem and should consult a psychologist or a shrink.

If he is your sugar daddy, then let it go and enjoy the ride. If you are hoping for true love, this does not sound like the real deal, prepare for a new guy.

The issue is not that he is cheating or not, it is that he is ignoring you, which is the number one reason that women cheat.

Good Luck,
James

you shouldn't get mad..get even..get some gay porno...something you know he won't watch and start watching it and let him catch u...see how he likes a taste of his own medicine...sometimes us guys need a slap of reality to realize how ridiculous we act...you are the only piece of meat he should look at and fantasize about...

Porn will make you or break you.. it can make sex life a hell of a lot more fun, boosts your imagination, helps with roleplaying, and when watched together? WOW.. porn and THEN fun porn-inspired sex is awesome..

or in your case.. ruin relationships.

If you have made advances and tried to sleep with him, he just might not be sexually attracted to you, in this case, it's time to explore other options but talk to him about it first and see if there is something deeper than a porn addicition that is holding him back

well when I read the title I was like dude you should totally talk and I don't know why you are furious I mean I would be and I may even think you should be but when you say he is like that being nice other than that I suggest you talk to him nicely reason that it makes you uncomfortable or offensive he should totally understand and if he says its not cheating it might as well I mean he's not paying attention to you but to other women that's my definition of it any way I just want to give good advice hope this helped.

It's not a problem if he wants sex and you're not willing to give it. A large selection of men watch porn when not having consistent sex.

It is definitely a problem if you want sex and he'd rather watch porn: it shows that he's more inclined to seek pleasure through voyeurism than actually having sex with his girlfriend.

This could be a result of his sexual personality or a result of his dissatisfaction with your sex life. There's no doubt you'll have to talk to him about it. The porn watching may be giving him a twisted view of what "good sex" is.

The next time you see him watching porn, then you need to walk into his room naked and make some lovin.

Look, I hate t sound conceded, but DO NOT listen to the guys below. Listen to this;

Guys get horny.

If you don't f*** him, he needs a release.

Porn is WAY BETTER THAN CHEATING.

I hate to be harsh, but either f*** him or don't complain. We have urges, and you should be happy he handles the faithfully.

Yecch! Get rid of this loser.

Well...a couple things here. First of all, if you two were still having sex and he still watches porn, I don't think that there is really anything to worry about. Men have an active fantasy life just like women do.

But, since you two aren't sleeping together and you are willing to, there might be some deeper relationship problems that you need to work through. I don't know how your boyfriend is...if he's receptive to talking, but if you can get him to open up about what's wrong, that could really save your relationship. However, a lot of guys hate talking about feelings and never want to open up. So, that could really be difficult. Best advice I can give, just try to talk to him.

Oh ok you should try to seduce him put on sexy lingere and prance around start takin things off little by little you need to show him you want him you need to keep him occupied and he won't watch as much porn don't get mad he watches porn watch it with him even if you don't like it and start to react what the girl are doing in the porn and maybe he will pay more attention to you.

Id be mad, its not right that he's not having sex with you and just lookin at other random chicks f***ing random dudes. If he'd rather look at porn that acutally have real sex there is somthing wrong with him.

if people watch porn for too long they start to rely on it to be turned on try putting a porn movie on and watch it together then screw his brains out while watching it you never know you may enjoy it. I know its nasty but try it. I was with a guy who liked to watch porn while having sex and it was great. though if you do have sex while watching it and he still doesn't give you what you want then don't put up with it, he isn't the only guy who can take care of you. girl do what's best for you.

if you guys haven't been intimate yet think you should sit him down and find out why. maybe you should stop accepting his gifts, don't make him think that he's in control all the time. you should hold some aurthority in the relationship. it's all about give and take and meeting each other half way. but boys will be boys and porn is their equavilent to a soapie

This is a topic close to my heart because I am speaking from personal experience.

YES, you should be mad.
Did you agree to his viewing porn? By the sounds of it, NO you did not. Especially not when it is affecting your relationship.
He's not having sex with you. His actions are SCREAMING that he wants other women instead of you. You should and have the right to be blazing mad. You should be asking him why he's even bothering having or trying to have a relationship with you if he isn't going to respect or want you. What are you - his pet? His keychain? His "only if there's nothing available or better" last resort?

He is NOT showing you the proper respect. He is NOT behaving like someone who cares about you or wants to have a relationship with you.

So he takes care of you financially. Big friggin' whoop. Does this mean he has bought you? No.
Does this mean he is buying your silence in something you don't agree with? Yes - if you don't voice your opinion it does.

Tell him you will stand for this no longer. He did NOT have your consent. Do you view porn without his approval? If you do, then shame on you. This should be a mutual agreement.
If it's only approved by one side and the other side is viewing without consent. When it is online porn, it is cyber cheating. MENTALLY, he is having relations with other women. So he is wrong to tell you he is not cheating.

If you don't agree with him viewing porn, then tell him flat out that you don't. Don't let him continue making you feel neglected, unloved, disrespected and victimized. You are worth more. If he doesn't respect your moral values, then obviously he is the wrong guy for you. He's in this relationship for himself.
If he truly cares for you, he will apologize and be more respectful.

If he continues to wish to view porn, then the two of you should talk about it and come to an agreement. I'm not saying give in by all means. I'm saying to TALK. Communication is key in any relationship.

Neither side should be doing something the other wishes them not to.

Men will always have an eye for other women. Sex will always make them drool. It does not mean that his heart is not with you. I used to think that porn was a guy thing and until I started watching it with my boyfriend. Sometimes watching it is funny, othertimes it gives us something new to try in the bedroom, and then sometimes it just gets the both of us arroused. All I can say is don't be mad at him. Instead sit down with him and show an interest. You'll find that its not bad at all. I guarantee you if you hop on him mid flick he'll forget all about those hoes.

The fact that he is watching porn exclusively over having sex with you is a big problem. That is an intimacy issue and no wonder you are upset. A relationship without sex is, at best, a friendship. Which means, you are back to being a single girl in a friendship with a guy. Your needs are not getting met and you have every right to want to have your boyfriend desire you and have sex with you. I don't know about getting mad, but you do need to sit down with him calmly and let him know that you did not sign on with him to have a best friend and a sexless life for yourself. He may be unable to change and you may need to face the facts and move on. If something does not change, eventually you will be tempted to cheat, trust me. Don't let this continue. Resolve it or move on.

My boyfriend did this a few times before I started living with him. I would come over and find porn all over his computer. Gross and annoying but then I started watching it too. Either with him or without him. He would be like "WHAT YOU WATCH PORN" even though I hardly did. Anyway to make my point maybe you could try watching it with him or even without him see if it makes him feel the way it made you feel. Good luck!

Porn is made for entertainment and to help people get off.No offense,but the best sex is always with ones self.Why?Because no one knows your body and pleasure like you do.It helps him to get off on his own and release.
Now another issue to address,is your insecurity and jealousy over girls he will never meet,touch,know or even speak to.
If you aren't offering him sex and what he needs and desires(and what you should want) he will find another of one of two ways to release,Masturbation(which he can get turned on by porn,pictures or whatever) or cheat on you with someone else who will please him(which it is never an excuse)

Seriously you have a right to be mad at him for getting off on some nasty porn than wanting to have sex with you. I mean if you were not letting him get any from you than he can watch whatever he wants. So what if he gives you everything let him know what's up. Maybe he will like the whole take charge aggressive side.

Why don't you watch porn with him...than you can begin trying things you see...this is how I actaully got into liking porn..i got mad at my ex boyfriend for always watching it, didn't no how to handle it, and said you no what let me just watch it with him, best decision I ever made..as we began havinse sex more, he watched porn less..and if he did watch it, I would watch it with him

well obviously your not satisfying him

No I don't think you can be mad at him because times have changed porn is no longer a taboo subject. I think he is watching porn because something is missing in your relationship. I personally don't mind porn and I usually watchin it with my b/f... makes things more interesting. But you and your boyfriend should really talk about sex, porn and what's going on etc. Maybe you need to spice things up in the bedroom like take strip tease lessons and buy a stripper pole.

1-do you give each other everything you need?
2-talk about it -dont settle if it bothers you that much-you need to be happy.
3-PORN SUCKS. I dated one guy who looked at it 6 times a day and lied about it-he was a big wiener. I'm not saying you should have sex if you're against that but I noticed when you're having sex the porn issue disappears. all hope isn't lost. good luck!